Being sensual means enjoying worldly pleasures and taking time to indulge the senses. Although people think that sensuality has sexual connotations, it doesn't have to be; Spending time enjoying a freshly made buttered croissant on a busy morning can be as sensual as giving your partner a massage after a long day at work. The important thing is to slow down and enjoy the physical sensations around you instead of rushing through the day. If you want to know how to be more sensual, see Step 1 to get started.
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Part 1 of 3: Having the Right Mindset
Step 1. Don't equate sensuality with sexuality
Although sensuality can enhance sexuality, it is not always sexual. Stop thinking of sensuality as something only to do with sex and consider other ways to be sensual; standing in the pouring rain, dipping strawberries in chocolate, or closing your eyes and listening to your favorite classical music. Once you let go of preconceptions about what sensual means, you can feel more free for personal exploration.
Being sensual isn't all about what's going on in the bedroom. However, being sensual in your everyday life and taking time to enjoy the world around you can definitely make you feel more pleasure in the bedroom
Step 2. Enjoy your own body
No, it's not what you think – what it means is, if you want to be a sensual person, you have to feel good about yourself. If you're not happy with who you are and how you look, it's a lot harder to let your body enjoy the world around you, whether it's kissing your partner or sunbathing on the beach. Work on building self-confidence and self-esteem, and soon, you'll see that you can get more pleasure and enjoyment out of the mundane things around you.
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This doesn't mean you have to look like a supermodel, or even think that you look like a supermodel. That means you have to love your own body and be open to whatever sensations the world has to offer.
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Being comfortable with yourself is not something that happens overnight. But you can make a real effort to be happy being yourself by doing the things you love, being around people who make you feel better, and working to improve whatever you want to improve.
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Step 3. Go slow
If you want to be sensual, you have to stop rushing through the day without stopping to catch your breath – or to enjoy the rainbow forming behind the clouds. The adage "stop and smell the roses" is not without meaning. Life can pass in an instant, and it's important that you take the time to enjoy the world around you. Get to school or work fifteen minutes early so you can slow down and pay attention to the world around you. Walk around looking around instead of typing text messages or calling all the way. If your friend goes to the bathroom at a bar, see interesting diners around you instead of logging into Facebook. You'll see the big difference this action makes in your ability to enjoy the world around you.
Part of the reason you find it hard to slow down is that your days are so full that you don't have time to breathe. See what you can cut back on to get some free time to enjoy the world around you. If this sounds ridiculous, come up with a more concrete plan; decide to watch the sunset, enjoy a bottle of wine with a friend, or go to an outdoor concert
Step 4. Find new ways to indulge your senses
Sensual people always want to enjoy life more. Don't just try to enjoy the old things you've always done, but find new ways to use your senses and experience what the world has to offer. Go on a hike and stop to see flora and fauna, go wine tasting with your partner, or cook a delicious breakfast instead of just the plain biscuits you eat as you walk. Think of something you've been meaning to do for a long time, whether it's mountain biking or photographing roses in a city park, and make a plan to actually do it.
This doesn't mean you have to pressure yourself in a million ways to be sensual. What this means is that you must always be open to new experiences that indulge the senses
Step 5. Enjoy the present moment
If you want to be sensual, you have to learn to live in the present and welcome each new day. Don't spend the day worrying about what will happen in the next three months or regretting something you said a week ago. It's pointless and won't change anything. Instead, enjoy the present moment, look around you, get some fresh air, and find pleasure in even something as simple as a conversation with a coworker. Learn to live in the present moment and you will be able to take the time to indulge in the pleasures that indulge the senses.
Whether on the bus after work or sitting in the office, take time to pay attention to the world around you. What's the weather like? What do you see outside the window? What do you kiss? What did you hear? How many details can you write about the current moment? Getting into the habit of asking yourself these details can help you live in the moment
Step 6. Spend time doing things that excite you
Don't feel guilty for doing something that really makes you feel good and happy. This could mean having sex with your partner more often, making time to cook delicious meals even if the time is short, or playing your favorite music when you wake up in the morning. You're not hurting anyone by spending time having fun with your favorite activity, and in the process you'll become a more sensual person.
Think about what your week usually looks like. Is there an activity you could give up, like watching television, to do something you really love, like taking a yoga class or painting in the garden near your house?
Part 2 of 3: Indulging Your Senses
Step 1. Play with your hair
Take the time to brush your hair, toss your hair back, run your fingers through the strands, and enjoy the feel of the hair on your head. While in the shower, take time to massage the shampoo and conditioner into your scalp and enjoy the feel of your fingers running through your hair. This will help you pamper the most amazing parts of your body. And if you have a partner, playing with her hair will add a sensual touch to the relationship.
Step 2. Spend more time in the shower
That's right. Taking a shower doesn't have to be like a race in and out as quickly as possible. While it's great for being eco-friendly and saving water, enjoy a bath or spend more time lathering your body and enjoying the clean sensation and feeling of the water running down your body. Sing if you want. Take the time to enjoy the sensation of being clean instead of rushing into the shower to welcome the day as quickly as possible.
Step 3. Apply lotion
Take a lotion with a nice scent and massage it all over your body. This will help you spend more time in sensation, both with your senses of touch and smell. Your body will also feel softer and you will enjoy the touch and feeling throughout the day. This lotion doesn't need to have a strong scent, a touch of a soft floral scent is enough to make you feel happier all day long.
Step 4. Enjoy the soft fabric
Wear silk robes that feel soft against the skin. Enjoy time under your favorite cozy blanket. Buy a new pillow that feels like heaven on your head. Wear a jacket that makes you feel like you're wearing a pillow. Take some time to enjoy the sensation of a piece of cloth or clothing between your fingers or your body, and you will have a more sensual experience.
Step 5. Go to the farmer's market
Farmers market is the perfect place to use all your senses. Head to your local farmer's market and try all the samples they have to offer. Feel the weight and texture of various fruits and vegetables in your hand. Stop and smell the fresh coriander, parsley, and other herbs you see. Spend some time enjoying pleasant conversations with the people selling their produce and at least bringing home fresh fruit and bouquets of flowers. You don't have to be a master chef to enjoy this sensory – and sensual – experience.
Step 6. Enjoy delicious home food
Cooking simple meals at home can awaken your senses and make you feel much more sensual in the process of cooking and eating them. You don't have to be Julia Child to roast chicken in the oven, make delicious beetroot and feta cheese, and bake delicious polenta to top it off. Taking the time to cook, especially when you're with a friend and over some wine, can take the sensory eating experience to a whole new level.
Step 7. Go wine tasting
Plan a wine tasting trip with a loved one or a group of friends. Tasting a variety of wine flavors is not only perfect for awakening the senses, but the wine countryside is almost all beautiful, and you will awaken your senses of taste, smell and sight as you embark on this amazing adventure.
Step 8. Listen to your favorite music
Whether you like Queen or Lily Allen, there's nothing wrong with playing your favorite music whenever you want (as long as you're not driving other people crazy). Wake up to your favorite song, listen to it as you drive, or throw a private dance party while you cook your own dinner. You can also go to a club with some friends or go to a concert. Music awakens the senses and brings your mind and body to life.
Step 9. Indulge in the great outdoors
Whether this means hiking up a mountain, taking a walk in the woods, or simply sunbathing on the beach and listening to the sound of the waves crashing against the shore, take the time to make nature a big part of your life and you won't regret it. The more time you spend in the sun, breathing fresh air and enjoying the outdoors, the more sensual you will feel. Being out in nature also helps you learn to live in the moment and to appreciate what you have, which is also key to being sensual.
Step 10. Go to the art museum
Whether it's modern art or Renaissance painting, head to a museum of your choice and enjoy the contemplative silence that fills each room, while you and other visitors enjoy the beautiful work around you. Look at a painting without judging, don't try to analyze or even read about it, just think about how you feel when you look at it. Spend at least two hours out there without a cell phone or saying a single word, and see how much it awakens your sense of sight.
Part 3 of 3: Become More Sensual with Your Partner
Step 1. Hold hands often
Being sensual with your partner doesn't always mean taking your clothes off. In fact, holding hands with your partner, stroking his fingers, and feeling the weight of his hand in yours is one of the most sensual experiences you can have. Make time to hold your partner's hand often, whether you're walking in the moonlight, sitting down to dinner, or watching television. You'd be surprised how much this action can deepen your relationship.
Step 2. Slow down your kiss
Don't just view a kiss as a means for something more or as a spontaneous act of welcoming your partner. Instead, take the time to really enjoy the kiss just because you want to kiss your partner, no frills. Kiss your partner for at least six seconds every day, and pass the time just sitting and kissing. it can bring amazing sensations, no matter how long you've been together.
Step 3. Give a sensual massage alternately with your partner
A massage is undoubtedly one of the most sensual experiences ever, and you can definitely take your relationship to a new level of sensuality if you and your partner give each other a massage. You can take turns, or just focus on your partner (or vice versa) for one night and see how good it feels to have a massage on your back, shoulders, arms and body after a long day or otherwise feel the pleasure of giving your partner the same pleasure. You can even take this to the next level by dabbing lotion on each other's bodies.
Step 4. Hug and cuddle often
While you might think that cuddling and making out is just an act of pampering, it's actually an important part of the sensory experience. Taking the time to be close to your partner and feel your body sink into his or her arms can be a very sensual experience, whether it leads to something more or not. Set aside time to cuddle with your partner more often, whether in bed or just watching television. Connecting your bodies in this way can lead to a more sensual relationship.
Step 5. Write a love letter
Who says love letters are out of date? Try writing a love letter to your partner just because you feel like telling them how amazing they are. You don't need to write a letter because it's her birthday or Valentine's Day, it will be much appreciated if you send or give a love letter on any day. You can leave messages in certain places for your partner to find, and you'll soon see that you've taken your relationship to a new level of sensuality.
Step 6. Make more eye contact
Take the time to really look at your partner as he or she walks into the room, when you talk, or even when you pass each other. There's something very sensual about staring into the eyes of the person you love, and you should get into the habit of doing it more often, even if it's just casual conversation. Making eye contact with your partner more often will deepen the relationship and will make your relationship much more sensual.
Step 7. Tickle each other
Right. You're never too old to tickle someone, and tickling a partner, or a tickle war, can bring sensory pleasure. Even if you're just laughing and playing, you can also experience sensory sensations, and will enjoy the light touch of a feather on your toes, neck, or waist. Tickling your feet can also be a very sensual activity, especially if you're using fur.
Step 8. Spend more time in bed
This does not mean you have to make love longer, but you should pay more attention and enjoy when you have physical intercourse with your partner, be it kissing or more. Devote more time to keeping the relationship strong and flaming, not just because you feel like you have to make a certain amount of sex each week. If you involve more awareness in the relationship, your sensuality will be awakened.
