If you have special feelings for a close friend and want him or her to know about it, think about how it will affect your friendship. Watch for signs that indicate he has feelings in common, such as avoiding talking about your crush when you're talking or touching your hands and feet while joking. Express your feelings to him in a quiet place and do this in private. Be honest with how you feel and give him time to process it. Whatever the outcome, put your friendship first and be proud that you dare to speak your mind!
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Method 1 of 3: Look for Signs That He Has the Same Feeling
Step 1. Try to seduce your close friends to see how they respond
There are many ways to seduce someone, but it's best to use subtle tactics so your friend doesn't feel awkward. Look into his eyes for a few seconds longer than usual, then watch his reaction.
Remember that your close friends may think the flirting is your way of being nice. So, don't make a final judgment based on this
Step 2. Think about whether he often talks about his crush in front of you
If your close friend often talks about someone he wants to date, it's a sign he's not interested in a romantic relationship with you. Pay attention to whether he tells about the crush, or ask directly if he is approaching someone.
You can ask, "Who's your crush now?" when you two are talking about the person he has a crush on or his relationship with that person
Step 3. Notice if he touches you while joking
This touch can be a hand placed on your arm when you are talking, or it can be a hug. Similarly, use a gentle touch to find out if he is interested in you. Just stroke his back or nudge his waist when you walk together.
Pay attention to how your close friend responds to the touch. If he seems awkward, stop immediately. This means he is not interested
Step 4. Compliment your close friend to show interest
Say things you like about him that he usually doesn't say. For example, you could say that she looks great in a certain outfit, or that you're impressed by her academic abilities.
You can also compliment him by saying “I love watching you play soccer, you are so talented!” or “That dress really makes your eye color even more beautiful.”
Step 5. Ask for opinions from your other friends
If you and your partner have the same best friend, this friend may know how he or she really feels. Be honest about how you feel and listen to what he has to say about it.
Understand that this friend may share your feelings with him or her. So, make sure you've said that the conversation should not be shared with anyone
Method 2 of 3: Expressing Your Feelings to Close Friends
Step 1. Have him meet face to face
Even if you're tempted to express your feelings through text messages or phone calls, it's best to meet them in person. This will show that you are serious, and will allow you to see the person's reaction firsthand.
Talk to him when you two go out together, for example during an afternoon walk or a meal together
Step 2. Arrange the things you want to say ahead of time to be more prepared
Write down specifically the points you want to make when expressing your feelings, or imagine how you would convey them. Getting ready will make you feel more relaxed and confident when you come face-to-face.
Practice what you are going to say in the mirror so that you feel more confident and less nervous
Step 3. Choose the right time so that he can process your words
Expressing feelings during commercial breaks or when he is about to go home is not a good decision. Choose a moment when both of you feel comfortable and are not in a hurry to go somewhere, for example when relaxing in the afternoon or on the weekend.
- For example, you could choose a time on Friday when you come home from school. That way, you have time to think about your relationship over the weekend.
- Expressing feelings before school hours or in between your activities can make him feel confused.
- In addition to taking the time to express your feelings, you should also take the time to wait for his answer and response.
Step 4. Talk to yourself alone so you have some privacy
Choose a place that is not too crowded, such as a park or a quiet area of the school. It's best not to express love around family and friends because you'll feel awkward and other people can overhear.
Instead of talking in a busy, noisy restaurant, take your close friend for an afternoon walk and share how you feel
Step 5. Speak normally before expressing your feelings
Start the conversation with things you usually talk about, such as school activities, homework, or extracurricular activities. Once you're both comfortable, ask him to take you seriously. Tell everything honestly and openly. Let him know that you have special feelings for him and you want him to know that.
You could say something like "It's not easy to say this, but I've actually liked you for a long time."
Step 6. Emphasize that your friendship is very important
Even if you want to take your relationship to another level, it's best to say that you don't want your friendship to end if he doesn't feel the same way. Tell them that your friendship is precious and that you want to keep in touch.
After expressing your feelings, you can add “If you like me too, thank you. However, remember that our friendship must remain a priority.”
Step 7. Tell him that he doesn't need to answer right away
Your close friend may be shocked by this statement and be left speechless. Let him know that you're not asking him to answer and just want him to know how he really feels.
Do not force him to give an answer right away or ask when he will respond to the declaration of love
Method 3 of 3: Responding to Answers from your crush
Step 1. Give him time to process your declaration of love
It may take him a few days to think and make a decision. Give him space and time to weigh his feelings and think about what he wants to tell you.
Even if you want to give him a day or two to process it, feel free to talk or play with him as usual unless he asks for some time out
Step 2. Accept whatever answer you get
After expressing love, give him time to process it. Regardless of the response shown, such as confusion, surprise, embarrassment, and so on, stay calm and respect his feelings.
Step 3. Do not rush to do something if the he turned out to have the same feeling
If he likes you too, congratulations! Build a relationship with him slowly and don't be too hasty. Remember, your friendship is still a priority and you certainly don't want to ruin it.
Start by planning a romantic date together to test your new relationship
Step 4. Don't change how you treat him if he doesn't feel the same way
If your close friend just wants to be friends, accept that answer and don't think too much about it. While it's perfectly normal to feel awkward in front of him after sharing your feelings, be proud that you've stepped out of your comfort zone and try to keep your friendship alive.
It's a good idea to step away for a while after confessing your feelings if you're feeling sad about being rejected
Step 5. Spend time with your family and pursue a hobby to distract yourself
If you feel sad about being rejected, try to focus on the things you enjoy. Spend time hanging out with other friends, taking your family on trips, and pursuing your hobbies or interests to improve your mood.
- Make arts and crafts, exercise, or write a song to help you focus on the things you love.
- If you want to pour your heart out, ask another family member or good friend of yours to listen and offer advice.
