Even if you feel like the calmest person in the whole world, there's still a chance that you won't be able to fully control yourself after a nice kiss. Deep down, maybe you are panicking and confused about what to do next. However, there's no guide to the proper course of action after a kiss, and that's a good thing. Be yourself, and don't be in a hurry.
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Method 1 of 3: Responding to a First Kiss
Step 1. Enjoy the moment without worrying about the next step
A pleasant kiss is a beautiful moment. So just enjoy it. Don't feel that you have to move on to the next step or that you have to do something. Enjoy every second of it. Usually, you and your partner will find something to talk about, do, or just keep kissing. So, let the moment flow by itself.
- In general, the recommended step is to take it slow. Do not rush. Instead, take a deep breath and calm your mind.
- The best advice for responding to a kiss is to follow your heart. It may sound cliché, but every kiss is different, and you'll know what to do if you believe in yourself.
Step 2. Gently separate, keeping a close distance from your partner's face
After the kiss, pull your head back slightly to make room. If you're in a hugging position, gently separate yourself or continue to hug to maintain intimacy.
Step 3. Look into her eyes and smile
When you walk away, a smile will show how you feel without having to think of anything smart to say. There's usually a nervous, happy smile or chuckle on both sides, but don't worry if there's "nothing to talk about." This slightly awkward and confusing sensation is the perfect way to show that you're enjoying every wordless second just like in a movie. You can also:
- Stroking her hair.
- It's interesting to come closer to be hugged.
- Hugging her body or touching her face.
- Touching your nose with his.
- Keep touching face to face, like forehead and nose.
- Cuddle for a while.
Step 4. Try not to force words, phrases, or jokes to break up awkwardness
Whatever the situation, the seconds after the first kiss are usually a little awkward. nothing wrong with that. Learn to enjoy these actually fun moments, without feeling like you have to say something. Most of the "sweet" words that people think of after a kiss sound lousy once they're spoken. So a smile and an "I like it" comment is more than enough.
- Don't think too much. You just have to carry yourself as usual.
- If you feel confident and really want to say something, say so. Even though the words that came out were a bit tacky, at most he would only laugh.
Step 5. Continue to develop the relationship after the kiss
The first kiss is only one step in the relationship. So don't assume that the first kiss is so significant that you forget to be yourself. Even if a day or two later things feel different, there's no reason to change attitudes towards each other.
If you think of a kiss as just a small development in the context of a larger relationship, and not as the most important moment, that first kiss won't be the last
Method 2 of 3: Responding to a Passionate Kiss
Step 1. Maintain closeness, with faces almost touching
A passionate kiss is usually the start of the next passion, but all the energy will evaporate if you walk away. Keep the body in contact, place your hands on his back or hold his face with both hands. A tight hug ensures the passion continues to burn and is the urge to keep kissing.
Step 2. Continue kissing if it feels right
Maybe he keeps his body close and looks into your eyes. Maybe you see his eyes on your lips. Maybe you're both smiling, and it all feels right. With a slow reaction after the kiss, staying close, and not in a rush, this situation will continue on its own and usually become another kiss.
At this point, you should stop reading. Enjoy every moment, leave everything to your instincts and trust your partner
Step 3. Kiss your partner's face and neck, not just on the lips
If things start to heat up, bring your lips to his neck or ear. Pull him closer, using your finger to point his head if you want to be kissed elsewhere. Let your lips and hands show you what you want, sliding down if you want to increase arousal or staying up if you prefer to move slowly and want to get comfortable first.
You have the right to decide what happens after a deep and passionate kiss. So tell me if you have a certain limit or don't want to rush
Step 4. Ask him if he doesn't mind continuing
If you want to try something else, don't forget to ask if he's comfortable. It sounds weird, but it won't spoil the mood. The question shows that you value your partner.
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A kiss is not an invitation to the next activity.
A kiss is just a kiss. Don't assume that in a kiss there is permission to go a step further.
Step 5. Try not to take it too seriously
In movies, passionate kisses are usually described as heavy, dramatic, and silent moments. However, real-life passions are much more diverse, fun, funny, and a little silly. Nothing is perfect. But that's where the fun comes in because you can laugh if he steps on your foot or if he has to turn to sneeze. Instead of trying to control the situation so that everything is "perfect," "exciting," or "sexy," soak up the closeness that creates. Let everything run its course, you just have to enjoy every second of it.
Method 3 of 3: Responding to Unwanted Kisses
Step 1. Back off in a firm, determined motion
If the kiss doesn't feel right, you don't have to freak out or jump away. Take a step back to confirm that the kiss is over. You can also position your hands in front of your body, palms down, as a sign that you want to create some distance.
Step 2. Say in a nice tone that you don't think kissing is a good idea
At this time passion may be on the rise so you should speak briefly and politely. The best word you can say is "I don't think this is a good idea." That way, you don't sound mean or want to start an argument. State in plain language that you don't want to kiss.
In situations where one or both of you are passionate and emotional, it's usually best not to make excuses or start an argument. Try to talk a little at this point. You can explain later
Step 3. Get away
There was no reason to linger around him. You can explain later, if that's necessary. For now, just say "sorry" and go. The situation would be better if the two of you weren't in the same room.
Step 4. Take time to explain why you don't want to kiss, if that feels appropriate
If the unwanted kiss happened to a friend who was a bit drunk, an ex who wants to get back, or a casual friend who wants more, please explain why you don't want to get involved in something romantic. However, know that you don't owe any explanation. Not being willing to be kissed is more than enough of an excuse.
