Some people say falling in love can make hearts and logic hostile. You agree? In fact, liking someone can sometimes make you do magical and unreasonable things. Be careful, uncontrolled love can actually turn against you. Want to know how to manage your feelings? Read on for this article!
Step
Method 1 of 5: Managing Feelings
Step 1. Improve your attitude and behavior
If you tend to be overly emotional and have a hard time controlling yourself, chances are you won't be able to follow the steps in this article.
Step 2. Understand that controlling your feelings is not as easy as turning your palms
Sometimes you even need extra effort to do so. Therefore, hit your expectations! Remember, not necessarily he also feels the same way you feel.
Method 2 of 5: Knowing Position
Step 1. Communicate with him
Feeling awkward? Do not worry. As long as he sees you as someone trying to be friendly, he's sure to be willing to respond to you. As awkward as you are, sooner or later both of you are bound to sink into an interesting topic. Trust me, things will get better in time.
- Don't bring up topics you're not good at; focus only on topics that you are familiar with. If you don't like football, don't talk about it even if you know he does. He'll definitely find it weird to keep talking without receiving a relevant response from you.
- Once he finds his comfort point, he will definitely be encouraged to talk to you more often.
Method 3 of 5: Dating a Liked Person
Step 1. Use moderate body language
Licking your lips, for example, should remind the opposite sex of the kissing process. But don't do it too often or you'll end up looking weird! Playing with your hair every now and then is also a powerful signal of interest, you know!
For boys: look him in the eye when he's talking. Don't look too sharp, but don't look shy either. Women love the pleasant sensation that appears on their bodies when they are looked at gently and slightly intensely. Do not forget to smile! Show deep, friendly facial expressions
Step 2. Give a signal
If you want to show him your feelings, don't force yourself to ask him out alone if you're not comfortable doing so. Instead, try throwing an implicit signal by saying, “Hey, my friends and I are going to a new restaurant next to school this Saturday. Do you want to come along? . But remember, don't give the impression that you're ready to accept rejection. Make invitations as casual as possible; you will surely receive a reciprocal signal about his feelings for you. In addition, you can also avoid the awkwardness that might arise if traveling alone with him. After traveling together a few times, there's nothing wrong with starting to ask him out on a date.
Step 3. Think of a fun date idea
Take him on trips to places he likes. If he likes watching basketball games, try buying two tickets to a basketball game in your city. If he likes a certain food, take him to dinner at a restaurant that sells that food.
Method 4 of 5: Dealing with Rejection
Step 1. Realize that you may also receive rejection
If your crush is giving you negative signals, then he or she is probably not the right person for you. Accepting rejection can be difficult, but at least you know when it's time to move on.
Step 2. If at any point you lose your interest, stop approaching him
Treat him as you would treat anyone else. As long as he doesn't like you, the situation will definitely be fine.
Method 5 of 5: Forgetting a Liked Person
Not everyone likes the feelings that arise in his heart. If you've decided to let those feelings go and get over the person you like (perhaps because you just don't like him anymore), here are a few methods you can try.
Step 1. Make a list of the things you don't like about the person
That way, you'll only focus on what's holding you back from dating him.
Give a signal that you no longer like him. If over time you manage to like someone else, make that fact as clear as possible
Step 2. Stay away from him
If you accidentally run into him, just greet him politely. Don't engage her in conversation and only speak when she asks first.
Step 3. If he asks you out, politely decline the invitation
Don't mince words! Just say that you are still looking for the right person and that person is not him.
Tips
- Find out what happens if there is a problem. If your crush is suddenly reluctant to talk to you, take some time to think about why.
- Don't be spoiled and always want to be around him. Remember, you have friends too! If you really can't stay away from him at all, try taking him out with your friends. That way, you can strengthen your relationship with him without compromising your social relationships with other people.
- For men: women like someone who is willing to approach and talk to them. They also love to listen, so there's no need to feel awkward if you sometimes feel like you're dominating the conversation.
- If your friends don't like the person, don't let their opinion influence you. If in your eyes he is a figure worth pursuing, why step down?
- Don't always agree with his words, especially if you don't agree. Men also like women who have different views from him; especially because these differences will highlight your true character and identity. Don't try to impress her too much to impress her.
- Do the wall clock test! Look at the clock on the wall, then quickly turn your gaze to it. If he's looking at you, his eyeballs will automatically follow what you're looking at. The result? You too will stare! This is an easy way to find out how he feels about you.
- Whenever one door closes, another will open. If he ever rejected you, it doesn't mean he will continue to reject you. Give him a chance to get to know you better; who knows he'll change his mind, right? Don't get lost in sadness after receiving rejection; remember, there will always be other people out there who like and are willing to accept you for who you are.
- Don't let those feelings rule your life! Remember, you still have academic and non-academic responsibilities. Do not let the feeling of love is too dominant so that it makes your academic performance decline. Set aside some time to think about it, but don't let your priorities get in the way.
- Remember, your love can disappear at any time. It's possible that a week or a month after reading this article, the interest has evaporated and you just want to be good friends with him.
- For boys: girls like someone who is able to start a conversation and make eye contact. However, make sure you don't stare at him all the time so you don't think he's weird.
Warning
- Constantly staring at the person you like will not make him like you. Instead, you will look weird in his eyes.
- Keep a healthy distance from him. Trust me, no one wants to be around someone who is too possessive.
- Don't lie about your accomplishments, personal belongings, or bands you like. Remember, you are allowed to be yourself! If you like rock music but he doesn't, there's no need to argue the difference. If you say "I like Aerosmith," and he responds with, "Ugh, I really don't like it!", give a neutral response like, "That's okay, everyone has their own tastes. So, what band do you like?”
- If your crush doesn't treat the people around him (except his closest friends) well, you might want to start looking for someone better.
- Don't keep an excessive obsession for him. Remember, you too have life! Don't keep talking about it either; over time your friends can get bored.
- Don't think that your world just revolves around him.
- If the people closest to them have negative behaviors or lifestyles, chances are they will too.
