Are you in a long distance relationship with your loved ones? If so, these conditions will definitely make it difficult for you to be by his side whenever needed. If he's in trouble, what concrete help can you provide remotely? Do not worry. You have a cell phone, right? The best thing you can do to improve her mood is to show her concern and care through text messages. Keep reading this article for easy tips!
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Method 1 of 2: Improve His Mood
Step 1. Ask the problem as if it were in front of you
If someone is trying to explain a situation that's bothering them in a text message, chances are that they really want to talk to you. Don't ignore it and be willing to be a good listener. Show that you care about them and are willing to encourage them through text messages. This is a great first step towards improving one's mood!
Step 2. Let him explain the problem and be a good listener
Even if the two of you are separated by a phone screen, there's always a way to show that you're really listening. When he talks about his problems, try to respond like, 'Oh my gosh' or 'I'm sorry'. However, make sure you don't overreact as it will actually reverse 180°. Listen carefully to him and respond as sincerely as possible. Give him a chance to talk and don't dominate the conversation.
Step 3. Give a calming response
Everyone may react differently to the same response, so make sure you understand the person's characteristics and possible reactions before responding. Never give offensive responses like, 'I warned you' or 'I told you so'.
- Remember, miscommunication is more prone to occur when you can't hear the other person's tone of voice.
- If he admits he's upset with someone, don't badmouth that person (especially if that person is your mutual friend). Remember, fights can always be resolved; but the words you utter can never be taken back.
Step 4. Show him that you really want to be by his side to provide direct support
For example, you might say, "I wish I could be there to hug you right now." or “I wish I could come over to your house and bring a box of chocolates to make you feel better.”.
Step 5. If the two of you are just friends, don't give off an impression that can be misunderstood
Try saying, "Don't be sad, you will definitely get better in the future.". Remember, give a genuine response and be able to show your empathy.
Step 6. Provide brief advice if needed
Your willingness to provide solutions and quick advice will show you care and support him. Through short messages, you will automatically be encouraged to give short and straightforward advice; in fact, short advice is usually the best!
Sometimes, not giving advice is actually the best step. Sometimes, your willingness to listen and be by his side is the best answer for him. Don't give advice if it's not asked for or if you don't understand the problem.
Step 7. Help him to see the positive side
Removing his mind from negative things is very effective in improving his mood. So try telling silly jokes, funny stories, or sending interesting photos and videos that will make him laugh. You can even post a photo of yourself in a goofy pose to lighten the mood!
Step 8. Use emoticons
Today, all smartphones provide emoticon features with a variety of choices. Generally, the emoticons that are commonly used are 'happy', 'very happy', 'angry', 'sad', 'excited', 'laughing', etc. emoticons. If your phone doesn't have emoticons, try using symbols that can represent certain expressions. For example, for a smiley expression, you can use the ':)' symbol. Like emoticons, such symbols are also capable of representing various types of expressions. Using emoticons or symbols helps you to better express yourself in the indirect communication process.
Step 9. Use the '<3' symbol
The symbol represents a powerful heart shape used to show your care and support; otherwise, you can also type ' XOXO' which means "hug kiss". Don't hesitate to type the word “hug”; believe me, that action is far more meaningful than any string of words.
Step 10. Know when to stop texting
If he seems genuinely angry, upset, and doesn't want to be bothered, stop texting. Instead, try making plans to meet him, call him, or contact him via Skype. Also, you need to stop texting if he doesn't seem like he wants to be disturbed or needs some time to himself. On the other hand, if he responds to your words with a smile and a hug, it's a sign that you've made his day! Just let him know that you will get back to him later.
Method 2 of 2: Making Her Feel Better
Step 1. Don't mess up the opportunity
Take the time to show you care about his feelings; also show that you want the best for him. But don't take the opportunity to fulfill your personal needs; for example, to ask her out because she knows she's fragile. Don't keep another agenda! Prioritize his feelings and comfort above your desires.
Step 2. Be supportive
Listen carefully to his words, be on his side, and don't respond like "I told you so" or "It's your fault.". Think about this carefully: if you were in that situation, how would you like to be treated?
Step 3. Lighten the mood by giving praise that is not excessive
Believe me, a sincere compliment and not excessive can definitely make the other person smile. Consider these tips:
- Choose the right time. Don't suddenly compliment him when he's explaining the reason behind his annoyance. Wait until he's done talking and turn things around for the better.
- Don't give compliments that are too explicit or inappropriate. Now is not the time to compliment how sexy she is, or how much you want to date her. Instead, compliment something in him that amazes you, such as his personality or strengths. Show that you care about him as a whole, not just physically. Try saying, “I really admire the way you handled this situation. You really are a strong person.” or “I don't understand why anyone would reject a woman as beautiful as you.”.
- Stop the conversation after you've made a compliment. Know when to stop so that your compliments can have a significant positive effect. After he responds to your compliment, try to stop the conversation immediately.
Step 4. Offer to continue to provide the support she needs
Before ending the conversation, tell him, "Call me whenever you need someone to talk to." or “May I ask how you are doing again tomorrow?”. By doing so, you have positioned yourself as someone who is ready to provide support whenever needed. He will also see that you are willing to monitor his condition and make sure the problem is resolved.
Step 5. End the conversation with nice words (optional)
Instead of simply saying “Good night,” try delivering a more memorable closing sentence like “I hope your dreams will be more beautiful than your day!” or “Have a nice afternoon! I can't wait to talk to you again later.” Get creative! Make her smile even for a moment.
Tips
- Imagine as if you were talking directly to him. What would you say if he told you his problem directly?
- Show your utmost care and concern. Show that you are a good listener.
- Avoid abbreviations like "LOL" or "LMAO" when trying to improve someone's mood. The expression shown through the abbreviation is indeed able to cheer up the atmosphere, but it is inappropriate if it is conveyed in a situation like this. Don't give the impression that you don't take the problem seriously.
- Never send a “LOL” message; if you do, you'll look as if you don't take the situation seriously.
- Do you know what is called chatspeak or the chat language that is commonly used when exchanging short messages? Such chat language, although commonly used in text messages, will sometimes degrade the readability of the text and make it difficult to understand. If the other person is in a bad mood, it is likely that your message will be misunderstood by him. As a result, you may end up making his mood worse. If possible, try not to overuse chatter, abbreviations, or slang.
- Use an asterisk (*) to emphasize actions such as: *hugs*, *kisses the cheek*, or *hands a cake*.
- Think of a joke or material that will make him laugh. Give him your best smile and make him forget his troubles.
