There is no formula for the perfect kiss. However, there are a few tips and techniques you can use if you want to give your partner a great experience.
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Part 1 of 3: Before Kissing
Step 1. Take care of yourself
Before you do anything, you have to create an appearance and atmosphere that will make your partner want to kiss you. However, you don't have to do anything fancy to make yourself attractive to kiss. Oftentimes, the usual simple treatments can help you achieve this.
- For men, try shaving your face neatly beforehand. The base of the mustache or beard is often rough and uncomfortable for women and can make your kisses feel uncomfortable. You can also wear cologne, but don't overdo it.
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For women, applying an attractive scent is very helpful. Try using a moisturizer because it can make your skin look smoother while giving your body a little scent. Spray a little body spray or perfume on it.
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Step 2. Prepare your lips
Soft and moist lips are much more attractive to kiss than dry and chapped lips. Basic lip treatments that don't require a lot of effort can be very beneficial, so if your lips tend to be dry, start wearing lip balm before meeting someone you want to kiss.
- Lip balm can be used by both men and women. Men who find it difficult to use lip care products at least try to use a lip balm that is odorless and not glossy so that it can maintain the moisture level of the lips.
- Girls can also wear lip gloss, lip stain or lipstick, but there are a few things to consider. Avoid products that are sticky or contain glitter. Apply a product that makes your lips slightly glossy, inviting to kisses, but don't let your lips look unnaturally wet.
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If you don't have time to moisturize your lips before the kiss, quickly moisten your lips with your tongue to make them slightly moist.
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Step 3. Freshen your breath
No matter how far you smell, your partner will definitely smell your breath. Bad breath can turn a great kiss into a bad one, so keep your mouth clean and smell good before you lean in to kiss your partner.
- If possible, brush your teeth and tongue before kissing. You can also try using mouthwash.
- Avoid foods with a strong smell before the kiss such as onions, curries, and so on.
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Suck peppermint-flavored candy if all else fails. Or, you can clean your mouth by drinking green tea before the kiss. Several studies have shown that an odor-free mouth kiss gives a stronger impression than a peppermint mouth kiss, and green tea can freshen breath without changing the smell or taste.
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Step 4. Minimize distractions
Try moving to a slightly secluded area so the two of you can immerse yourself in the kiss after kiss that is being given to each other without feeling embarrassed or bothered.
- Apart from privacy concerns, location can also affect the atmosphere between the two of you. There's a reason candlelight dinners, rain, and camping under the stars can be so romantic.
- Of course location isn't the only annoyance you can face. Cell phones are often a nuisance these days, so turn off your cell phones before you start building the mood.
Step 5. Try reading the mood
Know if your partner is ready for a kiss and when the time is right. There's nothing wrong with being spontaneous, but no one will enjoy a forced kiss. If you want to give the perfect kiss, you have to make sure your partner is ready to accept it or not.
- Look for signs that indicate whether your partner wants to be kissed or not: his eyes that often fall to your lips, a tendency to lick his lips, whether he touches your body casually a few times, and the tone of his voice.
- Also watch for signs that your partner doesn't want to be kissed: busy eyes looking elsewhere than yours, pursed lips, tense body language, and if he doesn't seem very interested in personal topics or conversations..
Part 2 of 3: Kissing
Step 1. Move closer
Remove the distance between you and your partner. It's best if you both touch each other before you approach and kiss him.
A kiss that follows a hug can feel great if done while your upper bodies are still touching. Even if you don't kiss after the hug, your body language should be prepared as if the hug feels natural and not forced
Step 2. Create the atmosphere
Try to look your partner in the eye so they know you admire and want them. The perfect kiss should convey passion and appreciation, and the best way to give it is to create a good atmosphere.
- An effective way to build desire is to give your partner a small, gentle kiss on the face, but not on the lips. Gentle caresses on the couple's faces also give an equally strong effect. You can try stroking your partner's lips.
- Eye contact is very important in this step. Looking into your partner's eyes will make him more attached to you so that the kiss feels more intimate when it happens.
Step 3. Try checking the waves
Approach slowly, bringing your lips close to your partner's lips for a quick kiss. You'll know what to do once you see your partner's reaction, whether you should continue or not.
Step 4. Don't stop
If your partner enjoys your kiss, it's time to move on to the next round. Tilt your head to the right and land a closed-lip kiss on your partner's lips with more pressure than the previous kiss.
Research has shown that tilting your head to the right makes a kiss seem softer and more meaningful. Not that this is mandatory, but it can make a difference to how your partner interprets the kiss you give
Step 5. Don't rush
Each time you land a peck, hold it for a few moments before pulling your lips together. You can show that you really don't want to quit, making it more memorable. This can make your partner's desire increase so that your kissing experience is more satisfying.
By not rushing, your partner will know that you value the moment as much as you value the physical pleasure that comes from it. Emotional intimacy like this amplifies the intensity of the kiss
Part 3 of 3: Deepen the Kiss
Step 1. Don't stop reading the mood
Maybe you dissolve into the kiss, but that doesn't mean your partner feels the same way. If your partner sends a signal that he wants to quit, let him stop. There's no point in forcing something you no longer want.
The most basic thing to remember is this: if your partner approaches you when you're about to kiss him, that's good. If your partner is trying to avoid it, then he or she is trying to end it
Step 2. Use a different speed
While you're still holding your lips together, try to lighten the mood by alternating slow and fast kisses, or alternating light and aggressive kisses. That way you add a little bit of surprise to the experience that makes it even more enjoyable for both of you.
Step 3. Open your lips
After dissolving in a kiss with closed lips, try to kiss with open lips. If your partner enjoys the kiss as much as you enjoy it, he or she will probably follow your game and open his lips too.
- When you try to kiss with open lips, do so while kissing with closed lips is in progress. Bring your closed lips close to your partner's, then slowly open your lips while they are still in contact with his.
- For every kiss with open lips-including French kiss-should keep your lips soft and slightly parted. You have to position your lips between your partner's lips properly. If you open your lips too big, the spit might actually collect and drip. Of course there are exceptions, but try to follow these rules while you're still trying to figure out your partner's kissing style.
Step 4. Flirt with your tongue
If all goes well and you want to move on to a French kiss, try giving your partner a subtle hint. Gently touch your partner's lower lip with your tongue.
Although there is no time limit, this exploration stage should last about 30 seconds. If your partner doesn't like the sensation of your tongue, you'll know it too
Step 5. Use your tongue a little more
The key word is "a little." Use your tongue to explore and gently caress the inside of your partner's mouth, but don't be too aggressive. Try to touch the sensitive nerves in the mouth to make the experience more pleasurable, but don't overdo it until your partner has trouble breathing.
Step 6. Try biting and sucking
Position your partner's lower lip between yours, then suck on it gently for a few seconds before releasing it. You can also gently bite your partner's lower lip for a few seconds.
Just like a French kiss, a little bit is better when you bite and suck. Try to be gentle. The point is to cause pain in small enough quantities to release more endorphins or feel-good hormones. But you shouldn't leave any marks when you're done
Step 7. Use your hands
Your lips aren't the only thing that has to move when you're kissing. As the kiss deepens, you should pull your partner closer than ever before. Your hands should explore too-but remember not to cross a line your partner isn't ready to cross yet.
- Use both hands to stroke your partner's neck, sides or back. You can also stroke your partner's hair.
- If you're having trouble keeping your hands moving, at least try to hold on tight.
Step 8. Don't stay on the lips
Your partner's lips aren't the only place you can kiss when things get hotter. The neck, in particular, is a great area to go to when things get hot.
Try kissing the area between your partner's chin and neck. The skin in the area is thinner which means the nerves are closer to each other and causes the sensory receptors to respond better to kisses landed on the area
Step 9. Let the kiss take control
At some point you have to trust your instincts more than anything else. Don't try to control the kiss. The attraction between you and your partner will control everything. You just need to go with the flow.
