Whoever you are, male or female, homosexual or heterosexual, you know that while physical intimacy with your partner can strengthen love and affection, it can sometimes be a source of stress. When we open up to a partner through physical affection or sex, we make ourselves emotionally vulnerable, so any mistake or adversity will be far more painful than it would be in any other aspect of our lives. Therefore, issues like this should not be ignored, as physical intimacy issues can cause serious strain in a relationship.
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Method 1 of 2: Building Intimacy
Step 1. Try to be comfortable showing affection gradually
If you are inexperienced in performing acts of physical affection with a lover or partner, don't overdo it right away! It's a powerful recipe for confusion and heartache. Instead, go slow by building a sense of physical affection by showing small (but meaningful) affection, then move on to more serious forms of affection gradually. Remember, the emotions involved in physical intimacy are very strong and real, so don't rush into intense physical intimacy until you're both comfortable with less intense intimacy.
Step 2. Do activities that promote physical closeness
If you're not sure how to start a physical relationship with your partner, start small. Doing an activity that requires both of you to be physically close is the perfect way to ease the habit of being physically affectionate with your partner, it can even be the start of another physical intimacy. Try watching a movie while hugging each other, riding a roller coaster together, riding a motorbike, swimming or jet skiing, or anything else that requires two people to be close to each other. Even a casual sitting position that makes your feet touch your partner's feet will be more intimate than nothing. Everyone has to start from one point!
Step 3. Enjoy an intimate embrace with your partner
When you feel comfortable with each other, chances are that you and your partner will naturally start to cuddle or snuggle into each other's arms. Relaxing when you hug your partner is an often underestimated way of relaxing, but it's great for strengthening the physical bond between the two of you.
Don't think of cuddling with your partner as a waste of time-as your relationship gets more serious, you may wish you had more time to do it
Step 4. Hold your partner's hand as a sign of affection
Holding hands may sound childish and common to experienced flirts, but it's a great way to show simple affection, especially in situations where there's no need for overt affection. For example, it is socially acceptable to hold hands to show affection in public, while actions such as kissing can be considered disgusting. Holding hands can also be done when other forms of physical intimacy are impractical, such as when the two of you are crammed into the back seat of a crowded car. Although holding hands is not a passionate and fiery form of intimacy, it can be done at any time.
Step 5. Kiss your partner to show passion, but don't be a burden
A kiss is an important moment! Kissing your partner is a big step up from holding hands and cuddling. A kiss is a way of showing that you really love your partner and want him or her, so your kiss should be full of feelings. When you kiss your partner for the first time, ideally you should be so passionate about your feelings that it's hard not to kiss them. It's unrealistic to assume that all couples will experience the perfect first kiss, or even perfect kisses throughout their relationship, so don't be overwhelmed by one kiss. It's a good idea to think of a kiss as an expression of love that is fun and enjoyed by both of you, as it should be.
Step 6. Do it casually or while joking
You shouldn't be intimidated by the prospect of physically making out with your partner-if you do feel intimidated, you may want to talk about the issue frankly with them. Physical intimacy should be an opportunity for you and your partner to feel good, not just a show of affection, so consider showing your affection lightly and pleasantly. "Teasing" your partner is a great way to lighten the mood-try tickling them while you're hugging them or pretending to hold your kisses while they're kissing. Flirting is a way to start physical intimacy with mild passion, as long as it's done with good humor and takes into account any frustration or irritation that may arise from your partner.
Step 7. Stay healthy and always happy
It's worth mentioning that your attitude isn't the only thing that affects whether or not you can have a physically intimate relationship with your partner. For example, you should also pay attention to personal hygiene. It can't be compromised - if you smell bad, physical intimacy won't work, no matter how romantic you are. You also need to pay attention to physical fitness so that you feel and look good when you are with your partner. On the emotional side of intertwined intimacy, you essentially need to deal with significant sources of everyday stress when it occurs, as stress has a profoundly negative impact on your ability to enjoy physical intimacy sessions.
- Exercise regularly. Research shows that regular exercise can actually make you feel better, because exercise releases chemicals called endorphins into the brain. Endorphins help produce a euphoric sense of satisfaction, so you're in the right mood for physical intimacy. As an added bonus, regular exercise also helps you become more fit and attractive!
- Don't be afraid to talk about the mental stress you face in life with other people-including trained professionals. In addition to friends, loved ones, and trusted figures such as teachers and chaplains, a counselor can also help you talk about any issues that are stressing you out and/or interfering with your ability to enjoy satisfying physical intimacy.
Method 2 of 2: Bedroom Intimacy
Step 1. Rethink your attitude about sex
Physical intimacy in the form of sex is not about performance, duty, or competition. Sex is the purest expression of your love for someone and is a way to strengthen the bond between you and him. At the very least, sex should be fun, relaxing, and satisfying, not stressful! Don't assume that sex is something that has to be done a certain way, otherwise it's not "good." Instead, think of sex as an opportunity for you and your partner to be yourself. This attitude also applies to the way you view your partner-he is a person who has his own unique likes and dislikes in sexual relationships.
For example, let's say there is a male and female couple who have intimacy problems because the man is worried about his abilities as lovers. She has wrong assumptions about masculine prowess-basically, she thinks it's a man's job to be an "active" and "experienced" partner. Ironically, it is this worry that is preventing him from gaining the experience and confidence he needs to be the best lover he could possibly be. If he views sex as a form of self-expression rather than as an opportunity to fulfill his assigned role as a man, he may enjoy it more
Step 2. Make time for romance
Sex is just like any other skill or hobby – putting time and effort into it can make it better. You may want to take advantage of a "traditional" romantic setting, such as lighting an aromatic candle, drinking a glass or two of wine, having a passionate and passionate conversation on the sofa, to enjoy the intimate moments of the moment. Or, you'd like to try something a little more out of the ordinary, one that works for both of you as a couple. All up to you. Know that whatever you choose, the atmosphere you create will bring you and your partner a very happy and satisfying moment of love.
Step 3. Learn how to massage
Massage is great for showing affection, as a method for pre-sex play, and as a way to bond with your partner. You can use a neutral oil (such as grapeseed oil), especially if you or your partner have allergies. But otherwise you have the option of using a scented lotion or oil, many couples prefer this. Comfortable sensations and aromas can be both calming and arousing.
Touching and being touched are both important, so learn how to give as well as receive! If you're so nervous about a massage that you can't stop yourself from giggling, try relaxing beforehand with some light exercise or a hot bath
Step 4. Talk about sex openly and communicatively
Talk to your partner from time to time to find out what he likes and what he doesn't. Many people are shy about expressing their deepest passions during the heat of sex, so in this case, talking about sex outside of the session itself is very important to ensure both you and your partner are satisfied.
It's a good idea to get in the habit of focusing on your partner's satisfaction. If both people in the relationship have the same focus on giving, sex can be a very satisfying activity and strengthen the bond
Step 5. Get into bed at the same time
It may seem easy, but with the demands of work (and parenting, if you have kids), many couples don't have the opportunity to get into bed at the same time. Getting into bed with your partner not only opens up opportunities for love (although they do), but also opportunities to pour out your heart and tell your partner, to build a close bond between the two of you. Most of the spontaneous and most honest conversations happen in bed, because bedtime conversations are the only times no one is guaranteed to hear. Sacrificing this special moment means sacrificing a great opportunity for intimacy both physically and emotionally.
If your schedule doesn't allow you and your partner to get into bed at the same time, try to spend at least some time in bed together-before your partner gets out of bed, for example. Also, have some kind of way for your partner to show that he's "in the mood" so you can make sure you're in bed with him when that happens
Step 6. Spend plenty of time warming up before making love
Flirting, kissing, making out, and other foreplay techniques are instrumental in increasing the satisfaction that you and your partner can achieve from sexual intercourse. Foreplay is also the perfect way to find out what your partner likes, as most people are more sexually open when they're passionate. Don't rush things slowly so you can really enjoy every moment of it.
Step 7. Don't force something that makes your partner uncomfortable
Experimenting during sex is amazing. This is a great way to broaden your horizons as a couple. However, if you do this without considering your partner's feelings, you may only end up hurting him or her a lot. It's okay to introduce new ideas to your partner, but never try to force your partner to do something they don't want to do. Forcing a partner will only cause regret and irreparable damage.
Step 8. Don't try to push your own limits
Just as it's important that you don't sue your partner sexually, it's equally important not to let him or her sue you. Never once feel that you have to express physical affection in a way that you are not comfortable with. Rushing into sexual situations when you're not ready can only leave emotional scars that are both painful and confusing. If your partner asks you to perform a sexual act that you're not prepared to do, don't force yourself to do it out of a sense of obligation or a desire to please your partner. A partner who is kind and appreciative of you will be more than patient and understanding. Over time, as you gain confidence in your sexual relationship, you may find that you are interested in trying new things that previously frightened you. Listen to your own inner voice and never feel that you need to compromise in this matter.
Step 9. Indulge your curiosity and fantasy
With patience, time, and respect, you will eventually become more comfortable and confident in your sexual relationship. Once you and your partner's love has developed, you can begin to share your deepest fantasies (and perhaps make them come true). As long as the fantasy is fun, satisfying, and done in a way that maintains love and respect on both sides, there's nothing wrong with experimenting.
Tips
- You will only be a happy couple if you are truly comfortable with the person you are with.
- Physical relationships go both ways, just like conversation. Know what your partner likes and try to please him as much and as well as he pleases you.
- One night romance may seem like fun, but meaningful sexual intercourse only happens when we do it with someone we love.
- Naughty talk can bring you both closer. If you talk naughty, both of you will tend to think naughty things, you'll want them more and more, and if you talk about them, it can encourage you to actually do them. A good way to start talking naughty is to play question and answer. You ask questions, he answers, take turns. You should be able to develop the game from simple questions to naughty ones. If you're a guy, fear not, women are actually more "naughty" than you think, you just have to find a way to relax him.;) You can also get information from this game. What he doesn't like at the moment, what excites him, and so on. Either way, naughty words can speed things up (talk about it on Facebook or some other means, it can just get looser).
Warning
- Never allow yourself to be persuaded to engage in any sexual act before you are ready. Take the time to get to know someone before you physically bond with them, and make sure that you really want that. Never allow someone to pressure you.
- Make sure you practice safe sex! Make sure you use a condom, to help protect your partner and yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (transmission of sexually transmitted diseases is still possible even if you use a condom).
