There must be times when you don't want to care about the negative things that are happening in your life. Below are a few different approaches to each situation and some helpful suggestions for dealing with negativity in your life.
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Method 1 of 4: When People Judge You
Step 1. Build your own opinion
Sometimes the reason behind why we care about what other people think of us is because we see ourselves through their eyes. That's not good, especially when we want to form our own opinion of what other people think of us. Do things that make you proud of yourself so that no matter what people say, you are still aware that you are a good and useful person.
- Volunteering is a wonderful way to make yourself feel better and also provides invaluable support to the community around you.
- Learn your skills, such as painting, playing an instrument, or playing sports. Tired of being a loner with no one to talk to? Be someone who is more open.
- Take a walk and see the things you want to see. Taking a walk will make you feel more confident and give you wonderful memories and stories to tell for the rest of your life.
Step 2. Do the things you want to do
Don't let other people's opinions stop you from doing the things you want to do. Your happiness should not depend on their approval. Ignore them and you'll have plenty of time to do whatever you want to do, ignore what they say, then you won't really care what they say anymore. You will enjoy your life so much that you will no longer care.
Doing what makes you happy is the best way to meet like-minded people. These new people will appreciate, rather than judge the things you like
Step 3. Let them judge you
A good way to not care when other people judge you is to let them judge you. Let them judge you and you will see that their judgment is not the end of the world. You can still wake up every day and you can still do all the things you want to do. Their opinions really have no effect on your life.
There's a bit of a plus when you can combat their judgment, as it's nearly impossible to get others to stop judging you. People who judge you harshly usually judge themselves harshly too, and they will continue to judge you because it makes them feel better. They have problems, but don't let their problems get you down
Step 4. Realize that it won't last long
It's also important to remember that these people have problems and lives. In five years time, they probably won't remember you and the things they don't like about you. Their opinion won't affect you at all for a few years from now. If you spend time enjoying your life and taking advantage of the opportunities you have, you'll be happier than wasting a lot of time getting good opinions from people you probably won't see in years to come.
Method 2 of 4: When Someone Hurts You
Step 1. Understand why they hurt you
Understanding why someone is hurting you will help you to care less about them, as it will help you understand and empathize with them and what they do. If you don't understand why someone did this to you, it will make it more difficult for you to judge them and you can't stop yourself from getting back at them.
Maybe they hurt you because they were hurt, or feel lonely and scared. Maybe they hurt you because they were worried if you hurt them first. Maybe they don't have good examples in their lives about how to love others or treat others well. There are several reasons why they hurt others intentionally or unintentionally
Step 2. Believe that it is to their detriment
If someone hurts you or shows that they don't value you and your role in their life, understand that this is a disservice to them. If they are angry or alone, it will negatively affect them in the longer term than it will affect you. Realize that your time and attention is better spent on people who value you.
Step 3. Appreciate the people who really care about you
Take time to appreciate the people who care about you. There are some people who truly love you and love to be around you. Friends, family, coworkers or teachers deserve more of your time than those who are stuck in their own troubles.
Step 4. Find new people you need to care about
When the person who hurt you leaves your life, find new people for you to care about. This will give you new purpose and happiness and help you forget the things that people have done to you. When you find new people who accept you as you are, you will realize that all the things that bad people did to you will not affect you at all because it will be hard for you to feel pain when you are so happy!
Method 3 of 4: When an Error Occurs
Step 1. Realize that the things you want may not go the way you want them to, in fact for the worse
This is not to reduce your hurt: no, the things that hurt you are still stored. It's true that nothing can change it, but when you understand that the things you are planning may be for the worse, you will find it easier to appreciate the things you have.
Step 2. Appreciate the good things in your life, and know that you can lose a lot in your life, so take your time to appreciate the things in your life that make you happy
Hold your mother, tell your friends how precious they are in your life, and watch the sun go down because right now, right now, you are alive and that is a wonderful thing.
If you feel that you don't have the things that make you happy, then you need to go for a walk and do the things that make you happy. Start volunteering, make new friends, or do something you've always wanted to do. Life is short, and we shouldn't spend our lives bored and unhappy
Step 3. Trust that this is not the end of your world
What you want may not work out the way you expected. In fact, this often happens, but if you believe and understand that things don't always go the way you want them to, you'll find that it doesn't end your world. Our problems sometimes seem big, and they often hurt us and are difficult to solve, but (as the saying goes) they must be solved. You will have other problems and you will also have other happiness.
Step 4. Move on to something new
You cannot change the past, nor can you reverse what happened. What you need to do is keep going and take a new approach, also solve your problem. If not, move on to something new. Creating new goals and success for your life will help you to not care about the failures you have experienced.
Method 4 of 4: When You Should Care
Step 1. Care when others feel hurt
There are times when you should always care, for example when someone else has been hurt may be the best time when you should care. It's natural that you don't want to care about those who have insulted you, but if you see other people being insulted you should care about them. If we stand up for each other, then no one will be intentionally hurt, including you.
Step 2. Care if you might hurt others
You can't shoot people you don't like, you can't insult other people, you can't be indifferent if your actions hurt other people. If we want to live happily in this world, we need to love and care for one another. If you don't care when you hurt other people, you need to think that your actions will have a bad impact on your life.
Step 3. Care when others need you
People often depend on you. You may not know that they depend on you. But there will always be people who need you for different reasons. You should care about them and you should care enough about yourself to do what you need to do to help them.
There will always be some friends who need your support when they are in difficult circumstances or families who need your love to keep their lives happy. Maybe it's shelter or protection that you need to provide or maybe your child needs you to stay alive
Step 4. Care about your life and your happiness
It is very important that you care about your life and your happiness. At times you may find it difficult, especially if you have had a bad experience going on in your life, to understand that you should take care of yourself. But when you feel down, remember that there are still many people who love you (even though you don't realize and know it) and you have very beautiful things in your future (even if you think that good things will never come back to you).). Be strong, because you are very strong, and just wait.
Suggestion
- The ancient Stoics were smart to not care about stupid things and liked the beautiful parts of their lives. Read more about stoics.
- Whenever you have a problem and feel down, remember that you can talk to your friends and family. They love you and they will help to solve your problem.
Attention
- Getting yourself to ignore it does take time. Don't expect it to happen in just one night!
- There's nothing wrong with caring about someone or something. It's more important that you don't let negativity get you down. You can care what people say, don't change, accept yourself, and stay happy!
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