Any man can get a girlfriend, but only a real man treats his girlfriend well. Respect, honesty, and a little playfulness are examples of how to treat your boyfriend the way he should. Check out step 1 below to start learning how to treat your boyfriend right!
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Part 1 of 3: Respecting Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Never lie to her
Honesty is the foundation of all relationships. This can be difficult at times, but you shouldn't choose the easy way out by lying. Lying shows that you don't trust your boyfriend. Being caught lying in a relationship could end your relationship with your boyfriend.
It's important to remember that in the long run, honesty is easier than lying. Keeping a lie is very difficult and the slightest misspelling can destroy everything. A famous quote from Mark Twain, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything."
Step 2. Appreciate the thought
Just as you are free to develop your thoughts and opinions, so is your boyfriend. Different opinions are normal. Disagreements also don't mean that your boyfriend is blaming your opinion. The best thing you can do is listen to it and argue with it logically. Over time you will realize that this is normal and not to think too much about.
But still some differences that you should take seriously. For example, if you want a long-term relationship with him that he can't commit to yet, you should seriously discuss this with him
Step 3. Listen and REMEMBER what he says
It's important to show that you respect your boyfriend by hearing and remembering what he has to say. Do this seriously enter into a conversation with him. Of course no one can remember everything, at least you have to remember the important things he said like place of birth, food restrictions, middle names.
It would sound cynical if you deliberately chose something to remember from what your boyfriend said. Try to adopt a positive attitude when doing this – think of it as “trying to show that you value your boyfriend's thoughts” rather than “making things easier”
Step 4. Give him your attention
Couples in romantic relationships don't have to compete for attention. Show that you value your boyfriend by paying attention to him when you're together. For example, don't let yourself be distracted by the television behind you when you go to a restaurant, or worse if you're seduced by another woman.
Step 5. Reach mutual agreement on what makes you a real man
Many men are taught to be real men from childhood, but the message they are trying to convey can be confusing and contradictory. For example, your dad could teach your girl to pull up a chair, which your girl might actually think is overkill. The best thing to work out these differences is with your boyfriend about the definition of a real man for both of you.
It's important to respect your boyfriend's independence by taking his requests in this area to heart. Don't force the door to open for him, pull out a chair for him if he doesn't like it. This can cause irregularities in the long run. Real men know that respect in the truest sense is more important than displaying general etiquette
Step 6. Respect the boundaries of showing your love
Having different views on what is and isn't allowed to express affection is a great way to avoid conflict with him. Respecting your boyfriend sometimes means avoiding doing things you like but he doesn't like – you could say you have to sacrifice a little.
Consider the opposite scenario from above – do you want someone to kiss you when you don't want to? Certainly not. Putting yourself in his shoes will help you understand that the little things about you can mean a lot to him
Step 7. Don't be afraid to be with him
One way to show how much you respect him is to not hesitate to express yourself for him. This doesn't mean you have to overtly share personal information early in your relationship. However, you have to be open with it. Don't be afraid to say how you feel, even if it's a bad feeling.
It also means to fearlessly express your deepest fears. You can sometimes talk to him about concerns like your performance at school and work, your relationship with your parents, and more
Part 2 of 3: Showing You Care for Your Girlfriend
Step 1. Be proactive
Like most people, most girls won't ask to be treated well – they want you to spontaneously treat them well. If your boyfriend is constantly asking you for things in your relationship, like asking you to hold his hand, hear him talk, remember his birthday – these special things will make him sad rather than happy. This can even make him feel isolated. So try to make an effort to treat your boyfriend with respect without him having to ask for it.
Step 2. Keep in touch
It's hard to maintain your presence in his life (and vice versa) if you rarely talk to him. While every couple has a different way of communicating, you should generally try to meet up, call, or at least text them twice a week. You can ask how he is.
Be sure to contact your boyfriend yourself, not just return his calls and messages. Taking the initiative to make first contact with your boyfriend shows that you want him as much as he wants you
Step 3. Don't be materialistic
There is nothing more unromantic than a materialistic man. Your boyfriend should take precedence over money. For example, don't miss her birthday just to wash your car. Don't neglect your girlfriend for a week to play. Don't waste your time just for work. Keep your outlook on life – true love lasts longer than anything you can get.
That being said, a good boyfriend will never ask for anything bad for your finances
Step 4. Do the “just because” thing
It's normal for a guy to show concern for his girlfriend on her birthday. This is great if you don't need a special reason to celebrate something with him. Surprise your boyfriend, celebrate your relationship without the need for any reason with him. It doesn't have to be expensive, the important thing is that you can show him that you care and are always thinking about him.
Step 5. Be yourself when you're with him
The goal of a good relationship is that both parties don't have to try to be "nice" in front of their partner. In the context of a relationship, you need to be able to be who you really are and not someone else. This doesn't happen right away, but must happen to develop a good relationship.
Sometimes this means being honest about negative emotions, for whatever reason, that you can't express in your everyday life. Be honest and open with these emotions, they are a part of you, but don't let this be the only topic of conversation in your relationship
Step 6. Let him know that he is valuable to you
This goes far beyond daily compliments, which can become dull if you repeat yourself over and over again. If you want to make him feel special, be specific, take examples from your personal story and try to express your thoughts. Also, try changing the "stupidity" of your comments to a level that is comfortable for your boyfriend. Finally, pick a golden opportunity to make a comment like this. No matter how well you speak, you don't repeat it over and over again.
For example, if you know your boyfriend is comfortable with a little stupidity in your verbal expressions of affection, instead of saying “Hey, nice dress”, just say “I like your shirt, it reminds me of the clothes you wore when we first met”. This is sweeter and shows that you remember the little things at the start of your relationship
Part 3 of 3: Show Your Girlfriend a Beautiful Moment
Step 1. Make a creative date
While a lot of girls are having fun with a classic dinner date or going to the movies, there's no need for you to continue like that. Be creative, get your boyfriend to do things he's never done before. Going outside of your usual comfort zone is a great opportunity to get closer to him. As an added bonus, a date like this can save you money.
One good idea to surprise your boyfriend is to invite him to do activities that he often mentions in his conversations. For example, if lately he's been talking a lot about how cute aquatic animals are, take him to a SCUBA Diving class
Step 2. Make the night for her
The big night is not the time for you to be distracted. Get rid of all those distractions for a few hours. Clear your mind of your work or school and direct your attention only to it.
Make sure you turn off your phone, pager, laptop, or other device. There's nothing more distracting than a phone call about work on your romantic night
Step 3. Pay your dating fee
It is often argued that a man should pay for his girl on a date. There is no right answer to this. Who should pay in a relationship you can discuss with him. In general, if you're the one planning the night, you'll be the one paying for it. Doing this shows how important your boyfriend is to you, not a matter of who has to pay.
If your boyfriend insists on paying, you should try to show that you're sincere, but don't get into an argument with him over this. Some women will feel looked down on if their boyfriend is always paying for them when they go out together, so show that you value him as a worthy partner by letting him pay every once in a while
Step 4. Praise him
This special night is an opportunity to express emotions that are usually rarely seen. It's okay to look a little stupid, but keep your compliments focused on your boyfriend's personality, sense of humor, and appearance. But don't bring up anything too sexual.
Step 5. Make him feel special
Your boyfriend is without a doubt important to you, so let him know that. Tell him and show him that he is special to you. Other things like the fun you have, the adventures that are still going on, the time you spend together, are other ways of expressing this truth.
The best and sweetest way to say this is to say it directly. Flowers and elegant language cannot replace sincere emotions. Most girls can tell whether you're being yourself or not
Tips
- Hugs will give a message that you love him and want to hold him. Hugs are universal medicine!
- If you're texting your boyfriend, take the time to type the entire "I love you" sentence.
- Always say to him with love.
- Gifts don't need a reason to be given. Give your girlfriend a gift on a normal day. If you have no idea what gift to give, just give a greeting card or letter.
- Ask him out as often as possible. It doesn't have to be expensive, a walk in the park is good enough.
- Your boyfriend is not an object, and should not be treated like an object. Avoid being overly possessive or treating her with disrespect. If he's special to you, prove it, unconditionally.
- Tell him about everything, don't keep secrets from him if you really love him, it shows that you trust him.
- Send flowers but in a different way. Send it at the salon, the dentist, or at work. In a public place he didn't expect to get and not on a birthday or valentine's day or after a fight, it had to be totally random.
- And remember, always lower the toilet seat! Many couples say this is a problem in their relationship.
