The qualities of good women have been discussed in religious texts and in the works of philosophers throughout the ages. While each source varies on the exact details, there are some general principles that most great thinkers agree on. If you want to be a woman of good character, here are some principles you can learn to get started.
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Part 1 of 5: Beauty
Step 1. Understand that true beauty lies within
True beauty is a good personality trait because true beauty develops from good qualities. Before you consider looking good, you need to look inside yourself so that you can truly become a woman of good character.
Inner beauty and good personality go hand in hand. If you practice the female way of life, you will also become a beautiful woman
Step 2. Let your outer beauty reflect your inner beauty
Keeping your inner beauty doesn't mean you can't have a beautiful outer appearance too. Beauty is harmonious, so if you are beautiful on the inside, you should also take care of your body and treat it with enough respect so that people can see your beauty too.
- According to Saint Thomas Aquinas, the three qualities of beauty are light, harmony and wholeness. Beautiful things shine, and their radiance can be seen from outside. In order for beauty to be complete, outer beauty must also be in harmony with inner beauty. In order to be whole, beauty must be both inside and out.
- This doesn't mean that you have to be as beautiful as a supermodel or that you really care about your appearance. This means that you should not be afraid to present yourself at your best. There is a certain amount of self-satisfaction that a person feels when looking at himself in the mirror and liking what he sees. Loving yourself enough to want that feeling is outer beauty in good and healthy doses.
Step 3. Don't use your outer beauty to seduce people
A difficult task for today's women is to balance the line between looking their best while also dressing modestly. You don't have to look shabby, but before wearing clothes, ask yourself if the clothes you are going to wear can tempt people to do evil in thought or action. If so, choose another dress.
- A revealing shirt may attract men's attention for a while, but a man of character is won over by a woman of good character.
- Although men are responsible for their own thoughts and actions, they are also visual creatures and tend to be easily influenced by what they see. Being kind enough and respectful enough to reduce another source of temptation for the guys around you is yet another sign of a good personality.
Step 4. Take good care of your body
There is a certain charge of goodness in respecting and taking good care of the body. Take care of your health by eating healthy foods and keeping your body fit.
Of course, you can still be a good-natured woman even if you're not in perfect shape or even if you indulge on occasional fast food cravings. After all, respect is a good personality trait, and that includes respecting yourself. If you respect your body, you should at least try to take good care of your body to stay healthy and avoid exposure to things that are harmful, such as drugs or harmful amounts of alcohol
Part 2 of 5: Other Outward Good Personalities
Step 1. Help others
While you shouldn't neglect your own needs, you should also consider the needs of others and be willing to help others in need if you can.
An obvious example is volunteering to help people in formal situations. However, a less obvious example is spending your time and energy on informal matters. For example, a woman with a good personality will accompany a friend who needs a shoulder to cry on, even if it means she misses her favorite television show or limited sale
Step 2. Be kind, kind, and generous
Kindness is more than sweet words and a friendly smile. To be truly nice to someone, you need to approach that person in a giving spirit.
Kindness means that you have to be the type of person others turn to for positive words and actions. It's not enough just to exchange sweet words when passing each other
Step 3. Complete the tasks assigned to you
Don't shirk responsibility. If you are given an assignment at school or work, complete it on time and without procrastination.
Another way to look at this principle is to call it self-discipline. Even if no one is supervising you and you may procrastinate on a task or don't need to put in your best effort to do it, you should still do your best to get it done and get it done right and on time. True good personality is found not only in the actions that other people can see, but also in the actions you take when no one else is watching you do them
Step 4. Use your money wisely
You may occasionally use money to buy pleasure, but overall, you should not use money irresponsibly or spend money recklessly. Frugality is a good personality trait.
- However, this does not mean that you have to be cheap or cheap.
- This means that you must meet financial obligations before using money to buy pleasure. In other words, you shouldn't spend money on vacations to exotic places if it means that your bills and debts go unpaid.
Step 5. Use your time wisely
Everyone needs time to relax, but overall, you should try to stay active rather than getting used to a lazy or slow lifestyle.
- Take time to relax and rest as needed, because you can only present yourself at your best when you get enough rest.
- However, don't stay active just to keep yourself active. You don't have to make a room messy just so you can stay active by tidying it up again. Don't intentionally do more work for yourself, but always be willing to do what needs to be done.
Part 3 of 5: Good Personality Inside
Step 1. Have faith
Traditionally, having faith has referred to faith in God or a religious principle. However, if you don't believe in God, you can still practice the principles of faith by being faithful to your pursuit of a good personality.
- An example of a woman of good character in the Bible is Ruth, who chose to follow the God of Israel despite her hardships, when it was easier for Ruth to return to Moab and worship the gods of her childhood.
- This story can teach valuable lessons even if you don't practice your faith in a Judeo-Christian context. Ruth had committed to keep her faith and faith in the God of Israel and was prepared to face the consequences, even though giving up was the easier option. You must also commit to your faith-in God, or in the goodness of a good personality-and stick to your commitments despite the challenges.
Step 2. Keep your body pure
Another way to interpret this is to respect your body. Treat your body as a valuable treasure and don't hand it over to others.
- Traditionally, keeping the body chaste means waiting until one is married before having sex. Almost all major religions would agree on this point.
- Even if you don't belong to any religion, the principle of chastity can still apply to you. Sex should be valued as something special that should only be done by two people who love each other.
Step 3. Be open
Instead of stubbornly defending your opinion, whether it's right or wrong, it's better to be open to criticism and suggestions. Consider outside influences carefully to determine whether they are beneficial or detrimental and take appropriate action.
Step 4. Use common sense
Women tend to be very emotional, and the downside is that emotions often blind or stop common sense. A woman with a good personality accepts her emotions but uses common sense to control her reactions.
Act on wisdom, not stupidity. This is a Bible principle taken from the book of Proverbs, but it can be applied to life even if you are not a Christian. You can listen to your heart for clues, but at the end of the day, you must weigh the situation with your mind, using the wisdom you have built up throughout your life to accurately assess the situation
Part 4 of 5: Good Personality at Home
Step 1. Respect your parents
Your parents were responsible for bringing you into the world and raising you into the woman you are today. To be a woman of good character, you have to show respect for your parents by obeying their rules when you were a child and by continuing to listen to and respect their ideas as you grow older.
If your parents don't treat you right, of course, this is a different matter. You have to love yourself as well as your parents, and if the best thing for you is to stay away from a abusive situation, that is the best course of action you can take
Step 2. Respect your husband, if appropriate
If you are married, you must love and listen to your husband. Marriage is a form of cooperation, and of course your husband is also required to respect you.
- You don't have to obey every command of your husband, but if you marry a man of character, he won't want to do anything that could harm you. As long as it's true, then you should at least respect your husband by discussing contentious topics and considering your husband's point of view before reaching a mutual conclusion/agreement.
- Loyalty is another way of honoring your husband. You have to be loyal to him, and never cheat on him.
Step 3. Be a loving mother, if appropriate
If you have children, you must put their needs above your own. Educate them by good examples and help them grow into men and women who are also good personalities.
- You must care for your children and provide for their needs, even if it means making sacrifices. For example, women and mothers who have good personalities will take care of their sick children even if it means contracting the disease.
- You should also discipline your children with care and wisdom so that they know what is right and what is wrong.
Part 5 of 5: Developing a Good Personality
Step 1. Focus on the normal, not the extreme
This is the first principle discussed by Aristotle. Too much of a good thing can turn into something bad. A good personality can often be found in the middle, between the two extremes of a trait.
For example, in terms of self-love. An extreme excess of this principle will result in narcissism, but an extreme deficiency of this principle will produce feelings of inferiority. You need to love and respect yourself in order to show love and respect for others, but you need to love yourself within normal limits, so that you don't overdo it either by being too narcissistic or by being too low-key
Step 2. Be committed to the good life
If you really want to be a woman of good character, you need to prepare yourself for a lifelong commitment. The good life is not an act you can do for just a few days. True good personality is a lifestyle.
Step 3. Practice having a good personality until it becomes a habit
You can commit to living the good life without becoming a perfect good-natured woman overnight. The best way to create a good personality in yourself is to practice good behavior so often that it becomes a new habit.
