Behind the perfect family life shown on television screens, posters and billboards, hidden complexities and challenges apart from the smiles and cheerful laughter of family members. Every family lives a different life and its own problems. However, everyone can enjoy the beauty of family life as long as they are willing to work hard to improve relationships, know themselves, and understand each other. Accept the fact that no family is perfect, but anyone can enjoy a good family life.
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Step 1. Try to understand everyone living in the same house as best you can
If there is no mutual understanding, there will often be misunderstandings and quarrels in the family. Provide plenty of time to get together and learn to understand each other. Nowadays, many families live very individualistic daily lives so they don't know each other because they are too busy taking care of themselves. Make plans to get together and enjoy quality time, such as watching a movie, playing a game, or just having dinner together.
Step 2. Respect all family members
Children and spouse are part of the family. As fellow human beings, they also have the right to give opinions and suggestions, regardless of whether the suggestions are good or not. Don't be angry or immediately opposed when someone gives an opinion because everyone is free to express their opinion and remember that no one is perfect, including yourself.
Step 3. Make time for family
Children and spouse certainly do not want to be ignored just because you have to attend a meeting or finish work. Take time to gather with family and learn to understand each other. This way will prevent misunderstandings and be able to create harmony.
Step 4. Be fair to everyone in the house
Helpers and adopted children are equally entitled to feel love and affection from you as you give to or you receive from spouses and biological children. Family life will be more enjoyable if you always treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.
Step 5. Don't scold or yell at others
Be aware that this behavior will incite hatred towards you. If you can calmly provide understanding so that it is more useful to others, why waste time and energy just to be angry?
Don't fight with brother or sister. Quarrel will damage the relationship that causes regret later on. Appreciate the time that exists while you are still living at home because moments that have passed can not be repeated again
Step 6. Don't discriminate
Step 7. Learn to compromise
When you or other family members disagree with each other, try to find common ground to reach a mutual agreement.
Step 8. Give help to others
Help your parents, spouse, brother, or sister if they need it, for example by opening the door or helping a younger sibling who is finishing schoolwork.
Step 9. Have a surprise birthday party and celebrate a family member's success so that he or she feels cared for and appreciated
Step 10. Do not say words that attack or hurt the other person's feelings as this can provoke anger
Step 11. Sometimes teenagers feel sad or lonely.
Pay attention by asking if he wants to share his feelings. If he refuses, it's okay because this is a hormonal symptom. If you catch a very risky situation, find out why by asking a close friend so you can help him.
Step 12. Don't break promises
This makes the other person hurt or feel cheated. As a result, you will be considered a liar and untrustworthy.
Step 13. Be a person who is able to forgive others
Step 14. Don't punish too often
Punishment as a sanction that educates children to be more disciplined is useful, but do not punish children arbitrarily.
Step 15. Cultivate awareness of goodness in a good way
If a family member has done something wrong or doesn't value your trust, help them recognize their mistake in a kind way. Do not berate or use words that hurt his heart.
Tips
- One very useful way to create a harmonious family life is to compromise.
- Remember that teenagers' attitudes are not solely driven by hormones. If your teen doesn't want to talk about his problems, he may be upset or being bullied. Pay attention and try to make him believe that you really want to provide a solution.
- If there is a task that needs to be done, finish it as soon as possible. Don't delay.
- If you are forced to cancel an appointment because you have a very important job, give understanding to family members and try to fulfill the appointment at a later time so that they are not disappointed.
- Don't fight with family members. If you get into a fight, apologize even if you're not at fault as a way of showing how much you love him.
- Don't show anger by saying that you are not part of the family or that no one loves you. Even though receiving a reprimand or punishment (for children) is not easy, apologize to restore the relationship so that the atmosphere at home is calm again.
- If your parents are giving you advice, don't be easily upset and accuse them of scolding you. Parents always want to teach something important and useful for their children.
- Give each other support and encouragement!
- Be kind to all family members.
Warning
- If there are family members who don't get along, set an example so that they realize that giving and receiving is very important in family life.
- Try to prevent violence in the family by showing patience and kindness. Solve the problem so as not to trigger a negative situation in the house.
- Never hit or threaten another person.
