No matter how much you want to throw a party or other fun event in your house, admit that at some point, you will definitely feel the need to reclaim a private space that has been packed with dozens of people for hours. Gently expelling guests present is not easy, but don't worry because in truth, there are various ways you can "get" them out of the house without being too outspoken. For example, you can send an implicit signal, or even ask them to leave in a polite but courteous manner. Consider the situation and the feelings of all parties present before deciding on the most appropriate option to take.
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Method 1 of 3: Sending a Signal
Step 1. Offer an alternative to moving the event or partying to another location
If you just want to get guests out of the house but don't mind spending more time with them, try saying, “Come on, have a drink at Joey's bar,” or “Who wants to go bowling?” Most likely, your friends will start giving other recommendations until everyone agrees on the next destination.
If you don't want to move the event to another place, try saying, "Hey, I heard there's a new bar that offers special drinks on Thursdays," or "Cheers is really good, for those of you who still don't want to go home." Hopefully, guests can pick up on the signal and move their party elsewhere
Step 2. Give the impression that they are the ones who are ready to leave
Whenever you're ready to end the show, try saying, “Well, I'm really sorry that you guys have to spend the night here. How about I start cleaning while you guys go home and rest?” or “Wow, I've had you guys locked up for hours! You must be tired and want to go home, right?” Most likely, they won't argue with you or insist on staying longer. As a result, you too can regain control of the house in the near future!
Step 3. Shout out the time in a surprised tone
Pretend to be surprised while looking at your watch, then exclaim, “Oh my gosh! It's already past midnight! or “Wow, I can't believe six hours have passed!” Supposedly, the guests would have realized that it was time for them to go home.
Step 4. Describe how busy you are after the event
Remind them that you still have other responsibilities or commitments after that. For example, you could say, "Ugh, I still have to wash a lot of dishes before going to bed," or "I'm really busy at work tomorrow, so I really want to go to bed early today." Supposedly, the guests could pick up on the signal and decide to go home afterward.
Step 5. Ask your close friends for help
If a friend of yours is also at the event, try asking him to help keep the guests away. Previously, convey the plan in private and ask him to come home at a certain time. When that time comes, ask your friend to stand up, stretch the muscles in her body, and announce to all the guests in attendance that she must go home. Supposedly, the other guests could pick up on the signal and go home afterward.
Your friend might say, “Wow, what a great night tonight! But it's almost midnight, here. I'm going home first, okay?"
Step 6. Keep yawning
Yawning indicates that you are tired and ready to end the day. This kind of signal is very effective at closing events that take place at night, but not very effective when done during the day. In addition, you can also pretend to be sleepy or unfocused, to let guests know that they have to go home.
Step 7. Busy yourself with household chores that are generally done to close the day
For example, clean the dining table or tidy up the utensils that have piled up in the kitchen. Then, you can also turn off the music that is still playing, blow out the candles, or turn off the lights in the room that are not in use. This behavior will send a signal to guests that the night is almost over.
Step 8. Make health problems such as headaches or stomachaches an excuse
If you don't mind lying, try this method as it is usually very effective. However, use this method only as a last resort, as conveying your wishes clearly is actually a better form of approach. Remember, no one wants to catch a disease. That's why, most likely they will go straight home to avoid the risk.
You can say, "I think I'm sick," or "Actually, I'm not feeling well. How about we continue again sometime?”
Method 2 of 3: Performing Expulsion
Step 1. Tell a joke about the situation
If you feel that the joke is well received by your guests, try telling it before asking them to leave. Then, laugh lightly to show you're joking. Supposedly, the guests will pick up on your point and head home right away, instead of waiting to be kicked out a second time.
For example, try saying, “You don't have to go straight home, do you? But you can't stay here either!" Or, you can also say, “I'm going to bed now, here. Please turn off the lights and lock my door, okay, when you get home!”
Step 2. Ask if there is anything else they need
Try offering them their last drink, leftover meal, or snack to take home before declaring that the party is over. Supposedly, the "gift" will make them feel bad if they have to get angry when asked to leave your house.
Try asking the guests present, “Is there anything else you need?” or “Would you like a bottle of water for the return trip?”
Step 3. Announce to guests that the party is over
If a party or other event held at your home is over, feel free to announce it to the guests in attendance. For example, you could say, “Hello everyone! Sorry, but the party's over, huh. It's so nice for you to come here, I hope we can meet again, sometime!” This is a straightforward, polite and effective way to get guests out of your home.
Step 4. Tell your roommate or housemate that you need a private room
Living with a roommate or partner on a property you own or rent on your behalf? In fact, legally you have the right to expel them, you know! Get them to discuss the possibility without the distraction of others, and make sure your discussion process is calm and controlled.
- You could say, "It's been nice living with you, but lately things have started to feel a little uncomfortable for me. Sorry, looks like you have to move.”
- If the person refuses to move, you can actually ask the police to get him out.
Step 5. Explain to overnight guests that they have been in your home too long
The situation will of course be more difficult if the stay is a close friend or relative. Still, try to give specific reasons behind your objection.
- You can say, “We don't have the money to accommodate you anymore,” if their presence has drained your money, but they don't even offer to help pay bills and day-to-day expenses.
- If the person sleeps in one of the rooms in your house, try saying, "Sasha wants to sleep in her room again," or "Dave has to use his office every day, and he can't do that while you're still here."
Step 6. Help them find a new place to live
After asking your guests to leave, of course you have to offer them new housing options, right? For example, you can browse the internet and look for information on accommodations where the rental costs are in line with their budget, or even accompany them in surveying potential new places to live.
Method 3 of 3: Managing Situations Well
Step 1. Present your request politely and tactfully
Since this is a sensitive situation, you need to be as tactful as possible so they don't get defensive. Don't be rude by saying, "Seriously, you guys don't have any other hangouts?" Instead, just say, “Thank you for coming. Hope we can meet again sometime,” or “Thanks for coming, Lisa! We'll have lunch together sometime, okay?"
Don't ask them to meet again or bond if you don't really want to. Instead, simply say, "I'm sorry, I think you have to go now."
Step 2. Be prepared to accept their anger
Sometimes guests will feel irritated or offended if they are “evicted” by the landlord, even if you make the request politely. Remember, these risks are consequences that cannot be avoided. If the situation worsens, simply remind them that the request is not personal and that you care about them.
- For example, try saying, “Don't take it to heart, okay? Tomorrow morning I have a lot of business at the office. How about this weekend we meet again for drinks?”
- Or you could also say, “Veronica, I know you're angry. But, please don't take it too seriously, okay? Previously, we had agreed that you could only stay for one week. If you want, I can help you find an apartment right now."
Step 3. Provide a clear time limit before the event
Before the event begins, emphasize how much time guests have to stay in your home. The method? Try writing a specific time for the event on the invitation, such as “from 6pm to 10pm.” If the invitation is sent by phone or in person, explain that the event will only last for a limited time, such as by saying, "Our event has to end at 9 pm because Gina has an early meeting at the office the next day."
- Or, when the guests have just arrived, you might say, "The party will be over at 11pm, okay?" or "Tomorrow we have a pretty busy schedule, so today's party won't end too late."
- If they're staying, reinforce your expectations by saying, "You only have 2 weeks to stay," or "You'll have to find a new place to stay on April 1st."
Step 4. Don't give them a chance to change their mind
More than likely, they'll try to whine to stay, even if you're ready to ask them to leave. However, at this stage, your desire should be very clear, which is to get rid of them so they can reclaim your private space at home. So even if they whine to stay for the next few days, or try to convince you that it's not too late, stick with that decision and don't hesitate to repeat your request if necessary.
