Have you ever met someone you wanted to be friends with, but you didn't know what to say? It can be a bit difficult to make friends with new people via text messages, but it's a convenient way to keep in touch and form a bond in the long term. Start with a few simple ways to start a conversation and move on to things that can make the friendship stronger.
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Method 1 of 12: Ask how he's doing
Step 1. He will appreciate your concern and interest in him
This is a great way to strengthen friendships and start a conversation. Whenever that person comes to mind, send them a quick question to show that you care. Some examples of text messages you can send include:
- "Hey, you're okay, right?"
- "Hey, what are you doing now?"
- "How are you, brother ?"
Method 2 of 12: Ask open-ended questions
Step 1. Get him to talk more so you can have a fun chat
Don't ask something that requires a "yes" or "no" answer because he will answer in one word. This will end the conversation. Get him to open up by asking questions that require long answers. Start with a few light questions to make her feel comfortable and allow you to get to know her a little better.
- For example, try asking, "What did you think of the math class earlier?" instead of saying "Did you also have trouble with the math class earlier?"
- Some other examples to try include, “What are you doing next Sunday night?” or “What are you so excited about?”
- Ask some personal questions as your relationship deepens. For example, you could ask, "What is your fondest memory of growing up?" or, “How close are you to your family?”
Method 3 of 12: Get the spirit up
Step 1. Get him to talk by mentioning things he likes
If you don't know what he likes, try checking his social media accounts or asking him directly so you can get to know him more. Once you've gotten to know him a bit, mention one thing he likes followed by a question to encourage him to talk more.
- For example, try asking, "What movies do you like?" or “What do you like to do in your free time?”
- Once you know what he's interested in, try saying, “You like the Fast & Furious movies, don't you? Who is your favorite character?” or, "What attracted you to skateboarding?"
Method 4 of 12: Follow the same interests
Step 1. You are more likely to become friends if you have something in common
Once you've figured out a few things she likes, try to find something you both like. Discuss it together and show that you like it. People tend to be attracted to other people who have similar interests so it will be easier to build friendships.
- For example, you might say, “Oh, I love soccer too! My favorite team is Liverpool, what is your favorite team?” or, “I haven't hiked in a long time. What is your favorite place to hike?”
- You're more likely to bond if you have unique interests, not common ones. For example, you can form a stronger bond if you both enjoy Punk music, not just music in general.
Method 5 of 12: Share things about yourself
Step 1. Balance the conversation so it's not biased
While it's great to know all the details about him, he'll also want to know more about you. When he asks you something, be open and don't hesitate to talk about it. If he doesn't ask you anything, tell yourself after he answers your question to balance the conversation.
- For example, if you ask him about his hometown, you could continue the conversation by saying, “My hometown is small too. I like to cycle around town all the time with friends.”
- Feel free to take the initiative by telling a funny story or anecdote. For example, try saying, "Oh my gosh, you must have been surprised by what happened when I was at the grocery store just now." This way, you will keep him guessing and wanting to know more.
Method 6 of 12: Tell a joke
Step 1. Show your sense of humor to keep the conversation light
Funny people tend to be more likable so you can crack jokes to make them laugh. Maybe you will find it difficult to put the right intonation of words if you use text messages. Therefore, you can use emojis to lighten the mood and show that you are not taking yourself too seriously.
If he doesn't know whether you're joking or not, try saying, "Just so you know, I'm just kidding, bro! I'm sorry if this upset you."
Method 7 of 12: Submit a funny meme
Step 1. Silly pictures can come in handy if he needs a joke
Look for pictures on social media or the internet that you think will make him laugh. Attach his picture in the chat for him to see it and laugh happily. He'll appreciate your efforts to make him smile, and this can make your friendship stronger.
- You can also share videos that are on YouTube and TikTok.
- Be careful when sending memes to guys you don't really know because you don't know their sense of humor. If you choose the wrong one, the atmosphere can become chaotic.
Method 8 of 12: Play the game (game)
Step 1. Try playing a game if you need a nice relaxing time and get out of the usual chatter
If you've run out of things to talk about, try playing a text message-based game with her. There are various games that you can try so that you can get to know the person better while enjoying your company. Some of the games to try include:
- What Would You Rather: Take turns asking him to choose one of 2 things, for example, "Do you prefer to go back in time to meet your ancestors or to the future to meet your descendants?"
- I never (Never Have I Ever): alternately say something that has never been done, for example, "I've never been to Bali," and if he ever goes to Bali, he will lose points.
- Storytelling (Story Time): each person adds one sentence to a story. For example, you could start your story by saying, "Once upon a time, there was a prince," and she might respond with, "The prince lives in a big castle on top of a mountain."
Method 9 of 12: Give praise
Step 1. Show you care by sending nice words
Everyone likes to get encouragement from their friends so you can let them know that you appreciate their kindness. Be sincere and say something specific to show that you care about him. Some things to try include:
- “Your presentation this morning was great! Really very interesting!”
- “You are easy to talk to. I have no hesitation in telling you everything.”
- “You are reliable. I'm so glad you always support me."
Method 10 of 12: Name things that remind you of him
Step 1. He'll be happy to know that you're thinking about him all the time
If you see or do something that reminds you of him, send him a message about it. Tell him what you are doing and how it reminds you of him. That way, you can always stay connected and start a chat with ease.
- For example, try saying, “While walking through the park and seeing some kids playing basketball, it reminds me of how great you were when you beat me back. We have to fight again sometime.”
- You can also send a video or photo about something. For example, if you see a street with the same name as that person, send a photo of the nameplate of the street you came across and say, “Look where I am now. You should hang out on this street sometime!”
Method 11 of 12: Ask him for advice
Step 1. By asking for advice, he will know that you value his opinion
If you're having trouble making up your mind and don't know what to do, explain the problem to him and ask for advice. Even if he can't come up with an answer either, it shows that you really trust him and make him do the same. Make sure you're always ready if he asks you for advice later.
- For example, you could say, “Hey, I'm at a loss for how to ask Rina out on a date. Do you have any suggestions?”
- You don't have to ask for advice on big decisions. For example, you might say, “I want to see a movie tomorrow, but I'm confused because it's all good. What movie do you think is the best?"
Method 12 of 12: Invite him to meet in person
Step 1. Building friendships can be easier if you are physically together
You may find it difficult to form a strong bond if you don't meet in person. Ask him to check his schedule, and ask if he has time to hang out with you. Design something fun so the two of you can enjoy each other's company and foster a bond of friendship.
- For example, you might say, “I'm going to play pool this weekend. Would you like to come with me?", or "How about we go to a cafe after we get home from work and have a casual chat there?"
- If he lives far away from where you can't see him, ask if he'd be willing to talk on the phone or on a video call.
