Looking completely emotionless can go a long way in your favor. Controlling your emotions helps you take control of ongoing negotiations, avoids confrontation and even makes you look cool. It may seem easy to hide your feelings, but it actually takes a lot of practice to be truly emotionless. You have to learn to really control your expressions, movements, and words at all times.
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Part 1 of 3: Controlling Nonverbal Expressions
Step 1. Calm your eyes and mouth
Your eyes and mouth can express a variety of emotions, so it's important to keep them under control at all times. The best way to control it is to try to keep your face expressionless. This expressionless face is usually used to keep a distance from other people. You can find faces like this almost in public places. This look is like a "do not disturb" sign on your face.
- Take time to relax the facial muscles. You'd be surprised how your face can become so tense even though you're not actually feeling any emotions.
- Poker players are good at showing an expressionless poker face. Try to learn how poker players can put on a face like this, not showing any excitement or nervousness at all.
- Do not avoid eye contact. Avoiding eye contact can be considered an emotional reaction. Try looking at someone the same way you would look at a chair or a wall.
Step 2. Watch your movements
Subtle movements can be very expressive even though we don't always notice them. This is the hardest thing to do when you want to appear emotionless. No matter how hard you try, there's bound to be a small part of your movement that conveys how you feel.
- Don't make movements that make you nervous, such as snapping your fingers or biting your nails.
- Don't give hints that you're tired by rubbing your eyes or yawning.
- Tapping your feet can make you look nervous.
- Looking down too often can make you appear embarrassed or sad.
- Most people can put on an emotionless poker face, but poker players' hands often frustrate this expressionless attempt. Uncertain movements of the arms and hands can indicate fear, uncertainty, anxiety or excitement. Try to make sure the movement looks fluid and steady. Don't move unless you have to. After that, try to move confidently and steadily.
Step 3. Maintain an emotionless posture
Don't show emotion by the way you stand or sit.
- Don't cross your arms. This position can be considered defensive. Try to keep your arms relaxed and at your sides.
- Sit in a chair straight. A relaxed, relaxed posture is a great way to show how completely unemotional you are. Plus, it can put more distance between you and whoever you're talking to. Leaning forward can make you look too excited or excited.
Part 2 of 3: Having an Emotionless Conversation
Step 1. Speak logically
Try imitating Captain Spock from Star Trek by having conversations without showing any way you feel. For example, if you're having dinner and someone asks how the burger you're eating tastes like, tell them it's undercooked and a little greasy. Don't say that the food you eat is delicious or not. Just state the facts.
If someone asks you how you feel or another question that can't be answered with facts, it's best to avoid this question by asking the question again. You can also give vague or ambiguous responses
Step 2. Keep the tone of voice even
Keep an eye on the speed and pitch of your voice. If the tone of your voice rises, people may perceive you as happy or anxious. By lowering your voice and speaking more slowly, you can appear unsure or upset. Try to speak as if you were reading an instruction manual aloud. A flat, informative, non-feeling tone of voice can help you to have a conversation without implying this emotion.
Step 3. Don't use emotional words
Many words express emotions. Some words show it very clearly, while other words imply it very little. While you're definitely not going to say you're sad or happy, don't say you're determined, calm or confused either. Just like the words "sad" and "happy," these words also indicate your emotional state.
Don't use adjectives to describe how you feel. Don't say the movie you watched was "fun" or "romantic." Instead, try to describe it as an "action-packed" or "dramatic" film
Part 3 of 3: Handling Emotions
Step 1. Don't hang out with emotional people too much
Highly emotional people can draw you into the drama of their lives and make it difficult for you to be truly emotionless. That doesn't mean you have to stop seeing him, but limit your relationships with emotional friends.
If you're out and about with an emotional friend, always make an excuse so you don't have to spend a lot of time with them without coming across as rude. Tell him you have to return the item or a similar reason
Step 2. Learn to accept the situation
One of the great things to do to be emotionless is not to let anything bother you. When you realize that you don't have the power to change most things, you're less bothered by it either. If you can stop trying to control things, you'll feel calmer when things don't go your way.
Step 3. Make yourself insensitive
Watching violent television shows or movies is a way that most people use to desensitize themselves. Many people think this method is dangerous, but evidence shows that watching a violent show makes viewers apathetic to the pain and misery of humanity. If you wish not to be swayed by these kinds of emotions, try watching television more often.
Step 4. Look at money more often
This may sound silly, but looking at money tends to make people take a more considerate attitude toward business. Scientists have found evidence that looking at money makes us less inclined to express emotions, or to use emotional words to express thoughts.
Step 5. Find an outlet for your emotions
No matter how well you hold back your emotions, sometimes you have to let them go. Writing or playing music is a great way to release emotional stress. Also, you can try to let go of your frustration by doing kickboxing. In whatever activity you choose, make sure you let go of your anxiety, instead of crying or throwing a tantrum in front of a lot of people.
Tips
- Don't be upset if someone calls you cold or uncaring. It means your business is successful.
- Don't try to completely change yourself. You can still pursue your interests, such as sports or whatever you like. Just make sure you hide your emotions for this interest of yours.
- Don't hurt yourself to release your emotions. This makes you an even more emotional person because people can see the impact this has had on you.
