Role play with a partner can restore passion in a romantic relationship, and restore the spirit of your sex life. Many people are afraid of role-playing out of shame or embarrassment. It is possible that this experience was pleasant and satisfying for you. All you need to do is talk about your fantasies with your partner, make plans, prepare scenes, and act to your heart's content. Make sure you keep the role-playing light and fun!
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Part 1 of 4: Choosing a Role
Step 1. Share your erotic fantasies with your partner
Try lying down together one night and ask your partner to share their sexual fantasies with you. Then, you can share your fantasy. This is a great way to pave your way into role-playing and be a sexy experience for both of you.
If you're too afraid to bring up the idea of role-playing in a one-on-one conversation, try sending an email or text containing your erotic fantasies
Step 2. Pretend you've never met before
If this is your first time role-playing with a partner, it's best to keep it simple. Don't choose a complicated role that requires a lot of acting. Try to pretend that you don't know each other and that you're meeting for the first time. Meet at the restaurant for dinner and stay at the hotel afterwards for some role-playing fun!
Step 3. Experiment with power dynamics
Choose a role that allows you to combine several different power dynamics. This type of sexual role playing is powerful enough to stimulate many people. For example, you could try the roles of Lecturer/Student, Doctor/Patient, or Police/Criminal. In each type of scenario you can combine light punishments for all "naughty" behavior.
Step 4. Choose a role based on your favorite character
Some people borrow ideas from their favorite fiction or television show. This role is usually in costume, but is a lot of fun to play. Try imitating sexy scenes from Game of Thrones, or create your own erotic versions of stories like Twilight, The Lord of The Rings, or any superhero movie.
Part 2 of 4: Creating Boundaries
Step 1. Discuss why this role excites you
Once you've decided on the role to play, it's important that you discuss what from these scenarios excites you. This helps ensure that your fantasy plays out the way you want it to. For example, many people have faculty/student fantasies, but some prefer punishment scenarios involving a ruler and a slap in the buttocks, while others enjoy plaid skirts and illicit relationships.
Step 2. Define boundaries
Before you and your partner get too deep into character, it's important for each of you to know what you're comfortable doing. This is important, especially if you are taking on a penalty scenario. For example, you may feel aroused with a light butt slap, but suffocating is completely unacceptable. On the other hand, you can also be strict about not having anal sex or using certain sex toys.
- Discuss with your partner openly and honestly.
- If you're embarrassed to discuss these details in person, try bringing them up by email or text.
Step 3. Set a safe word
To make sure that role-playing doesn't go too far, you have to define the word safe from the start. If this word is mentioned, role-playing will be paused and signal that one of you is not comfortable with the situation. Choose words that won't come naturally when role-playing.
Part 3 of 4: Setting the Scene
Step 1. Try on a costume
Costumes can make it easier for you to explore characters and add to the fun of role playing. Depending on the type of role-playing you're doing, these costumes can range from sexy underwear to real doctor and nurse uniforms.
- For starters, it's best to choose a simple costume. For example, you can wear a wig or experiment with makeup.
- You can also grow or shave facial hair, or wear clothes that are not your usual style.
- Minor physical changes can make you feel like someone else, and help deepen your character.
Step 2. Use props
Certain props can also help you deepen your character. For example, when you role-play as a masseuse, try lighting aromatherapy candles and playing relaxing music. If you're a cop, try getting fake handcuffs ready.
Step 3. Select the appropriate location
Location can also help build the atmosphere when role-playing. Try booking a hotel room for a night of role-playing if you're pretending to be strangers meeting each other for the first time. You may also feel more comfortable role-playing in completely unfamiliar places. If you're trying for a more difficult role, you can also use your own house so you can decorate it or include props to complete the scene.
Part 4 of 4: Role Playing
Step 1. Try not to put too much pressure on the act
Remember, no one is judging your acting. It's natural to be nervous at first. However, don't put too much pressure on yourself. It's best to get into a well-known role so that the dialogue runs smoothly. For example, if you have worked as a nurse, you may be more comfortable playing the role of a healthcare professional.
If you feel confident in your acting skills, try a more complicated role and speak with an accent
Step 2. Acknowledge awkward moments and continue role-playing
When playing for the first time, sometimes you can get away from your character and laugh. This is good and should not be taken as a spoiler of the experience. Laugh a little and continue the play scenario. Your nervous laugh will go away in no time.
Step 3. Take your time and don't rush
In the end, you may realize that in role playing, planning and anticipation can be just as sexy as the original. Enjoy your intimate activities and take it slow.
Tips
- Following all role-playing activities, you should talk to your partner about what he likes and hates. This open and honest communication will nourish your sexual life and help strengthen your relationship as a couple.
- Halloween or other costume parties can be great for role-playing. Take advantage of your costumes and have a fun night out with your partner.
- If you have children, ask them to stay at a friend's or relative's house. Thus, your attention is not distracted and afraid to wake the child.
- Try to keep some details from your partner. For example, you can buy a wig and surprise your partner with your new look. This kind of surprise will add to the fun and excitement of the evening.
- Try choosing a role that fits your style in bed. For example, the role of a student is not suitable for your dominant husband to play in a lecturer/student scenario. Find a role that suits you.
