Living in harmony with others is easy to say, but difficult to implement, especially in an environment full of conflict, disagreement, and disagreement. If you want to live in harmony with the people closest to you and the community, start by establishing good relationships with friends, family members, spouses, and neighbors. If there is a fight, handle it with a good attitude and full of patience. Help others in the community. Make sure you are able to make peace with yourself so that you can live in harmony with others.
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Method 1 of 4: Establish Good Relationships with Others
Step 1. Get involved in community events
Find out information about activities organized by RT/RW administrators. Be a volunteer in your neighborhood, for example by taking part in community service to clean sewers or donating goods/money for halal bihalal events in housing complexes. This step is an opportunity to interact and establish a relationship with neighbors.
Step 2. Interact with neighbors
Meet the residents of the house in your housing. Knock on the door of the neighbor's house while bringing fruit for him. Say hello to neighbors who pass you on the street. Be friendly and friendly to them so that good relations between residents in your housing can be established.
- Invite neighbors to dinner or coffee together to get to know each other better.
- Offer help to neighbors. For example, if you have an elderly neighbor, offer to help mow the lawn or water the plants in their yard.
Step 3. Do activities with friends regularly
Set aside time to meet good friends so that the relationship remains close and unbroken. Schedule a meeting with a different friend a week or once a month to keep the friendship and communication going.
- For example, make a coffee schedule with friends once a week or play a game with a few friends once a month.
- Create a tradition with friends. Make an arrangement to get together for a friend's birthday or go on a trip together once a year.
Step 4. Enjoy quality time with family members
Try so that you and your family members can experience beautiful and meaningful moments together. Get used to having dinner with family members or invite relatives to stay at home. Plan family outings to go on vacation, especially if you haven't traveled with them in a long time.
- If you are not familiar with relatives, contact them occasionally. Relationships are more harmonious if you set aside more time for them.
- Keep family traditions and create new ones. Sharing stories about daily activities and reminiscing about fun moments together with family members can strengthen a sense of belonging.
Step 5. Express your feelings honestly with friends and family members
Be open to them when you need a friend to share your feelings with. Don't be shy or shy if you want to share how you're feeling. Act as you are so that you feel relieved and free from the burden of thoughts with the support of those closest to you.
For example, if you're having a problem, tell a friend what you're going through and ask for their advice or support
Step 6. Be nice and pay attention to your lover or partner
Show respect for your loved one or partner and be grateful for their presence in your life. Give him attention and praise every day to let him know that you respect him because he is an important person to you.
Do this step by thanking or appreciating your lover/partner every time he or she helps you
Method 2 of 4: Overcoming Differences in Views and Quarrel
Step 1. Don't yell or curse at other people
The fighting gets worse if you behave rudely or get angry with the other person. Instead, take a deep breath and respond calmly and thoughtfully to what he says.
- If you are very upset, it is better to say goodbye to be alone for a while and then come back to see him when you feel calm and relaxed.
- Be patient with the angry person and offer to discuss the problem when he is ready. It is better for both parties to calm down so that they can discuss calmly without getting carried away by emotions.
Step 2. Show compassion and empathy when dealing with anger
Deal with angry people with compassion and patience. Instead of getting irritated, think about how to solve the problem and come up with a solution. Show empathy for the other person and learn to accept their flaws or weaknesses, instead of expecting them to change or understand your perspective.
- For example, if you're having an argument with a friend, imagine how he or she feels and try to understand their point of view. Then respond in a tactful manner, rather than angry.
- Remember that certain events can be understood from different perspectives by different people. Try to understand his point of view by asking him to explain his perspective on the problem at hand.
Step 3. Learn to be an active listener
When chatting, make eye contact with the person you are talking to, even if you don't agree with them. Extend your arms at your sides in a relaxed manner while standing or sitting opposite to make them feel cared for. Nod your head every now and then and say "yes" or "okay" to let him know you're listening.
- Don't interrupt the person who is talking. Wait until he's finished speaking and then paraphrase what he's saying so he knows you heard exactly what he's saying.
- Restate what you understand from what he said in your own words, for example, "From what I heard, you said that _".
Step 4. Be prepared to compromise
Sometimes, things don't go the way you want. Therefore, you need to compromise with people who have different opinions or give in and accept their decisions. By compromising, you're prepared for any situation so that disagreements don't upset you or get into fights.
- For example, make an agreement about sharing household chores with your partner, instead of arguing about "who does what." Another example, invite coworkers to support each other in completing group assignments, instead of wanting to dominate or compete.
- Compromising means both parties need to give in to get what they want. Be prepared to give in so that both of you are equally happy.
Step 5. Accept the fact that differences of opinion are normal
In order for you to get along well with other people, remember that you need to make friends with everyone. At times, you may challenge his ideas or beliefs so that you both disagree. Realize that you don't have to agree with a certain person.
Just because you have a different opinion or disagree with someone doesn't mean you don't need to love them or empathize with them. You can still establish a good relationship and live in harmony with him
Method 3 of 4: Helping Others
Step 1. Give help to neighbors, friends, or relatives who need it
Show concern for others by offering to help them know that you care about them. Provide selfless help so that you can establish genuine relationships with others.
- For example, when visiting a sick relative, bring food if he can't cook because he's sick.
- If your neighbor is going on vacation, offer to help water the plants in their yard or take care of their pets.
- Set aside time to accompany a friend who has just broken up. Invite him to chat or hang out with friends to keep him entertained.
Step 2. Volunteer by joining an NGO
Look for an NGO or charity that needs volunteers. Offer to help at a homeless shelter or halfway house for women. Set aside time to help with a charity bazaar or arts festival in your city. Contributing time and energy to others makes you feel connected in a positive way.
Apart from getting to know new friends or acquaintances, you can meet like-minded people and expand your social network so you don't feel lonely
Step 3. Donate money to something useful
You are free to give money to support activities that align with your life mission. Make a donation to an advocacy team in your city or a national campaign that voices your mission and principles in life.
Allocate money to donate a month or once a year according to your income
Step 4. Help the youth by being a mentor
Look for schools or religious communities that need mentors to support youth, for example by providing motivation or spiritual guidance.
- You can become a mentor by giving free courses to students after school.
- Several alumni associations at schools and universities provide students with the opportunity to communicate with experts in their field of interest.
Step 5. Buy local products
Support the domestic economy by developing the business of entrepreneurs in your city. Choose domestic products when shopping. Get to know local vendors so you feel attuned to the community.
For example, look for markets and vendors selling local farmers' produce
Method 4 of 4: Keeping Aligned With Yourself
Step 1. Enjoy a hobby or activity that you enjoy
Take time to enjoy your most enjoyable hobbies, such as painting, writing articles, reading, or drawing. In addition, you can enjoy your hobbies by exercising, for example playing basketball, golf, or badminton. Watch useful TV shows if you like relaxing activities while relaxing.
Doing fun activities makes you feel calm and peaceful. Thus, you spread positive energy that is beneficial to others
Step 2. Take time to practice yoga and breathe deeply.
Keep your mind, body, and breath in harmony by taking a yoga class at the gym or yoga studio. Get used to breathing deeply so that you always feel calm and relaxed.
Yoga practice and deep breathing help you focus your mind and calm yourself so you can make peace with yourself and others
Step 3. Allocate time for self-care
Taking care of yourself means understanding what you need and working to fulfill it, such as taking a shower twice a day, dressing up, reading a book, or resting. In addition, you can take care of yourself by exercising or stretching your muscles.
If you are very busy due to a hectic schedule, set aside -1 hour each day to take care of yourself. Include these activities in your schedule so you can do them consistently
Step 4. Use positive affirmations
This step helps you live your daily life and interact with others in harmony and peace. Say positive affirmations every morning before work and every night before bed.
- For example, say to yourself, "I love other people" or "I feel calm and happy today."
- Live life according to the values you believe in. Alignment between lifestyle with virtue values and beliefs makes you always feel calm and peaceful so that you can live in harmony with others.
