Who are you? What makes you special? For some, this can be a question that makes them anxious and stressed. But being special or special doesn't just mean being very outstanding, or "better" than someone else in terms of ability or skill. To be special means to be appreciated. loved. If you want to stand out in front of people and be recognized as special, you can learn to develop yourself and respect yourself. You can also learn to stand out and make yourself a special and memorable person who deserves the admiration of others as well as yourself.
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Part 1 of 3: Be Yourself
Step 1. Find yourself
No one can tell you how to be special. Being special means finding the uniqueness that defines who you are and working to develop that identity. Whatever you call this self, you have to acknowledge and love it, and build yourself up. This takes effort. What does it mean to be who you are? Who are you? you how can you be the best version of yourself? These are all some of the questions and problems that always arise in your life. Keep this thought experiment in mind to try to get you to think in the direction of self-discovery.
- When do you feel completely detached and light? What makes you feel good?
- Describe what an ideal day would look like for you? What should be in it?
- What occupations or qualities do you have that others praise? What can you do well?
- Describe something or someone you once disagreed with. What difference do you have?
- How would you change yourself if you needed to and could? Why?
Step 2. Make a list of personal values
Knowing your personal worth can help you become more personal and live in a way that makes you happy. Take some time to think about what your personal values are and then write them down. After that, arrange them in order from the most important to the least important. Some things you can do to make this list include thinking about your times:
- Feel the happiest. For example, if you feel happiest when you are surrounded by friends and family, then healthy relationships are one of your personal values.
- Proud. For example, if you feel proud when you graduate, it means that education is one of your personal values.
- Satisfied and fulfilled. For example, you may feel satisfied and fulfilled after a productive day at work. If so, hard work is probably your personal value.
Step 3. Find the special characteristics that other people have
What does it mean to be special? Pay attention to people you think are exemplary, outstanding, or special and find out what key characteristics they have that make you think they're special. You may think that people who stick to themselves are special, or people who are very committed to their work, or people who stay calm in the midst of difficult times. The definition of a special person varies from person to person, so focus on figuring out what you value and respect in your grandparents, friends, or loved ones, not what other people say.
- Don't use celebrities as role models for this and pay attention to the people you know in your life. You get nothing out of knowing that Brad Pitt is special because he's rich and handsome, but it's hard to identify or know who he is. We can only see the persona in public, which exudes the idiosyncrasies of a movie star, not the real person.
- High authority or position does not always make someone special. If someone has authority over you, is more successful than you, or is more famous and respected, that doesn't mean you should imitate them.
Step 4. Take off your mask
We all wear masks. When working, you may wear the mask of a professional employee. Then when you meet your boyfriend after work you will change your mask to be a good boyfriend. Then you will change the mask again depending on the situation and needs. As you begin to discover who you are, this mask will become less and less useful. If you want to be special, let everyone see what's behind your mask, which is who you really are.
- To figure out how dependent you are with the masks you currently have, try to think of a time when you felt inadequate and fake. What's the situation? What do you feel?
- Check your Facebook and Twitter to see if you are also trying to use a mask online. People always want to project a certain image to others through social media in various ways. Most of these projections are false. You don't get the actual version of the person.
Step 5. Watch and watch your ego
The desire to be special is usually the desire to be recognized by others. We all want to be appreciated, seen as successful and happy people who should be admired. But being special doesn't mean being extraordinary at everything. You don't have to be the best tennis player, or the author with the most book sales, or the most successful lawyer. You just have to be yourself and have integrity about it. Satisfy yourself, and don't use the satisfaction of others to enlarge your ego.
Psychologists will often refer to inner and outer control centers. Someone who has internal control will find satisfaction from himself and look for ways to satisfy himself when working and acting. A person who has an external control center will look to others for satisfaction. Which one are you?
Step 6. Surprise yourself
Truly special people are always changing and are surprised to see themselves growing as individuals and being able to develop who they are. If you want to be special, think back to what you've accomplished and done so far, and get a new perspective on it all.
Keep learning new skills, reading new books, and challenging yourself. You are never too old, too smart, or too experienced to change and learn something new. You are never too special to be wrong
Part 2 of 3: Stand Out
Step 1. Practice for 10,000 hours
Many people are born talented, but that's not what makes someone special. Developing one natural skill can help, but everyone needs to work hard to build that skill and talent into something special. Focus on yourself and develop your skills and talents by working hard and practicing until you become very good at it.
- Author Malcolm Gladwell wrote a book explaining the "10,000 hour rule" in his book Outliers: The Story of Success, that people who are successful and show something truly special work hard to be special. It takes up to 10,000 hours of practice to develop skills until you can become a true expert and specialist in the field.
- Focus on growing yourself and working, not on finding ways to become special quickly. Your first piece of writing or short story might not immediately become the work of a genius, but that's okay. Keep practicing and working hard. Over time, you will get better and better.
Step 2. Be a lion
Special people don't wait for something to happen but just go ahead and make what they want happen. Find out what will satisfy you and make you feel better, then figure out what you have to do to get it. Do not hesitate when trying to achieve your goals and achieve them with hard work. Get what you want.
Don't look for reasons why you can't do it. People who are not special will talk a lot about the past and speculate. Don't let such thoughts pop into your head
Step 3. Don't hide yourself
Show who you are. Be who you really are, whether you're alone or out in public. If there's a part of you that you haven't shown others yet, try to open up more. If you tend to be quiet and passive, be brave enough to have an opinion when you need to.
- Don't just accept and say "yes". If you don't agree with something, say so. Others will appreciate someone who is willing to speak up and is not afraid to seek the truth. If you are among people who want to fulfill their ego from others, then you could say the people around you are not special and you should leave or stay away from them.
- Being open doesn't mean letting everything in your head just come out. You just don't have to be too quiet and keep all your thoughts even if you feel like you have to talk, think, or act. If you feel the need, say so.
Step 4. Surround yourself with new people
It's always a good thing to be around people you know and can make you feel comfortable with. But a special person is always looking for differences and new things and wants to see and understand different kinds of people. Be a person who can listen well.
- If you're young, trying out a part-time job can be a great learning experience and place as well as an opportunity to develop your empathy skills. Try to find a part-time job or freelance work and do it well and seriously.
- Spend your time with people who have different religious, political, and moral views. Don't try to convince people they are wrong, try to understand them. Open your mind.
Step 5. Develop your own style
Make yourself feel more confident and special by taking and taking your appearance seriously. Buy clothes that are nice and that fit your body and make you feel comfortable wearing them. Make up until you feel confident. If this means you have to wear boots, or ripped jeans, or cut your hair really short, do it. You don't have to be a Gucci model or be muscular to look special. Wear what you think is good and makes you comfortable.
Part 3 of 3: Becoming an Impressive Person
Step 1. Be positive or follow your serious side
There is no certain attitude or trick that guarantees you will be special. You don't have to be always positive like a child or always seem serious and uninterested like a monk. If you tend to shift from one mood to another, don't worry too much about whether it's right or wrong. Be yourself. If you like cuddling, that's fine. If you don't like cuddling, tell someone else. A special person has and is aware of his own nature and temperament.
Step 2. Stop saying what you think the other person wants to hear
There isn't a single thing you can say that makes you special in front of other people. Agreeing on something doesn't make you special right away, it just makes you agree with what you agree on. It might help you in something, but is that really what you want to pursue and achieve? Just be yourself and you will achieve the satisfaction you truly desire. Say what you think. Speak the truth.
Step 3. Don't be afraid to fail
Part of being open, unique, and special is being willing to take risks to get what you want. Don't let the odds of failure discourage you from trying and getting what you want. Dare to accept failure, fail faster, and often. Learn from those failures so you can get better and get closer to what you want to achieve.
In Silicon Valley, Fail Con is a popular convention celebrating the failure of startups and ideas, allowing people to network and talk about idea and business failures. Each failure brings you one step closer to success, and it's certainly better than not acting at all
Step 4. Empathize and see the other person's special side
Being special does require hard work from yourself. But you also need to focus on other people. Pay attention and find the special side of other people. Don't let your ego keep you from appreciating other people who are actually special too. In turn it will make you more special.
Respecting other people means making them feel special too. Respect others and treat them equally as you would treat yourself
Tips
- Always cheerful. A cheerful and kind person can always warm the hearts of others. Anything you do that does require some effort and effort is something special in the eyes of other people.
- Everyone is valuable and if you realize that, it will help you find yourself.
- Smile often. Smiling shows that you feel good about yourself.
- You don't have to be very good like an angel, but try not to get into too much trouble!
- Praise others.
- Don't expect to be instantly special in a day. Becoming a special and unique person takes time and effort.
- When with other people, be happy and try to make other people happy. They will be nice to you if you are happy.
- When you smile at someone and they don't smile back, ask if they have a problem. Usually people will hide the problems and difficulties they face. But anyway, talking will make it feel lighter.
Warning
- If you offer to help and he refuses, respect his decision and back off.
- Be careful with people who are angry and always complaining. He will emit a negative aura and make you feel nothing special.
- Think before you act. Sometimes you may want to help, but maybe the person you want to help wants to do the work themselves. Forcing help will hurt his self-esteem and damage your relationship with him.
