Learning to give a sensual massage can give a spark in your relationship and spice up your love life. It's an amazing gift you can give your partner, and a great way to build trust and intimacy. If you want to give a better massage, you can learn how to prepare the body and the room, how to communicate effectively, and some tips and techniques for massaging the right points.
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing for the Massage
Step 1. Clean and prepare yourself
For this experience to be as sensual as possible, both of you need to feel comfortable, clean, and refreshed. Shower and get ready, paying special attention to your hands and nails. Your fingernails should be clean and trimmed before giving a sensual massage.
- If you're going to give your partner a massage, consider taking a bath together to start the romance early. Bathing or showering together is a great way to start a massage.
- It would also be nice to start with a massage and then, once things get greasy, get into the bath and wash off the oil.
Step 2. Make the massage space comfortable and inviting
Whether you will be massaging using a professional massage table, on a bed or on another surface, it is important to make the partner you are going to massage feel as comfortable as possible. Make sure the room is warm enough without clothes, if you want to undress, and make sure the sheets are clean and fresh. Light candles and fragrances to make the room feel special.
- Sometimes it's common to massage using hot stones, eye patches, massage sticks, and various other massage tools, but sometimes it's best to keep the massage as simple as possible. You don't need to prepare excessive equipment to give a sensual and pleasant massage for your partner.
- Soft music can be a complementary addition to a sensual massage, or even be a tacky and uncomfortable mistake. Ask your partner what he likes, and avoid the Barry White clichés.
Step 3. Use a variety of appropriate massage oils
While it's possible to give a good massage without oil, your partner is missing something. It will be more comfortable and sensual when you massage using natural massage oils.
- Commercial massage oils usually have a variety of scents, which can provide an intensely sensual massage experience. Some people may prefer unscented oils, but try to find out which one works best.
- You don't need to buy an oil specifically made for massage. As odd as it may sound, cooking oils like olive oil, coconut oil, or cocoa butter make excellent massage oils. Most masseurs prefer regular oil for cooking on the skin.
- You can also make your own massage oil by soaking lavender, calendula, rosemary, and other fragrant herbs or essential oils in natural oils. You can save money by mixing the oils yourself and storing them in jars.
Step 4. Talk to your partner first
The most important part of a sensual massage has nothing to do with where you put your hands. Massage will not be sensual if it does not involve trust and emotional intimacy. It is important to talk and listen, both before and during the massage.
- When massaging, ask something like, "Is this too hard?" or "Does it taste good?" when you move to a new area. Listen and adjust your massage according to your partner's answers.
- You should also avoid the risk of turning the massage into an interview. Use your judgment and listen to your partner's voice. A happy moan is a good sign, so keep doing what you're doing.
Part 2 of 3: Giving a Massage
Step 1. Warm the oil with your hands
Pour enough oil into your hands and rub to make them warm, then gently spread the oil over the body of the partner you are massaging. It is generally typical to start at the back and shoulders.
- Never pour cold oil directly on your partner's back. It can be shocking and uncomfortable, and can make your partner feel tense. You should warm the oil itself and add it periodically, if the skin starts to dry out, or when the oil has absorbed.
- If you want to heat up massage oil, do so very gently, and always test it on your own skin before applying it to your partner's skin.
Step 2. Apply firm, even pressure with your palms
There are many variations of massage techniques, but there is no big secret to making your partner feel good. Use a firm but gentle touch, giving long movements in your partner's muscles. Use the base of your palm to push, and use the other hand to touch sensitive points.
- Remember it's important to massage along the muscles, not pushing against the bones. It doesn't feel good if you push hard into someone's elbow, but it feels good if you massage the inside of the arm.
- Try experimenting if you've never had a massage before, massage your own shoulder and see where it feels good. Find a common spot on your partner, and remember how hard you touched your own shoulder. It should be the same.
Step 3. Use your thumb for the tense area
In general, you should start the massage in long motions, then return to the sore or problematic point using your thumb. If you find a spot that feels really good to your partner, or if your partner wants you to be louder, switch to your thumb for extra support and pressure.
Always use gentle motions, rubbing your thumbs in circular motions along the back of your calves, over your buttocks, and under your back area
Step 4. Focus on the neglected body part
Everyone knows that touching the genitals and other sensitive zones will feel good. But going straight to the area can make the massage a bit rough and rushed. Slowly, as long as your partner is comfortable (communicate!), explore the neglected body parts to make your massage more sensual and thorough. Don't forget about:
- Wrist
- Leg bend
- Fingers and palms
- back of neck
- Ear
- Back of knee
Step 5. Use the rest of your body
Arms, elbows, knuckles, and even your oily chest and torso can be an effective way to massage tense muscles and create an intimate touch with your partner. As long as your partner is okay with body contact as part of the massage, take advantage of what your body has to make your partner feel good.
Sometimes it is also popular to use other objects to help the massage process. Massage sticks, or even the massage oil bottle itself, can be used to roll around sore muscles and to reduce tension, when done properly. But it's a bit less sensual (and also cold) than your own hands, so take that into account and it's better to go the simple way
Step 6. Go slow
Massage is not a quick prelude to sex. Let the massage last for a while, taking time to treat your partner with a sensual touch, because it feels good, not because it could lead to anything else.
It is also important to avoid distractions during a sensual massage. Massage will be far from sensual if you watch a sporting event at the same time. Turn off the television and devote your attention to your partner's body
Part 3 of 3: Hitting the Right Point
Step 1. Start with the shoulders and back of the neck
One of the best areas to start is the shoulders and neck, pressing gently and gently with your thumbs down the sides of the cervical spine. Keep moving down the back of the neck in small circles, and watch your partner respond.
The point where the neck and shoulders meet is a good area to press, paying particular attention to the point where the shoulder blades begin. Always move along the bones, not across them
Step 2. Massage both sides of the spine
As you move down your back, the muscles along the sides of your spine feel great when gently massaged. Use your thumbs in small circular motions and longitudinal motions, with even pressure. Do not press directly on the spine, but along both sides. It will feel great.
Step 3. Massage the back of the calf
Pay close attention to the calves, massage the two large muscles behind the calves separately. This is the difference between a great massage and a great massage. Also press your thumbs up and along the tendons behind the thighs, to massage any areas that may be sore.
Step 4. Don't forget the feet
Moving your thumb along the curve of your foot feels great. Massage each toe, apply a small amount of oil, and use both thumbs in small circular motions along the ball of the foot, the area at the base of the toes. It's better to use strong pressure, or your partner will feel ticklish.
If you always give a massage from head to toe, try to vary a little. Start at the feet and work your way up
Step 5. Perform the last movement slowly
Once you've finished massaging your partner's entire body and applying plenty of oil, use your palms in lengthwise motions, very slowly and return to all the points you just massaged. This is a very pleasant way to end a massage. It's also a good idea to use your arms, or knuckles, to change the sensation of the last massage of the area.
Step 6. Ask your partner for guidance
Always do what feels good to your partner. If you want to massage the front of the body, or other more specific areas, talk about it first and decide together. Good communication is the most important part of a massage.
