Rejecting women is not an easy job. It could be that the woman is your best friend, who has never had a one-sided love with you. It could also be that you don't really know him but he really likes you. Whatever the case, when you can give a firm but polite refusal, your relationship will definitely be fine.
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Part 1 of 3: Subtly and Politely Expressing Rejection
Step 1. Choose the right time and place
If you really don't like it, it's best to tell him before his hopes soar. Find the most appropriate time and place. Of course you can't do that when he's chatting with his friends or busy studying for a math test, right? It's a good idea to choose a place that allows you to chat freely, and choose a time when he's not busy or stressed.
Don't procrastinate expressing your refusal. There is no need to look for the perfect situation. Just make sure the two of you can chat freely and are in a good mood
Step 2. Start by saying good things without getting his hopes up
There's no need to overdo things like, "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever met." Just say things like, "In my eyes, you're a great girl," or "I'm comfortable talking to you" to let her know you care about her without sounding too romantic. Think carefully about every word you will say, lest he misunderstand.
- When you say it, make sure you keep the right distance. Don't let him think you're flirting or teasing him because your talking position is too close. Keep body language as neutral as possible, and if necessary turn your body slightly when talking to him.
- Look him in the eye when you speak. This way, you show that you value them. But don't stare at him too intensely so he doesn't misinterpret your gaze.
Step 3. Explain how you feel to him
This is the hardest part, and the easiest way to do it is to not procrastinate. Don't make small talk too much, he might think you're trying to ask him out. Tell your feelings as honestly as possible without hurting them. Tell him you did it because you didn't want him to hurt any longer. Take a deep breath and say it right away.
You can also say, “I know you like me. But sorry, I don't have the same feeling. I don't want you to hear it from anyone else because I respect you and your feelings."
Step 4. Listen carefully to what he has to say afterward
After conveying your refusal, you may want to quickly get out of there to avoid an awkward situation. However, the girl in front of you may be extremely hurt and you should respect that. If he has something to say, listen, don't be discouraged, as long as it doesn't make things worse.
- Or you can say, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry for making you feel that way." But of course you don't need to apologize too much. After all, it's not your fault if you can't reciprocate his feelings.
- If he gets really angry afterward, calm him down. But don't talk too much, he might even misinterpret it.
Step 5. If after that you still want to be good friends with him, just say so
It's time for you to speak the truth. If you don't know him very well and don't want to get to know him better, stop the conversation there. But if you're good friends or you think you could be good friends one day, let him know that you hope your relationship will continue. Of course for a while, he would be annoyed that the sentence sounded cliché. If that's the case, say it again that you really do want the two of you to be good friends, and that's not impossible after he's gotten over you.
- Say something like, “I really don't mind if we stay good friends after this. But I know you'll need some time for that."
- Or you could also say, "I know everyone says this too, but you need to know that I'm serious."
Step 6. End your conversation nicely
Even if the situation is not very pleasant, try to end it as best you can. For example, you could thank him for wanting to talk to you. Remind him again if you still want to be on good terms after this, take him back to his friends or to whatever activities he previously did, or just say things that you find pleasing to hear. You can even try to be funny to make him laugh, though that probably won't work. Most importantly, you end it well so he doesn't think you're a jerk.
- You can say, “Hope your heartbreak won't last long, okay? I seriously want you to be okay” or “Thank you for liking me. I am flattered".
- Don't say disgusting things like, "I know there's a better man out there for you" because that will only make her more upset. Even though it might be true, he wouldn't want to hear it in such a situation.
Step 7. Give him some alone time
If you really want to be friends with him again, it's best to give him some alone time before taking him out on another trip. He may take weeks, months, or even years to forget you. Seeing you again will only exacerbate his broken heart. Even so, you must remain friendly when you meet him. It's just that, wait for him to call or ask you out if he feels ready.
- When you meet him, just wave your hand. With a smile, ask how he is. If he still looks cold or angry, don't go on with the topic.
- Respect her decision if she refuses to be friends with you again after the incident.
Part 2 of 3: Other Ways to Express Rejection
Step 1. Know that the best way to reject a woman is to tell her directly
If you value it, that's what you will do. However, there are some conditions that require you to act differently. Maybe it's because you two live in different cities, or you just won't be able to see him anytime soon. Maybe it's because you don't know him very well and don't want to talk to him alone. Whatever your choice, make sure you have thought it through.
If you really care and appreciate it, you won't mind being polite by saying it in person if you get the chance
Step 2. Say it over the phone
The most difficult way after delivering in person is to convey by telephone. If you don't have his number, just ask one of his friends (of course, don't let his friend think you're trying to ask him out!). Once you get the number, give him a call, and convey your feelings as politely as possible. Use the words you would say if you met him in person, such as, “Thanks for liking me, I'm flattered. But I think you need to know that I don't feel the same”, and wait for his reaction. It won't be easy, but you'll feel a lot better once you tell it. Delivering by telephone will also not be as awkward as when delivering in person.
Say something like, “It's not easy for me to say this, but I don't see you as more than a friend. Sorry, but I thought you should know.”
Step 3. Deliver via SMS or other electronic text
This is not a good idea, any girl would be upset if she was treated like this. However, if you think it's important that he knows what's in your heart, conveying via SMS or other electronic text is indeed more practical. At least he'll appreciate you because you didn't tell anyone else to.
Say something like, “Hey, I know you like me. Thanks for being honest, but I don't feel the same way. I think you need to know."
Step 4. Send it by email
Send a line of short, polite emails. This may not be the best way to convey your feelings. But if you have often had long conversations via email with him, you can do this method. No need to write too long, the important thing is to convey politely that you can't reciprocate his feelings. You can use some of these sentences as a reference.
"I know you like me, and I just wanted to say that I can't reciprocate your feelings. I hope you are doing well and we can get back on good terms in the near future.”
Step 5. Communicate via online chat
This is another way you can do it, whether through Facebook, MSN, or other networks. Express your feelings without further ado. If you make small talk for too long, he might think you really want to get to know him better or even ask him out on a date. Simple sentences like, “Hi, how are you?” can be used to start a conversation. Say what you mean afterwards.
Don't mince words. No need to string words that are too beautiful, just convey your meaning as smooth and polite as possible. Instead of saying, "I don't like you", just say, "I don't feel the same way as you." More subtle and polite
Step 6. Send it by mail
Another way you can do is by writing a letter. Letters will feel more personal than emails or texts, because he will see your efforts to write and choose your own words. No need to write too long, the important thing is that you convey your meaning well. Don't give it in public if you don't want him to read and show his reaction in front of a lot of people.
Just write 2 – 3 sentences summarizing what you mean, put your name, and make sure you give it yourself so that the letter is not read by other people who are not interested
Part 3 of 3: Knowing What Not to Do
Step 1. Don't tell anyone before you tell them
If you care about the girl and her feelings, you won't tell anyone else if you don't like her. No matter how much you hate him, you should respect his feelings by conveying them directly to him. Don't let him hear it from someone else.
- Put yourself in his position. If you really like a girl, how would it feel if you heard her rejection from someone else?
- If a friend asks how you feel, don't say anything until you tell them in person.
Step 2. Don't express your disapproval in public
This is one thing you should avoid. You might think this will be easier for both of you, but this situation is even more upsetting for him. By having a one-on-one conversation with him, he'll feel like he's been given time to process things. You might find it hard to find times when he's completely alone, but make sure you don't share your disapproval in public so things don't go wrong.
Don't embarrass him in front of your friends. Respect her feelings and privacy
Step 3. Don't give him hope
This is one of the mistakes that men often make. They're too afraid to tell the truth, and instead say things like, "I'm not ready for a relationship yet, but maybe the opportunity will come later" or "You're the perfect girl for me, but love isn't my priority right now" or "I still need time to forget people." other at this time." You might think it will make him feel better, but the truth is it will only hurt him more. Don't lie just to make the situation easier.
Make it clear that you don't like him romantically, and don't think about reciprocating his feelings in the future. The sooner he finds out, the easier it will be for him to forget you
Step 4. Don't insult her
You may think you need to be tougher for him to understand, but don't insult him by saying things like, "You're not my type", "You're too talkative" or "You're not smart in my eyes." Also don't reject it by saying, "I like other women who are more everything than you". Just say you can't reciprocate his feelings.
Avoid saying, "I don't know what else to say" or "I'm annoyed with you." He had already fallen, there was no need to kick him again
Step 5. Don't make stale excuses
Even if you think those reasons might make him not hate you, be as honest as you can. Never say, "It's not you, it's me" because all women have heard that before. Don't say you're too busy to think about dating. Also don't say you don't want to date when in reality you're going to be in a relationship with another woman. He will definitely appreciate you more when you tell it the way it is.
You don't want to be known as a liar. If a girl doesn't like you, you'd be upset if she lied to you, right?
Step 6. Don't procrastinate
If you know there's a girl who really likes you but you can't reciprocate her feelings, tell her as soon as you find the right time. The longer you procrastinate, the higher the expectations. Tell him right away so he knows he has to forget you.
Even though it's easier for you to answer his feelings by dating another girl, he deserves to know in a better way
Tips
- Don't let your interlocutor distract you. If the topic feels off the mark, bring it back.
- Try to be nice and polite. You're saying something that might end your relationship, but do it well.
- Look him in the eye when he is talking. Make sure the other person is also doing the same and not avoiding you.
- Decide when it's time to smile or be serious. If that girl spreads false and hurtful news about you, of course you have to take it very seriously. But if he's just constantly stalking you and commenting on your sense of dress, you can face him with a smile.
Warning
- Never say, "I don't like you!" This will only hurt them more.
- 'Not liking a girl's hairstyle' is not the same as 'not liking her'. Make sure you have a really strong reason to reject a woman.
