You feel it's time to express your love for the woman or man you like. But how? The hardest thing about expressing feelings is gathering the courage to express them. But once you've said it, you'll feel relieved, whether you accept it or not. If you really want to know how to express your love to the girl or guy you like, follow these tips.
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Method 1 of 3: React To The Answer
Step 1. Don't be disappointed if you get rejected
If he doesn't like you or isn't ready to accept you, don't be discouraged. You should be proud that you've had the courage to express your feelings and get an answer, even if it wasn't the answer you wanted. After that, if you get rejected, respect his decision and don't think negatively of him or yourself.
Remember that by being bold in expressing your feelings means you have confidence that you can use at other times, such as confessing your feelings to other people
Step 2. Don't act weird in front of a girl or guy who has rejected you
If you and the girl or guy you used to like were friends, don't shy away from them every time you see them or, worst of all, antagonize them. Act normally, and continue to look at the woman or man you like as you normally would. Acting weird in front of him would only make the situation worse.
Step 3. If you are accepted, celebrate
If your feelings are accepted by him, be grateful and celebrate. Be proud of yourself for being able to express your feelings, and enjoy your date with him. Stay calm and plan what the two of you are going to do next, because he too can't wait to spend some time together.
Method 2 of 3: Expressing Feelings Directly
Step 1. Bring out your best, but still natural
Of course, you want to look your best when you want to express your feelings. But don't overdo it. If you usually dress casually, don't suddenly wear a shirt and cloth pants. You don't want him to get suspicious first or be labeled a fake before he can express his feelings or do anything about it. Try to at least be a little tidier and look more attractive than usual to boost your confidence.
Step 2. Choose the right place and time to express love
To be successful and acceptable, choose the right time, for example you are alone and quite relaxed. Don't do it during school breaks when the girl or guy you like is stressed about the subject matter. Instead of stating it during recess, it's better to say it during school hours, when he is more relaxed and school is also quiet.
Step 3. Have a chat about something
Don't look too obvious. Make it look like it's a simple invitation like asking for help with homework or something. Then invite him to have a casual chat about something when you're alone and the moment is right. The more relaxed and calm the atmosphere, the less suspicious and caught your intentions. Stay normal. Say, "Hi, I want to discuss something with you after school, do you have time?"
Step 4. Make him feel comfortable first
You are unlikely to get the desired results if you simply state your feelings without further ado. He may still not feel comfortable or confused about the situation alone. Try small talk by inviting small talk or joke first. Laughter will make him more comfortable and positive, and ready to accept what you have to say.
Step 5. State it
Don't delay. When the moment is right, express your feelings. If you delay too long, he will be nervous and suspicious, and you will run out of things to talk about. So, if the moment is right, don't look for excuses and beat around the bush anymore. Say it, and hope for the best.
- When you express your feelings, look him in the eye and calm down. Don't stand too close to him or look down, or you may be rejected.
- Say his name. This will create a more intimate or familiar impression. For example, "Mike, I have something to tell you…" will be more personal than "I have something to tell you."
- Don't make small talk that lasts too long, or you'll be depressed yourself and feel like you haven't had the right moment.
Step 6. Wait for the reaction
Don't immediately demand an answer. Maybe he's shocked and needs time to consider what you're saying, and accept your feelings. Take a breath, step back a little, and wait for an answer from him. He would probably answer right away, but usually he needed some time to think about it. So that the chances of receiving it are better, don't panic and calm down.
Method 3 of 3: Expressing Feelings in Other Ways
Step 1. Express feelings over the phone
If you're too scared or embarrassed to express how you feel, talk about it over the phone. Chat and make small talk first, then state your feelings.
- Saying on the phone is not so scary because you are not looking directly at the person you are talking to. However, if you're still nervous over the phone, try to drag and drop the conversation until you're less nervous. But still, not too long.
- If you really want to, you can practice expressing your feelings over the phone by calling your friend first and pretending that he or she is the girl or guy you like.
Step 2. State it with a note or letter
Making notes or letters that entice him and keeping them in his locker, between books he reads, or in his bag can also be an alternative way to express your feelings. Putting down a note that he will read at the right moment can be a surprise that makes him happy.
Step 3. Take her for a walk together
If you're too nervous to express your feelings, you can skip that stage for a moment and ask her out or go for a walk together. Just take them to regular entertainment places such as the cinema and/or eat and drink coffee at a cafe or restaurant, or just take a walk and chat in public places such as parks or malls. This way, you can feel more comfortable with each other, and may be able to get back to the pace of expressing your feelings, even if it's just a formality, or he may even confess his feelings to you.
Step 4. Things to avoid
There are some things you should not do or avoid when it comes to expressing your feelings so that you can be accepted by him.
- Don't express your feelings through friends. If you want to look grown up, say it yourself. Saying it through other people will make you seem like a coward.
- Do not declare via chat or online. You'll come off as not serious or too timid to even have a live chat.
- Don't overdo it, relax and keep it simple. Expressing feelings with "I like you" is much more effective and more likely to be accepted than exaggerating things like "I've liked you for five years…" or something like that.
Tips
- Make sure you really like him. If not, get to know him first and find out if you really like him or not.
- Calm down and be confident!
- If you're nervous, don't look too serious or too relaxed.
- Wear clothes that make you feel confident. By appearing and feeling confident, you will be confident in expressing your feelings later.
- If your face is red with embarrassment, don't hide it. Take a deep breath and look into his eyes (but don't stare until it looks scary).
- If you're shy, try taking notes and practicing on your own in the mirror. This is better than getting too nervous and eventually failing later.
- If you want to be more romantic or less daring to be direct, write a love letter. Pour your feelings into the letter, then tuck it where he's sure to find it. Or, try borrowing a book or object that he or she may use frequently, and then return it with a letter in or in between.
- Make sure you like him inside and out, not just because of his appearance and face or because of pressure from other people.
- Get comfortable with your surroundings before expressing your feelings. If not, look elsewhere.
- Make sure you are confident. If you lack confidence, practice until you really feel confident. He definitely appreciates your courage in expressing your feelings.
Warning
- Don't forget that nothing changes if he rejects you. Live your life as usual, and over time, you will forget.
- If you get rejected, don't tell other people right away, especially to your girlfriend or boyfriend.
- If rejected, don't cry over your fate and think negatively or excessively. You will definitely forget it, especially if you are helped by other people such as family, friends, or maybe doing something you enjoy.
- If you get rejected and can move on with your life, find someone else. Don't get too hung up on one person.
- Don't fall in love with your ex-best friend, unless you both like it and your friend doesn't complain.
