Having a long-distance relationship with a partner is not easy, especially in terms of communication. In fact, constantly showing love for your partner is one of the most important factors for maintaining a close relationship, which unfortunately, is difficult to do if you and your partner are separated by distance. That's why honesty and openness in expressing love are indispensable in such situations, whether over the phone, video conversation, or text message. If the tips summarized in this article are applied correctly, surely your relationship with your partner will not waver, no matter how far apart the distance is.
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Method 1 of 4: Sending a Sweet Text Message
Step 1. Send random text messages throughout the day
Show your partner that you're always thinking about them by texting them regularly throughout the day. Do this without any intention, even if there are no specific questions or statements that you need to say to your partner. For example, every few hours, call your partner just to say hello, tell them something interesting you've just experienced, or express your longing. Some examples of casual text messages you can send:
- "Ugh, today sucks. How was your day?"
- "You know, don't you? I love you so much, lo:)”
- “I was just thinking of you, lo. I miss you so much <3”
Step 2. Describe your activities that day in detail to bring your partner into your life
Share things that you experience and do in detail so that your partner feels they are on your side. By doing so, your partner will feel like they have a part in your life and therefore this method can help close the gap between the two of you.
For example, you might say, “The dinner last night took a long time, hahaha. My client ordered 3 super fancy entrees when the only thing I wanted to eat were fries. Luckily he's good and it looks like my tender has gone through, but I'm ready to run away, you know, when my food runs out."
Step 3. Say things that remind you to your partner
When you see or hear something that reminds you of your partner, don't hesitate to share it! Believe me, your partner will be happy to know that even the little things can make you think about them throughout the day.
For example, you might say, “I just saw a guy walking his dog, and the dog really looks like Buddy,” or, “I just ordered your favorite food: unsalted eggs and bacon for dinner, ha ha ha."
Step 4. Send him pictures and videos that make him smile
If you find a funny picture or video on the internet, try sharing it with your partner. If you want, also send him your selfie, or even a photo of the things that fill your daily life via text message or Snapchat. You can even use the streak feature to send photos continuously for several days in a row!
Step 5. Express your love in a specific, as well as varied, way
Chances are, your partner already knows that you like and care about them. However, it never hurts to remind him every now and then, especially when your partner doesn't expect to hear the phrase. In particular, try to think of the reasons behind your love each day, and say that without any intention of just making her feel better.
Expressing Love Through Text Messages
“I love your smile:) Please send me your photo, please!”
“Your jokes are always crunchy, but that's what I like about you, hahaha”
“I am really lucky to have you <3”
Step 6. Save some things to tell over the phone or when the two of you meet
Texting is a perfect way to maintain a routine of communication, but it's best not to make it your primary medium for interaction. Instead, keep a few stories that are interesting, long enough, or important to tell your partner in person, whether that's over the phone or video chat. Make sure you both always have a spare topic to talk about!
Stimulate his interest by promising to tell him something later. For example, you could say, “The most ridiculous thing just happened to me! Remind me to talk later, okay!”
Method 2 of 4: Chat By Phone and Skype
Step 1. Schedule time to chat each day
Plan a schedule for calling or video chatting each day, and try your best to stick to it. Hearing each other's voices on a regular basis will make the two of you feel closer, you know! If you and your partner's schedules often clash so you can't talk every day, try setting up a routine that's realistic and workable for both of you.
Tip:
Calling your partner right before bed is the perfect method to release tension after a long day. Plus, doing so will make the two of you feel like you're having a chat before sleeping side by side.
Step 2. Call him out of the blue to surprise him
Just because both of you have a scheduled call, doesn't mean you shouldn't call him outside of that schedule, right? Therefore, try surprising your partner by calling him at lunchtime or right after he wakes up to make him smile.
- Say something like, “Hi, I know you want to go, but I just wanted to see your face for a second. I love you!"
- Make sure you know the schedule. As much as possible, avoid contacting your partner while he or she is in college or attending an important meeting.
Step 3. Ask each other how they're doing when it's time to chat
When calling your partner, don't forget to ask how they are that day. Also ask him to talk about his school or work friends, projects he is working on, or other daily activities. Show genuine interest and not fake it! As simple as it sounds, your desire to invest in her life will make her feel special and loved.
For example, you might ask, "Hey, how's your group project going in Biology?" or “How is your roommate doing?”
Step 4. Say things you can't tell anyone else
In addition to telling your daily life, try to share your deeper thoughts with your partner. In particular, telephone and video conversations are a great time to express all kinds of stressors and worries in your life. Before sharing your feelings, first ask how your partner is doing. Listen to your partner's story and ask follow-up questions, then be honest with yourself.
- To raise issues related to your relationship, try saying, “Actually, I've been feeling a bit neglected lately. I'm glad you can hang out with your friends, but I miss chatting with you."
- It's not easy to talk about deeper topics or feelings related to each other, but doing so shows how much you both trust each other. In the end, overcoming a problem together will strengthen the relationship between the two of you, really.
Step 5. Tell him how much you miss and love him
You will certainly agree that hearing expressions of love and longing in person is much more enjoyable than reading them through text messages. Therefore, don't forget to express your concern and love, whenever you and your partner are chatting face-to-face, even if it's only for a few minutes. Keep your tone of voice positive! Constantly expressing longing may make your partner sad. Therefore, focus on conveying your love for him, and how happy you are to be in a relationship with him, even if your relationship situation is quite complicated.
Expressing Love Over the Phone
"I really miss you! Can't wait to see you soon."
Oh, it's so nice to hear your voice again! I know we just chatted yesterday, but still…”
"It's a pleasure to chat with you tonight. I love you so much!"
Method 3 of 4: Showing Love in Unique Ways
Step 1. Send a love letter
Today, writing love letters may have been classed as an obsolete and troublesome habit. However, this method is actually a very sweet way of communicating with your partner, lo! Believe me, your partner will be surprised and touched when they receive a letter containing your handwriting. While communicating via text messages and phone is also fun, your love letter will surely take a more special place in his heart forever.
In the letter, convey how much you love him, and how you feel when you interact with him. Also describe the future of the relationship you envision and how excited you are to fulfill that picture with him
Step 2. Have a long distance date, just to make time for each other
Just because you two aren't in the same place, doesn't mean dating is impossible, right? For example, the two of you could do the same activity, such as having dinner or playing a game, while chatting via video. Believe me, this is a method that feels special to strengthen intimacy with your partner outside of the regular calling schedule.
Fun Long Distance Dating Ideas
Watch movies together.
Cook and/or eat the same dinner.
Play board games remotely.
Shows each other's favorite locations in each other's school or city.
Step 3. Create a private social media account as a medium for you and your partner to share information with each other
For example, try creating a private Instagram or Pinterest account that only two people, you and your partner, follow. In that account, please upload things that can remind you both of each other's existence, such as photos of you and your partner. Also upload your daily life together, or even do a countdown to the next meeting moment!
Doing so can reconnect the two of you, too, is a form of expression of love when separated by distance
Step 4. Visit a partner, if possible
In a romantic relationship that lasts long distance, get used to yourself and your partner to plan the next meeting, even if the meeting will only take place a few months after. By doing so, your relationship will feel more 'purposeful'. In addition, you and your partner don't have to wait too long without certainty, right?
- When you do visit your partner, make the most of the time you have to have fun together! However, still make time for intimate activities and away from crowds so that your feelings can reconnect with each other.
- Don't burden yourself with wanting to create the perfect visit! In other words, there's no need to feel sad or disappointed if your visit is filled with fights, or if one of you has to work or study while you're doing things together. Show flexibility and understanding to your partner.
Step 5. Send your partner intimate photos, if you are both comfortable with the behavior
Sending intimate photos to your partner can make your partner feel loved and wanted, which is really important for maintaining a long distance relationship. However, always remember that these activities should only be done if both parties are comfortable and agree to receive or send intimate photos. Discussing this topic is not easy, but trust that honestly expressing your wishes or objections will strengthen your relationship with your partner in the future.
- For example, you could say, “I miss seeing your body, eh. Would you mind sending me some photos? But if you feel uncomfortable, don't worry, okay?"
- Make sure your relationship is legal before you start sending private photos.
Step 6. Send parcels on special days
If the two of you can't celebrate anniversaries, birthdays, or Valentine's Day together, try sending a simple parcel or gift to make your partner feel special. For example, you could send her non-perishable food, a book, or another simple gift she likes.
If you want, you can package the parcel in a specific theme. A Valentine's Day parcel, for example, could be filled with candy, chocolate, dolls, as well as a love letter and a photo of the two of you
Step 7. Send a photo of the two of you to your partner
Remind your partner of the fun moments that the two of you have spent together through this collection of photos, surely the distance between you and your partner will no longer feel too burdensome. In particular, you can send the photos via cell phone or email to surprise your partner. If you want, you can also print and frame one of your most memorable photos, then send it to your partner as a gift, or even package the memorable moments in a collage.
Method 4 of 4: Strengthening Your Long Distance Relationship with Your Partner
Step 1. Be honest with each other
Remember, honesty is the most important key in every relationship, especially in relationships that are separated by distance and time. No matter how tempting it is to hide your doubts or worries, don't do it because this habit will only worsen the condition of your relationship with your partner. Instead, try to always be honest with each other. Open the widest possible lines of communication, and help all parties in the relationship to trust each other.
- If you're worried about any aspect of your relationship, try saying something like, "I feel like we haven't talked much anymore, have you? Honestly, that kind of situation is really difficult, for me. I miss hearing your voice every night."
- This aspect is especially important to put forward when discussing the future of your relationship. For example, you might say, "I've been thinking about it for a long time, and I don't think we should continue this relationship anymore. I feel like we both agree that this relationship is difficult, and I don't want to make myself, or you, any more tired while living it."
Step 2. Get through the tough times together
Every relationship must have its own pebbles, and these pebbles can turn into big stones in relationships that are separated by distance and time. To prevent this from happening, whenever you feel frustrated, upset, confused, or angry, don't hesitate to talk to your partner and work things out together. Finding a solution or a middle ground with your partner is not easy, but it can definitely strengthen your relationship in the future.
Do not break the chain of communication with your partner when you are faced with a problem. Trust me, doing so will only make your relationship situation worse
Step 3. Allow your partner to live an independent life to show how much you trust him or her
At the same time, enjoy your independence. Distance and time apart from your partner can make you want him more, and vice versa. Instead of letting the craving transform into a crisis of trust, encouraging you to dedicate all your precious free time to your partner, try to allow your partner to enjoy life without you, and do the same for yourself. Have a new hobby, try new things, and spend more time with your closest friends and relatives. At the same time, allow your partner to do the same.
- Busy yourself to take your mind off the annoying longing.
- Identify the people you spend time with so your partner doesn't get jealous.
Step 4. Discuss the future of your relationship
Do this to ensure your position and your partner's position in the relationship. If both of you are in a long distance relationship, it means that you and your partner believe that all parties in the relationship are worth fighting for and being partners for years to come. Even so, keep discussing the direction of your relationship with your partner. This topic is not easy to discuss, but it is actually important to discuss so that the relationship between the two of you remains strong and based on honesty.
- You could say, “I want to talk about the future of our relationship, here. In my opinion, this relationship is worth maintaining and fighting for, even though we are both separated by distance. What do you think?"
- If possible, do this before the two of you start the long distance relationship.
- From the beginning of the relationship, all parties must know each other's desire to change residence. That way, you both know how long it will take before you can finally live in the same city.
Step 5. Celebrate your relationship as often as possible
Being in a long-distance relationship isn't easy, but you wouldn't try this hard anyway if the relationship wasn't worth fighting for. Therefore, every week, try to take time to discuss the traces of your relationship. Celebrate the positive things that happened in the relationship, the love you both have for each other, the values in life that you both share with each other, and the way you and your partner have made each other a better person.
