Do you start to stutter and forget your own name when talking to a girl? If so, it's time to step up your game so you can start a conversation and win a girl's heart quickly. To talk to a girl, all you have to do is show that you're really interested in her and say something she's never heard of before. If you want to know how to do it, just follow these steps.
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Part 1 of 3: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Steal the view
You don't have to do anything complicated or dramatic – in fact, you shouldn't do it that way. Simply smile from across the room, say "excuse me" as you pass by, or just stare at him, look elsewhere, then look back after a few seconds. You don't have to say "hello" the first time you see it; You can hold him out so he wants to know about you first. If you already know the girl, of course, you don't have to pretend and you can just say hello.
- Make sure your body language conveys confidence when approaching him. Lift your head, look forward, and maintain good posture as you approach him.
- If you wait too long to get to know each other, he may feel like you're ignoring him.
Step 2. Introduce yourself
All you have to say is, "Hello, I'm Joe - what's your name?" Or, “I'm Joe. Pleased to meet you." When he responds and says his name, extend your hand and shake his hand gently. Don't be shy. Yes, it may look old-fashioned, but this is how adults get to know each other. If you already know the girl, all you have to do is say "hello" and be sure to say her name.
Once you know the girl's name, use it in conversation a few times to make her feel like you're deeply involved in the conversation and care about what she has to say. Just one or two times
Step 3. Be yourself
Just relax and let this girl know who you really are. If you're a goofy, funny guy, make him laugh. If you're more serious, talk about topics that are interesting and meaningful without getting too serious and you don't have to be funny– unless you like doing it. Also, as you get to know him, you also need to tell him about you so he can get to know you better too. This is part of being yourself.
Remember, while it's very important to be yourself, you have to hide the eccentricities first, a trait that makes people say, "You need to get to know him better."
Step 4. Smile
This is very helpful. This shows that you're enjoying the conversation and that you're comfortable, which will keep the girl talking to you. Try to have a natural expression where your lips smile slightly, and when the time is right, smile wider and grin. You don't have to smile all the time, but smiling at key moments in the beginning of a conversation will make her feel appreciated.
- Smiling will relax her and make her feel like you like what she has to say.
- Don't smile all the time, of course, or you'll look nervous, even constipated.
Step 5. Avoid talking about personal things
If you like the girl, yes, the goal is to get to know her better later, but that doesn't mean you have to keep talking about your grandmother's death or describe the red spot on your back in detail seconds after meeting. Choose a light topic that's inoffensive and easy to talk about, like your pet, favorite band, or hobby, so you don't make the girl uncomfortable before you really get to know each other.
- Choosing light topics to start with doesn't mean you have to choose “boring” topics. You don't have to talk about the weather to prevent saying anything personal.
- Just go with the flow of the conversation. Sometimes two people are very compatible and will open up to each other faster than you think. If she starts to open up to you and really trusts you, you can do the same.
Part 2 of 3: Making Her Feel Special
Step 1. Find common ground
Try to steer the topic toward something you both enjoy, from an obsession with the television show "Community" to a hobby of cycling. You don't have to do this by asking your 5 favorite bands, food, hobbies, or sports; You just have to pay attention to the natural flow of the conversation, and see if you can find something you both like, or let him know something you like. For example, if you mention by chance that you just came back from yesterday's Ace match, he will respond that he is an Ace fan too.
- When speaking, make sure you ask questions that can't just be answered with a "yes" or "no," so you can keep the conversation going.
- Don't despair if you have nothing in common. You'll find something out later if you continue the pleasant conversation long enough.
- It may turn out that the two of you don't have much in common, but you're compatible because of the same personality and point of view. That's good too.
- When mentioning a band you like, ask him if he likes that band too; Make him see that you care about his interests when you talk about yours.
Step 2. Make eye contact while speaking
This is another way to make her feel special. You don't have to look him in the eye like you're looking for a reflection of yourself and scare him, but you do have to show that you're giving him your full attention, and not always looking at your cell phone or around the room to see if there's anyone more interesting. You can break eye contact once in a while, but just to make things more interesting, not to show you're bored.
Eye contact signifies confidence. If you look a woman in the eye, she will see that you are confident in getting to know her better
Step 3. Express interest in his thoughts and opinions
Watch what he says. Girls like a guy who will listen to her and like what she has to say. Don't always interrupt to say your opinion; let him talk and share his thoughts with you. However, show that you are listening by nodding, saying "yes" or "no" when appropriate, and answering the question.
- Ask him for his opinion on whatever you are passionate about – your favorite music, the latest fashion trends of the season, or the importance of friendship.
- While it's important to ask his opinion, avoid talking directly about religion or politics, or you may end up in an unanticipated argument.
- When he says something, make sure you respond and show you're listening by repeating what he says once in a while. You could say "I totally agree with what you said about how difficult it is to stay in touch with friends who move out of town…" to show you remember every word.
Step 4. Give a gentle compliment
You should compliment aspects of his personality or appearance without making him afraid to show you care. If you like his type of music, or the books he reads, tell him that he has very good taste. It's okay to compliment her clothes, hair, or jewelry, but you can really win her over if she sees you're interested in more than just her looks.
- If you're complimenting your physique, don't go overboard with complimenting your clothes, hair, or in a more intimate setting, your eyes. Don't scare her by complimenting her on her beauty before she even knows your full name.
- If he has a good laugh, don't be afraid to say it.
Step 5. Ask about the school
You don't have to bore him by asking for his favorite parts in Algebra II; however, you can show your interest by asking her about her favorite subject at school, asking her favorite teacher, or even discussing what her goals are. Don't just nod and say "That's interesting…" ask him "why" he likes a subject or "why" he aspires to be a nurse or lawyer.
- Some girls don't really like talking about school. If you feel that he is not interested, change the conversation.
- Don't make the conversation feel like an interrogation. You can talk about the subjects you like, too.
Step 6. Don't joke with the girl until she recognizes your sense of humor
It's better not to joke with a woman about things that might offend her, especially her weight, appearance, or intelligence. It's also very important not to make comments that might offend him when you're just getting to know him. If you offend the girl at the beginning of the introduction, it will be very difficult to get out of the hole.
- Joke carefully. Don't joke unless you're "very" sure that he'll understand.
- Follow his demeanor. If he jokes with you a lot, you can joke again. Just make sure the jokes are on the same level.
Part 3 of 3: Keeping Her Interested
Step 1. Make him laugh
Girls like guys who make them laugh. Don't be afraid to show your cuteness and sense of humor – as long as you're not too vulgar or overbearing at first. You don't have to start with a kid's joke to get his attention; just give a quick comment, reply with a quick joke if he says a joke, and make unique observations about the world that surrounds you that will make him think. Don't think too far. If you have a goofy sense of humor, let him see it.
- If you're trying to be funny and he's not laughing, show that you're not offended. Say, ``Maybe next time I'll be luckier…`` and it will make him laugh.
- If he makes a funny comment, don't just say ``That was so funny.`` Show that you can make a funny comment back.
Step 2. Don't try too hard
A woman will see this from a distance. If you want to keep him interested, you don't have to chase him hard if he doesn't want to be chased, praise him 10 million times if he's clearly uncomfortable, or show off your weightlifting routine or the baseball record you want to set for your country. Relax and don't care too much about impressing him and you'll end up impressing him even more.
- If she sees that you're comfortable enough with yourself and you don't have to try hard to get her to be interested, she'll be more likely to want to talk to you.
- If you flex your arms, talk about how good you look, or how you look without a shirt, he won't be interested in it at all.
Step 3. Stay confident
Believe in yourself and don't be afraid to say stupid things. If you're not afraid, chances are you won't. Keep him interested and don't worry about the atmosphere being a little weird, the silence, or the difficulty of getting things right. Stay positive, relaxed, and happy, and he'll be more than happy to talk to you. Don't put yourself down, even if you think it will make him laugh, or he will think you don't value yourself.
- You don't have to be arrogant to be confident. You can talk about your love of baseball without saying you're a great athlete.
- One sign of self-confidence is the ability to laugh at yourself. This will show that you don't take everything seriously about yourself.
Step 4. Stay relaxed
If you're nervous, sweaty, or scared, she'll be able to see it. If you feel nervous, speak more slowly, focus on the dynamics of the conversation rather than every word you say, stop playing your hands or look around the room. If you don't feel relaxed, she will sense your tension and feel the same way. Take a deep breath, speak and move slowly, and think of the best scenario, not the worst that could happen.
- If you're ``very`` nervous and very visible, you can make a little joke about it to lighten the mood.
- If you're often nervous, take a bottle of water or soda with you so you can drink it once in a while to cool down and get some rest.
Step 5. Don't lie to get his attention
Speak honestly, and don't exaggerate the truth. The tendency is often to beautify things, but this will only cause problems. If you get to know him better and really like him and then he finds out that you lied to him, this is very embarrassing for you and will destroy his trust (as well as your relationship). You don't have to act when you meet him, either way.
- Even if he doesn't see it at first, other people (and other girls) will notice that you're pretending to be more attractive around him.
- If you ever want to see the girl again, your lies will surely be exposed. If you want him to like you, he has to like the real you – from the start.
Step 6. Stay positive
Other people like to be with people who make them laugh, feel happy, and have a positive point of view. If you're grumpy and feel like the world hates you, it's not a good time to approach a girl. Talk about things and people that make you happy and focus on the positive experiences you both have had; As you get to know each other better, you can talk about negative things too, but if you want him to stay interested in the beginning, you have to create a positive atmosphere.
- You can even stop yourself from creating a negative atmosphere. If he asks how the traffic is going to his place and you say ``Very bad,`` correct the negative atmosphere by saying, ``But I really like the audiobook I'm listening to, `` or ``But I see a family of deer who are very adorable when you get here.``
- If he asks about a particular band that you ``very`` hate, you can say things like ``I don't listen to their music much'` or ``They are not my favorite, but they are pretty good.`` Don't go into detail about this. that you hate when you first talk to girls.
Step 7. Ask for his contact information
If you really feel like it, you can ask for an email address, phone number, or even just his full name so you can be friends on Facebook. If you want to ask her out, you can say it bluntly, but if you just like her and want to talk to her again, say something like, "I have to go now, but I want to continue this conversation at a later time. can we do that?" He will say yes without hesitation.
- If you're feeling a little embarrassed, ask her Facebook or email, then send her something funny – a link to a web comic she likes or a silly forum series. This is more convenient than a phone call. This will make him pay more attention to you and give you a better chance of seeing each other again.
- Ask for his contact information when the conversation is going well, and you find it fun to talk about. Don't wait until the conversation gets boring to ask for his contact information, or he won't be interested in seeing you again.
Tips
- If he's clearly not interested or doesn't want to respond, leave. Many women often receive unwanted attention and do not know how to handle it. Understand that dealing with unwanted attention is very difficult. No offense; end the conversation and move on with your life.
- Always praise the beauty of a woman, but don't overdo it.
- Pay attention to your appearance. Girls will know if you don't shower regularly, comb your hair, or brush your teeth.
- Try to get to know his friends, but don't seduce them. Girls see that as unfaithful and you won't stand a chance with her.
- Don't talk about or mention her stomach. Most women, no matter how skinny they are, think they are fat. This is an area that is off limits to most women.
- Always make eye contact. However, don't allow eye contact to last more than 30 seconds at a time, because prolonged eye contact is scary – but if you're always looking the other way, or can't hold eye contact for more than a few seconds, you'll look doubtful, like you want to make eye contact. go.
- Don't be scary. Creepy comments are comments about personal things that make you look desperate. Don't glance at him too much and don't let your eye contact focus on his body – this is very invasive.
- If you like him, don't say you like him until you've been talking to him consistently for at least 2 weeks. But only do this if he feels the same way, or you can scare him off.
- If you have other female friends, talk to her the way you talk to them. This is especially helpful if you are very nervous.
- Some women prefer to listen and pay attention rather than talk. If he doesn't talk much, he may be interested in what you have to say.
- Smile, keep your arms open and palms toward them, leaving your jacket unbuttoned. He will immediately feel more comfortable with you. You will also feel more comfortable with yourself.
- Most girls will be flattered by you asking her out. Girls who don't feel that way are usually arrogant girls, no matter how beautiful you are, you won't want to be with her.
- Women have different levels of need for attention. Some girls are happy to see you once a week or more. There are some who won't leave you for a second, and some who can go a long time without seeing you and that doesn't mean they aren't interested.
- For some girls, if you try to touch her by hugging her from behind you could get punched in the face because she thinks someone is going to attack her.
- Make sure your knees are in line with your shoulders when sitting; Girls know body language, and you don't want to be seen sitting with your legs spread out like there's something there.
- Don't approach women from behind. His first reaction was to be alert and ready to defend himself. If you don't want to be intimidating – and you don't want to do this – approach from the side or the front. Ask any body language expert.
- Don't approach her if you know she has a boyfriend, as this is pointless, and you don't want to offend her!
- If you have a bad facial irritation problem, apply toothpaste on your face before going to bed and then take a shower in the morning.
- If you're not an outspoken type of person, start by simply saying "hello" every time you see him. Eventually he will start to notice you too. This is an easier way to start a conversation with him, by asking his name and so on.
- Don't be condescending.
- Try putting a little baking soda on your toothbrush before brushing your teeth if you want to whiten them. This is mainly for your confidence.
Warning
- Don't talk about your ex-girlfriend, she will feel you still have feelings for her.
- Don't talk about other women in front of him, and never compare him to other women, especially his friends.
- Be yourself. The only way you can have a relationship and enjoy and appreciate it is to really be who you are. It's normal to embellish yourself a little when you first meet because you want him to like you. Eliminate all discomfort. Don't lower yourself. If he says you're handsome, take it as a compliment.
- Don't talk about things that don't interest him. For example, if you like soccer but find it boring, don't talk too much about it in the first place.
- Never comment on the weight!
- Don't force a conversation that he clearly doesn't want. A conversation requires two people – if you're the only one working, it won't work. Don't be offended if he does this; maybe he was afraid. Leave and move on with your life.
- If he's mad at you or doesn't want to talk about it, leave him for a while. There is no fixed timeframe; it will be ready in time.
- Don't use too much seduction.
- NEVER speak to her in a rude or rude manner. This makes most women lose interest and will reject you.
- When he is ready to talk again, respect him and treat him with affection to make him forget his previous behavior.
