Does your crush seem to have anchored his heart in another port? Trust me, it's much better to know the truth now than to fall deeply in love and end up hurting. If you want to find out if your crush is in love with someone else, try to really observe their behavior and words. Follow the steps below; surely you will soon find out the truth!
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Part 1 of 3: Observing His Behavior
Step 1. Observe the look in your crush's eyes as the person he or she might like walks up to you
Is he constantly following the person's movements and his pupils look dilated? Dilation of the pupils is a sign that he is feeling excited. Did he also look at the person, look away for a moment, then steal another glance? If that's the case, it's very likely that he does like the person.
- When in a group chat, try to observe how often he stares at the person; after that, try to compare the results with the frequency of staring at the opposite sex.
- Observe the eyes of the idol of the heart when he is having a conversation with the person he might like. Does he look the person in the eye or is he stealing glances? Or was he constantly looking around as if he was bored? If he seems focused on the person, it means he really likes him.
Step 2. Observe if your crush is often in the same location as the person he or she might like
Try to remember, does your crush always come to parties or drink coffee at a shop that this person often goes to? Was he reluctant to go anywhere when the person he might like was out of town? If so, chances are that he only wants to travel if that person has the potential to go to the same place as well.
You can also check the truth by asking if he is willing to come to a certain party. If he looks doubtful but turns confident and excited when he finds out the person he might like is coming, it's a sign that he really likes that person
Step 3. Observe if your crush always seems to be close to people he might like
If in any situation the two of them are always seen close together (whether intentional or not), chances are that your crush really likes that person and is always attracted to his side without realizing it. Watch out if he's always seen standing and walking by the person's side, or just looking for a way to get close to him!
- Don't forget the possibility that these two might just be best friends. To tell the difference, make sure you observe their body language when they are close together. Do they look excited and nervous at the same time? If so, maybe they really like each other. On the other hand, if they seem very laid back and carefree, they are more likely to be just good friends.
- Make sure your crush is always looking for that person, not the other way around.
Step 4. Observe if your crush looks more preppy in front of the people he might like
If he seems to be puffing out his chest more often, combing his hair with his fingers, tidying his collar, tidying his clothes, or even preening, it's a sign that he really likes that person. You should also be suspicious if he looks often in the mirror before meeting someone!
He might also fix his collar, straighten his coat, or make sure there are no stains on his shirt. All this he did because he wanted to make the best impression in front of that person
Step 5. Observe if your crush is trying to break personal boundaries with people he or she might like
If he's always trying to be physically intimate with the person (for example, sitting closer to him until their knees touch or doing light physical touch like pushing his shoulder), he's likely to like him.
- Observe her body language. Is he directing his chest and shoulders toward the person or away from the person? If he turns his body towards the person, it's a sign that he really likes him.
- Observe if she is always trying to make physical contact with the person (for example, touching an earring or lightly tapping her on the shoulder).
Step 6. Observe if your crush seems to be trying hard to impress the other person
If you like someone, of course you want to always stand out in front of them, right? That's what your crush does too! If he seems busy telling stories aloud, telling bombastic stories, wearing his best clothes, or showing off his French skills, chances are he really likes the person.
- Observe his demeanor change when the person he might like leaves. If he seems more relaxed and carefree afterwards, chances are he really likes it.
- Pay attention to how he looks when the person is around and not around. If she seems to be constantly in the mirror and fixing her hairstyle when the person is around, chances are that she really likes it.
Part 2 of 3: Observing His Words
Step 1. Observe if your crush is constantly talking about people he might like
If he mentions the person's name 10 times in a 5-minute conversation, chances are he really likes them. If he keeps repeating the person's words, relating each topic to that person, or recounting a conversation that took place with that person, it's a sign that he really likes them.
- Think about it: You're bound to find all kinds of reasons to talk about your crush, right? Don't be surprised if he does too.
- Observe if he keeps mentioning the names of people he might like on certain topics. If he's always saying, “Sarah thinks…” or “Sarah says…”, he's more likely to like the person and really value his opinion.
Step 2. Observe if your crush seems shy or nervous around people they might like
If he likes someone, there's a good chance he won't mention that person's name very often (or not at all) in front of other people. But you can still observe facial expressions and reactions when the person's name is mentioned (or when the person passes in front of him). If his facial expression looks nervous, his cheeks are flushed, or he seems to be avoiding the topic, chances are that he really likes the person.
Try to name people he might like and watch their reactions. But remember, make sure you don't do it too bluntly
Step 3. Observe if your crush looks nervous or stutters when he's chatting with someone he might like
If he suddenly seems confused, stutters, or even forgets what to say, he probably really likes that person. You also need to be wary if he looks different than usual, tries too hard to impress, or is even speechless because he's too mesmerized by the person in front of him.
If your crush is a communicative person, chances are he or she will have no trouble mastering communication situations. But if he seems too laid back and indifferent, chances are they're just friends so there's nothing to worry about
Step 4. Observe if your crush always laughs at every word that comes out of the mouth of the person he might like
If he does it when the joke he hears isn't very funny, chances are he really likes the person and wants to give the impression that whatever the person says is funny to him. Laughter is also a way to release some of one's anxiety; so if he often laughs around that person, chances are that the presence of that person is indeed making him nervous.
Observe how often he laughs when he is with other people. If he seems very responsive and always laughs at the words of people he might like (even though he doesn't respond the same way to other people), chances are that he does have feelings for that person
Step 5. Observe if your crush seems more alert around people they might like
Most likely, he will turn out to be more reserved, calm, and serious around the person he likes; this happens because he wants to make a good and positive impression in the eyes of the person. If he seems to be more careful about his words and actions, then he probably really likes that person.
- He may also be more resilient and reliable around the person. If he always complains about his bad test scores in front of you but never does it in front of that person, it's most likely because he wants to be perfect in front of the person he likes.
- Of course over time he will open up more to that person. However, in the early stages of interaction, he will most likely look more alert as explained in the point above.
Step 6. Try to observe the emotions that exist between your crush and the person he or she may like
Basically, what you need to observe is whether or not there is desire and attraction between the two people. If your crush seems nervous, excited, laughs easily, or suddenly turns into someone else in front of that person, chances are that he really likes them.
- Observe if your crush looks awkward, stammers, or is a lot more excited than usual.
- Be careful, the emotions you find may only be felt by the interlocutor of your idol. Before deciding to give up, make sure the person you like is also giving the same signal.
Part 3 of 3: Finding the Truth
Step 1. Browse social media of your crush
Take a look at his Facebook, Twitter, and other social media pages and notice how often he interacts with people he might like. If he seems to frequently comment on and/or like photos that the person uploads, sends links to their social media pages, or interacts regularly with the person (even though he rarely interacts with any of his other friends), chances are he does. Although he may be the type to be lazy to interact in cyberspace, at least you have a chance to find more accurate evidence by implementing this step.
Observe whether your crush immediately likes or comments on the photos that the person has recently uploaded to their social media pages. If so, chances are that your crush actually spends time looking at that person's profile
Step 2. Ask his friends
Another way to find out how your crush is feeling is to ask his friends. While this is a very risky move (especially since they're more likely to tell your crush about your actions), it's the only way to find out if it's true without asking your crush directly. Chances are, his friends already know the truth but won't tell you. But if you feel you're running out of ideas, this step is worth a try.
Remember, if you do, chances are that their friends will know right away that you like the person
Step 3. Ask your friends
Chances are, your friends can see something you can't; mainly because in general, third parties are always able to provide a more objective perspective. They may be able to tell if your crush likes someone else, or even tell you that you are being overly paranoid. Ask your friends to be as honest as possible and make sure they know that your feelings won't be hurt by their honesty.
If your friends don't know how you feel, try asking in the most casual manner possible. If they find out, just make sure they won't tell anyone
Step 4. Confront the person your crush likes
If you have the courage and know the person your crush likes well, there's nothing wrong with asking that person directly. If he claims to be in a close relationship with your idol, it's a sign that you should step back and move on with life without the shadow of your idol. But remember, he may not want to tell the truth and end up lying; therefore, make sure you also read his expressions and body language to find out the real truth.
If you don't really know or trust him, make sure you don't confront him face-to-face. Instead, enlist the help of someone who knows him better to find the information you need
Step 5. Ask your crush
If you want to get an answer that is guaranteed to be accurate, the only way is to ask the person you like directly. Of course you don't have to confess your feelings to him; just ask casually if he likes someone or not. If he answers "no" and his tone sounds serious, it means you have a chance to keep pursuing his love. If he answers "no" in a tone that sounds defensive or awkward, he's probably lying. If he admits he likes someone else, try not to look or sound angry and be ready to move on.
If your crush really likes someone else, don't turn around to punish or hurt yourself. Remember, his liking for other people has nothing to do with you; You can't control other people's feelings, can you? Trust me, one day you will definitely find someone who can see how special you are
Tips
- Don't keep asking him who he likes. He will most likely feel annoyed or awkward in your presence. Instead, continue to observe him and listen carefully to his every word.
- Remember, you can't control other people's actions; the only one you can control is yourself.
- Confidence is key. Instead of bothering him, try to show that you are special and confident.
- If your crush likes someone else, do your best to forget that fact and move on with your best life.
- Don't be too down on the fact that he already likes someone else. Don't stop being friends with him either! Just be yourself and try to spend more time with him. You can't predict the future, can you?
- You will definitely feel a little frustrated when you find out that your crush already likes someone else. But no matter how painful your heart is, don't lose control! It's possible that he approaches other people just to get your attention or to make you jealous, right?
