Every young woman wants to be successful in her personal and professional life. But the road to success can be tough and tough and you have to be proactive in some aspects of life. With dedication and following a few key tips, you too can have your way to personal and professional success.
Method 1 of 2: Success in Personal Life
Step 1. Set goals
Before you can be on your way to success in your personal life, you should set goals for yourself. By setting goals clearly in a short, medium and long term context, you too have something that will remind you of what you are trying to achieve.
- Write down your goals on paper. Having a visual clue will remind you of your goal. For example, you might write: "My short-term goal is to find a good partner and complete graduate studies. My mid-term goal is to get engaged and find a great job. My long-term goal is to get married and have a family while having a career as a successful financial planner."
- Update your goals as you reach them. Once or twice a year, re-evaluate your goals to make sure they're still realistic and achievable.
- Setting unrealistic goals can not only cause unnecessary anxiety, but it can also hinder your success and your ability to achieve other goals. Try talking to a therapist about setting personal goals or discussing any anxieties you may have related to them.
- Realize that your to-do lists and goals you have set may not be achieved and this is not a problem. When you reach a goal and cross things off your to-do list, you usually add something new.
Step 2. Try to believe and have confidence that you will succeed
Two characteristics of a successful person is that he or she is not only confident but also believes in his or her ability to succeed. By instilling and projecting confidence into yourself and others, you too are well on your way to success.
- Confidence comes from many sources, including realizing that you have a good education and training, good relationships, or even an attractive appearance. If you are not confident in some areas, take proactive steps to address the issue.
- For example, if you don't feel confident because your friends are more successful professionally, try working towards greater professional success through education or even promotions at work. If your appearance makes you feel inferior, try to improve it. You can try something as simple as coloring your hair and it can make a big difference.
- It's important to know that even if you are confident and successful, failure is part of this journey.
- Disappointment and failure are components of success. Even someone like writer J. K Rowling has failed before succeeding.
Step 3. Don't expect perfection from yourself or others
As you strive to achieve your goals, be confident and believe in your success, it's important to make sure you don't expect perfection from yourself or those around you. In fact, trying to be perfect often hinders your ability to perform well and can alienate those around you.
- Perfection doesn't mean you're not trying your best, but it does mean you're headed toward an unattainable goal. For example, if you're trying to have the "perfect" body, minor failures can keep you from enjoying your day. You should love yourself for who you are and try to take advantage of what is inside of you.
- Expecting perfection from others can have a serious negative impact on your relationship, even destroy it.
Step 4. Have meaningful personal relationships
Surround yourself with genuine friends and colleagues who will help you through the good times as well as the bad as these are essential to your success. Over time, it is important to maintain this relationship to ensure success and boost your confidence.
- In addition to having meaningful relationships with friends, colleagues, and family, it's also important to have a supportive partner. Your partner can instill confidence in you and will support your goals for personal and professional success.
- One of the things to maintaining a meaningful relationship is that you reciprocate the support and affection you receive.
- Expressing gratitude is key to having a meaningful relationship. It's important to show anyone who helps you on your journey how much you appreciate it.
Step 5. Take care of yourself physically and mentally
You can't be successful if you don't take care of your physical and mental health. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and increase endorphins and energy.
- Taking a short walk twice a day can refresh the body and mind. For example, you can run 5 kilometers to maintain a healthy body while contemplating personal or professional issues.
- In a world where you can be easily contacted via cell phone, email, and social media, spending time without distractions from these communication media is essential to maintaining your health by minimizing the time you spend on them every day. For example, you could turn off all electronics at 1pm so you can have an hour or two for yourself or for your family. Another option is to exercise, such as walking or running, to give yourself time.
Step 6. Keep an eye on your finances
It is difficult to have personal success if financial circumstances are not in order. By controlling your financial situation, you not only encourage self-confidence, but you also open up opportunities for yourself such as continuing education and so on.
- It is important to make a budget. Knowing where your money is coming from and what you're using it for can help you to control your finances more effectively. One of the things that must be considered is to use credit cards wisely and not to buy something impulsively when you can't really afford it. For example, don't rent an apartment for Rp. 5.000.000, - per month when your salary is Rp. 7,000,000, - a month.
- Make sure you save regularly. If there's an emergency, you'll need to take it out of your stash to get through tough times. Also, you may want to save for something special like a big vacation which is important to help you refresh your mind and, if you go on vacation with someone else, strengthen your relationship with them.
Method 2 of 2: Professional Success
Step 1. Make a plan and set goals
Just as you would with your personal life, you should set goals for your professional life. By setting goals in the short, medium, and long term, you also have something to remind you of what you are trying to do. It can also help you in making plans to achieve those goals.
- Write down your goals on paper. It's a good idea to have a visual reminder of your goals. For example, you might write: "Your short-term goal is an internship as an editor, your mid-term goal is to get a master's degree in English, and your long-term goal is to work as Editor in Chief for Vogue magazine."
- Make sure you update your goals when you've successfully achieved one of them. Once or twice a year, re-evaluate your goals to make sure they are realistic and attainable and create new goals as needed. You could try discussing it with a colleague or perhaps with your boss.
- Don't set unrealistic goals for yourself. Not only can this cause unnecessary anxiety, but it can also hinder your ability to achieve other goals. For example, if you work as an admin, you are less likely to become CEO next year. But you can try from admin and get a better position, for example.
- Talking to a senior colleague or trusted supervisor can help ease any worries or anxieties you have about your career.
Step 2. Get as much education and training as possible
Having work-related education and training is essential for success in the professional world. But you also have to make sure that you continue to develop yourself through education and training throughout your career so that you continue to be a valuable person in the office or a wanted person if you decide to change jobs.
- There are many ways to get an education for your job. You can try to research the requirements for your chosen profession. For example, if you want to be a lecturer at a university, you may need a doctoral degree and some training that will allow you to teach in the classroom. If you want to be a wedding planner, you need more education and training than a degree.
- The training and type of education gained from practical experience are also invaluable as you market yourself in the professional world. For example, working as an editorial assistant at a magazine could help you land a job as an editor.
- Knowing that you have the right education and training also helps as it builds confidence and makes you more attractive to your employer or potential employer.
Step 3. Have confidence and trust that you will be successful professionally
Two characteristics of a successful person are not only have confidence in themselves, but he also believes in his ability to succeed. By cultivating and projecting self-confidence, you too are on your way to success not only for yourself, but for those who employ you.
- Know that having a good education and training will increase your self-confidence. If you lack confidence in some areas, take proactive steps to encourage them.
- For example, if you don't feel confident because many of your promoted colleagues are stepping over you, try to achieve professional success through education or even promotion. It's also a good idea to talk to your boss or other colleagues about how to improve your performance.
- It's important to know that even if you are confident and successful, failure is part of this journey. Both Bill Gates and Steve Jobs experienced failure before finding success.
Step 4. Try to be passionate about what you do
You can't be truly successful unless you have a passion for your profession. If you don't like your job, you're less likely to work hard for success.
Work will be boring if you don't love it. This will make you tend to be careless in doing tasks and not take the initiative that can help you to be successful
Step 5. Don't be afraid to take risks
Changing the professional path to put you on the path to success requires you to take risks. However, that does not mean you make decisions recklessly. It's best if you take the risk after thinking about it carefully.
The goal is to think carefully before taking a risk, not to make a decision that could get in the way of your goal. For example, maybe you like your current workplace, but you feel stuck. When the opportunity arises for a promotion at another company, try to weigh the pros and cons of accepting this job and try to assess how much of a risk it poses to you personally and professionally. This is called taking a risk after careful consideration
Step 6. Be an effective communicator
At a time when the workforce is shifting heavily to team-based work, contact with a larger, more diverse customer base, and greater expectations of employees, the ability to communicate effectively and positively with colleagues is critical to your professional success. Being an effective communicator requires being willing to be a good listener, being polite and having the ability to express gratitude.
- Be a good listener to anyone you deal with professionally. The ability to listen to someone's needs or concerns will not only help to cultivate your relationship with that person, it can also help you achieve your goals.
- Always be polite to everyone, even if he is not being polite. There's a saying "you can get more bees with honey than you can with vinegar" and this statement you can apply to your professional life. Giving a bad impression to a colleague or colleague can have lasting consequences in your professional life.
- Being polite is also a must when breaking bad news to someone in a professional manner. For example, if you need to fire someone, say something positive to the person, followed by something negative, and then reconnect with some positive feedback.
- Express gratitude to your colleagues. The ability to know if someone has your back is important for maintaining a good work relationship. Not only will this make the person feel valued and show them that you respect their contribution, but you will also get a personal benefit from your colleague.
Step 7. Maintain good working relationships
Without positive working relationships with colleagues at your job, you cannot be successful. It is therefore important to maintain and develop a professional network that will support you over time.
- One of the things that must be done to maintain a good working relationship is to widen the network. Having a wide network of colleagues and even professional friends that you can rely on can help you professionally not only in your current job, but also with former colleagues or people you have met in the past in connection with work.
- Having a mentor who is experienced in your profession is a good idea. He or she can provide valuable guidance on everything from taking risks to dealing with colleagues, or improving your skills.
- Don't expect perfection from your colleagues or yourself. This can have a serious negative impact on your working relationship, as well as your professional success.
- Realize that it's okay to be wrong, especially if you have to maintain a professional relationship. This shows that you are a person who is more capable of being proud.
Step 8. Rest and take a vacation
Taking time away from work starting at ten minutes per day or taking a vacation is essential to your success. Taking care of that work refreshes your mind, prevents you from stressing out, and can recharge yourself before you get back on the road to success.
- Take breaks at work. Taking a short break gives the brain and body a chance to relax and refresh themselves.
- Schedule an annual vacation to help you freshen up. A ten-minute walk or run can help you freshen up during the workday, but with an annual vacation, you can really get away from work and refresh your body and mind.
- Realize that it's okay to make mistakes, make sure you remember to learn from them.
- Try to be consistently helpful and kind.