Just when you thought things couldn't get any worse, suddenly you know the signs that your friend should be wearing adult diapers! But how do you deal with it? (No matter what, he's your friend.) Does he need to be treated like a baby? Or is it treated like an adult? Read this article to find the answer.
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Step 1. Look for obvious signs that would lead you to assume that your friend is wearing diapers
Maybe from the smell itself, the sound, or maybe the diaper is a little loose, or it can be seen from the shape and the thick pants. Or maybe even your friend carries a diaper bag with her wherever she goes even if she doesn't have the baby with her.
Step 2. Be a supportive friend
The first thing that comes to your mind may be the urge to heal your friend, by searching the internet for a way. Instead of doing this, think again about your motivations.
- Is it because you are disgusted by diapers or because you really want to help? Chances are your friend is wearing diapers for a reason. Better to assume that doctors and experts are doing their best. If your friend has been wearing diapers for years, chances are that your friend is used to wearing them and has accepted themselves as someone who needs to wear diapers as part of their daily life.
- Sharing the secret with yourself is a big step and it's not the right time for you to suggest remedies found on the internet. Your friend may have tried it and the experts he's met can't help.
- Diets and other easy remedies are unlikely to work and will result in more stress than relief. Once your friend is comfortable with their life, all you need to do is provide support as a friend, leaving the doctor in charge of any treatment.
Part 1 of 4: First Talk
Step 1. Ask yourself a few questions about whether you consider him a close friend or not
The answers to some of these questions can surprise you with how much you really care about your friends.
- Do you mind talking about your underwear with this person? If not, maybe it's best to just wait for your friend to start the conversation.
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Constantly talking about urine, diapers or playing a song related to wet pants, incontinence (unable to hold your pee), water or setting a ringtone for your friend with a song about any of the above is not a smooth way to get him to start a conversation..
Appreciate if he doesn't want to start the conversation.
Step 2. Prepare for the first talk
- What is the purpose of the conversation? Is it for the person to use less of his diaper or for him to not wear it at all? Or is there another purpose related to the use of the diaper?
- Would you like to provide support, and if so how much? Think honestly about how much support you can provide, as a diaper wearer and how to deal with it will require psychological and physical help from friends, and it can take many forms, from helping her change diapers to helping cover up lies she might not want to know. other people to protect the diaper wearer from the real psychological impact if this information is spread to more people.
- Turn off the phone to show that you care about the private conversation.
Step 3. Plan to have the conversation in a private place with no one else around
Make room for your friend to tell you their sad, tearful, and heartbreaking story without any distractions or other appointments to come after. Your friend may have talked about this before and feels confident wearing a diaper, but it's also possible that this is the first time she's spoken about it with someone outside her immediate family.
- Read this guide to the end. Consider your comfort level in providing assistance, what your limits are, and share any situations where you are unsure how to deal with them.
- Express your friendship with him to him. Letting your friend know that you like her for a number of reasons including her personality and wearing a diaper won't change the way you view her friendship at all.
- Ask what terms are used. Some people prefer to call it absorbent pants diaper, while others don't like the connotation of this term and prefer to refer to it as absorbent pads, panties, or underwear…but sometimes, the wearer may not like all of the above terms and prefer to use the term other clothing to refer to the object. Find a word that suits you and your friends' level of discretion.
- Try putting on the diaper, to see how your friend will feel when you put it on if you can imagine putting it on and can practically take it off with confidence without any trouble. If you're a curious person, you can ask your friend if you can borrow her diaper to try on, which can open up a conversation for your friend to show her expertise and advice on her diaper-wearing abilities and make her feel accepted and on an equal footing with others. in this world. Use the guide in How to Wear a Diaper to learn how to wear a diaper like her.
Part 2 of 4: When in Public
Step 1. Consider whether she even needs to wear a diaper at all or whether wearing a diaper is a response to embarrassment from other situations
Make sure the use of the diaper is not due to another medical problem such as prostate problems or stress incontinence. Ask his family to talk to him and ask them to take him to a doctor who can treat him and evaluate the reasons he needs diapers to make sure there are no other drastic reasons that can be treated but if left unchecked it can become a problem in the future.
Step 2. Make sure the wearer is not embarrassed about wearing a diaper in public
Many diaper wearers can feel embarrassed if their diaper is seen in public and if it is taken for granted, the problem can become big. Make sure he can count on you to help him deal with emergencies from wearing it in public, from hiding it from others' eyes, to issues related to its use.
Step 3. Try not to be too sad for him or his situation, if it seems that he is not receiving a different result from the doctor or if it turns out that there are other unforeseen causes that make diapers the main cause of other problems
Step 4. Be ready to help her when she notices her diaper is showing
As with underwear, diapers tend to be visible on the lower back after bending over to pick something up or when someone is simply stretching. What's more, the diaper has a high waist and a plastic back panel that makes it easy for the shirt to slide up and reveal the diaper. Chances are, your friend won't even notice her diaper showing, and just like when a shirt tag pops up, it's polite to let your friend know so they can get their clothes fixed.
- Use a word as a code when this happens to your friend. Your friend will probably appreciate it if you don't explicitly say "Your diaper is showing," but you may be able to agree on something less flashy and less harmful to her health like socks, pants, or some other term you can come up with.
- Diapers can be tucked in. The top edge of the diaper is made of plastic which will help hold urine when a person is lying down. Once tucked under and folded into the diaper itself, this can hide the diaper even more, but can put the plastic in contact with the skin which can cause itching and skin irritation in the wearer. To reduce the height of the diaper hem, it's best to fold the diaper outward so that the wearer's clothes will hold the folds of the diaper, and not the body.
Step 5. Accompany your friend and get ready to help him carry the diaper bag
Offer to bring your friend's diaper bag. While your friend may occasionally say she can do it herself, simply being prepared and caring for your friend will go a long way in making your friendship blossom. Always carrying a bag of spare diapers and supplies related to using and changing diapers including carrying wet wipes and cream can be overwhelming. Offering to carry her bag can relieve not only the physical but also the psychological burden of carrying diapers. Your friend may refuse, but at least it's still a nice gesture that shows you accept them and want to help.
Step 6. Tell your friend that their diaper needs to be changed
While certain types of diapers have different levels of absorption and the timing of when a diaper should be changed, there is a difference between wet and soiled or just wet or just soiled, and all require diaper changes. Some adult diapers are made to be worn comfortably for several hours, including one to three hours of normal daily activities for the lightest padded diapers to ten to fourteen hours for the thickest padded diaper. Replacement is recommended to do:
- When the diaper is so wet it is at risk of leaking
- After experiencing an incident involving poop
- When the diaper stinks. No one around likes a diffused smell. (Water-resistant plastic pants can withstand odors.)
- Before embarking on a long journey without access to the restroom
- Before traveling by bicycle. Your friend may not notice when her diaper is wet. Having a friend who keeps a close eye on their diaper issues can provide great comfort while cycling. You may also notice small subtle changes that your friend may not notice or have taken for granted because of the timelessness of wearing a diaper. It's common to feel irritated that the diaper is already soaking wet, as the feeling of wetness can be overwhelming and annoying, but your friend may not even notice that his diaper is wet while he concentrates on the road while cycling.
Step 7. Make sure you are there to cheer up your friend, especially when she refuses your help
However, refrain from bombarding him with questions if that's what he wants. It can be intimidating, making her feel weak, and shy about being confronted when her diaper is wet and needs to be changed. You need to have an agreement with your friend to know if it's okay to tell her that her diaper needs to be changed and you won't tell anyone else (''what happened will remain a secret'').
Having the word as a code can ease the situation. The phrase "your socks smell" won't draw much attention than saying her diaper is wet or asking your friend if her diaper needs to be changed. Alternatively, you can agree to non-verbal cues such as poking or patting her body to let your friend know that her diaper smelled without attracting anyone's attention
Step 8. Go to the toilet together
Sometimes diaper wearers can feel like they won't be able to get to the restroom on time and have to put on a diaper. If you can show him that he "can" go to the toilet on time, you can get your friend to use the toilet and maybe even save on diapers.
Step 9. Focus your mind on shopping or doing something else instead of having him put on a diaper and showing it to you and his family
If your friend asks you to go shopping for clothes together, they will most likely want your input on whether the diaper is showing or whether a shirt covers the diaper well and how visible the diaper is. You can use code words for this to keep it private in the store. However, before shopping, be careful to check if the diaper is wet to make sure other clothes you haven't bought don't get so wet that you have to buy them
Step 10. Shop for plastic pants with him, if he wants or needs to buy them for some reason
If you feel comfortable discussing and buying pads or tampons with your friends, then it's possible to talk about buying plastic pants together. If not, let your friend start the conversation. Plastic or rubber pants can reduce odor, sound, and the risk of leaking, and keep the diaper tightly against the body, making it less visible. This thing, on the other hand, is a pretty intimate thing to buy, more intimate than buying ordinary underwear. This is the type of clothing that you and your closest friends will see, but it is also the type of clothing that romantic partners or people who look into skirts see and as such, it is an essential clothing accessory. When plastic pants are used, it's possible that the joints of the pants will be visible on the lower back when bending over to pick up something or stretching.
Step 11. Consider swimming, sunbathing, going to the gym, sauna, spa, massage, or using a shared public bathroom
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In places where being naked or semi-nude is not uncommon and acceptable, your friend should take extra care to keep her diaper out of sight. Talk to your friends about this before planning or paying for this activity. Suggest the activity to your friends and listen to their response.
One thing that might be that your friend visits the toilet frequently before, during, and after activities without wearing a diaper or wearing a very light diaper. This will increase the stress on your friend as she has to know the location of the nearest restroom, possibly stand in line, and suddenly leave to avoid an incident involving poop. While cycling usually doesn't involve being half naked in public, it does involve putting a lot of pressure on the diaper as well as deforming the bowl of the diaper that naturally forms when walking. In addition, bicycles make it more difficult for a person to wear a skirt, which is actually the right type of clothing to keep the diaper from being too visible.
If your friend has fecal incontinence, she'll need to wear a special swim diaper if she goes to the pool and because the material looks pretty flashy, your friend has to accept that people in public will know she's wearing a diaper. Swimming diapers should also be used on the beach.
Step 12. Limit conversations about diaper advertisements, visits to the toilet, or any signs of urination that may cause discomfort to your friend, as these kinds of conversations can make her want to wear diapers more often
While other references in pop and rock music say that incontinence has become more common and that wearing diapers is no longer a taboo subject, it doesn't mean that your friend is ready to accept her condition being exposed. Talking about this among friends can immediately make this topic senseless and cause a great psychological burden for the wearer to forget it, and make him want to wear it more often or for longer than originally planned. Depending on your friend, she may feel embarrassed about this topic and as her friend, you may decide to shift the conversation to another topic.
Part 3 of 4: While At Home
Step 1. Tell the diaper wearer to feel more comfortable
Changing clothes into more comfortable clothes is usually done when the wearer arrives home or is in a place where he is sure that his friend will not tell others because the wearer often visits. Knowing that he's wearing a diaper may also lead him to ask for permission to wear a thicker, more comfortable diaper when he's just with you, as this can provide better protection against leaks when leaning back or sitting in a confined space. motion or just for one person.
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Another problem is the heat and the plastic in contact with the skin. While plastic pants may be preferable in public, they are hot and the tight elastic belt can irritate the skin. When spending extended periods of time with your friend at home, he or she may prefer not to wear plastic pants which will increase the risk of odors, noise and leaks, where the increased risk of leakage is limited by wearing thicker diapers.
Step 2. Be prepared for some differences when wearing diapers in the summer
During summer, hot temperatures are a challenge as diapers serve as additional body insulation. While you can wear light shorts or a skirt, your friend will still need to wear her diaper. During the summer, when you want to wear minimal clothing to feel cool, your friend may ask permission to wear only diapers. If your friend asks permission to do this, let her do it-and take it as a good sign that she's not shy about wearing diapers (a lot of kids only wear diapers on hot summer days!). As long as you and your friend don't mind a poop-related incident, your friend may not wear a diaper at all. Make sure your friend only sits in a chair with a plastic seat cushion, and be prepared to blot any stains that come up when she's not wearing a diaper. Take advantage of the article How to Remove Urine Smells and Stains Permanently to find out the steps.
Step 3. Find an alternative that your friend can use, such as cloth diapers, if she chooses to wear disposable diapers for some reason
Although disposable diapers are the easiest to use (thinner, easy to change, no need to take home to wash), cloth diapers can be used when you are alone at home. Cloth diapers absorb urine in other ways which allow the skin to breathe differently, but can also make the wearer feel wetter and absorb more, especially when sitting and lying on your side will reduce the chances of leaking, thereby providing a greater sense of security. more. (Cloth diapers are often a bit more cumbersome to use and because plastic pants come into direct contact with urine, cloth diapers need to be re-used after drying with a towel or hand-washed after changing to a new one).
Step 4. Help your friend stock up on some diapers and changing supplies, in case he or she comes over to visit
Diapers, ointments, wet wipes, plastic pants will take up a lot of space especially for a long stay, considering that on a typical day, it may take three to five diaper changes. If your friend is a frequent visitor, it may be more practical to have a diaper stash in your house so you don't have to carry a large diaper bag every time you visit. Running out of diapers is a psychological burden that can lead your friend to probably carry more diapers than needed in the diaper bag. By having a diaper stash in your home where only you and your friend know where it is, this will let both of you know he can stay longer and you can have an impromptu event without the risk of your friend suddenly having to go to change diapers and have a nap. Coming home in wet diapers can be risky for leaks because there are no clean diapers available when they are most needed.
Part 4 of 4: Stay
Step 1. Plan a stay with a friend who has to wear diapers
If lots of people are coming, talk to your friend about her preference for wearing diapers all the time or only at night during her stay and whether she wants everyone who comes to know about the problem. Prepare a list of upcoming people and tell your friend who has confirmed to come and make sure he knows who is coming
Step 2. Make sure she can accept the fact that changing diapers while lying down can let more people know she's wearing diapers than just her friends who know her better
Diapers are worn differently when lying down than when standing. Go to bed and turn around during sleep, will make the area around the legs tighter. When the diaper wearer walks while wearing the diaper, the diaper will naturally form a bowl to keep urine in the body while providing more space it needs to move more freely. Lying down while changing diapers at night during sleepovers will make the diaper a lot tighter because the thigh muscles are not stretched. This will lead to a situation where your friend may need to borrow a bed and be left alone in the room to change into a diaper at night. You may need to mention this before your stay so you can have a private discussion, and tell your friend whether or not she can use your bed to change diapers during the stay
Step 3. Consider another option as a wake-up schedule for the diaper-wearing friend
When your bladder is full, you can go to the toilet, but your friend may think differently about putting on a diaper and feeling the need to pee. (Due to peer pressure, he may choose not to go to the toilet and decide to go to the diaper more quickly.) Embarrassing moments can occur when the diaper is seen leaking in the bed and surrounding area, accompanied by a urine odor in the diaper so that must immediately get out of bed wearing a diaper, which ultimately makes others see that he needs to use a diaper.
Step 4. Consider what you can do so your friend can sleep without any leakage problems during their stay
Calm your friend down and talk about using larger diapers, plastic or rubber pants. Another possibility is to purchase a single-use mattress or plastic/rubber sheet to protect the bed in the future. Removing stains can be done by reading the article How to Remove Urine Odors and Stains.
Step 5. Consider several options other than the breakfast routine in the morning
A lot of fluids are consumed during breakfast and the force of gravity when standing will increase the need to pee. This results in more urine in the first hour after sleep. Because of this, your friend can stay in a diaper at night at breakfast and change after, to keep them in a clean and comfortable diaper throughout the day. Another option is to change diapers right after getting up in the morning and showering, but diapers are more likely to be wet but not soaked during breakfast, which makes diapers already feel wet by the time the day starts and leaves the house. Many people with fecal incontinence will also experience an unexpected incident with poop in the first hour after waking up and leaving them in a diaper at night until a "big" event may be a good idea.
Step 6. Decide if a diaper-wearing friend should take a shower after their stay
Personal hygiene is especially important if your friend has been sleeping for several hours and eating breakfast in wet diapers, which will cause your friend to spend more time in the bathroom. Cleaning up in the morning and starting the day in a dry diaper can be a lot of fun. Not only physically clean, but also feeling fresh and fragrant all day long. This extra time needs to be considered when planning the next morning's activities and is not the time to talk about saving electricity costs and saving the environment.
Tips
- Consider not serving tea, caffeinated drinks, alcohol, or other diuretic drinks late in the evening or right before going out in public. This will create social pressure to refuse or mention diapers to your friends. If your friend asks for a cola, coffee, or beer, assume she's wearing a sizeable diaper or carrying a spare during that time.
- The focus of this guide is on people 13 years of age and over who are physically fit and active and can take care of themselves and wear disposable diapers.
Warning
- While it's culturally acceptable to pat or pinch a friend's buttocks, in many cultures, your friend may not like it when attention is drawn to her diaper or to feel her diaper being patted to check if it's wet or not.
- Don't ask a friend if you can change her diaper. Even if the intentions are good, it's like asking someone if you can take off their underwear. If you're more than just friends, this can be the right question when you're in the shower or in an intimate situation with him.
