A guy just confessed his feelings for you? These pleasurable experiences can turn horrific if you can't reciprocate the feelings. On the one hand, you don't want to give him hope; but on the other hand, you also don't want to hurt her. So what should you do? The single best way to reject a guy's feelings is to convey the rejection honestly, directly, and straightforwardly. Keep reading this article for easy tips!
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing Yourself
Step 1. Know how he feels about you
If you're not absolutely sure that he likes you, don't act right away! Don't ruin your friendship with him just because you hear gossip or build unfounded assumptions. Check out the signs below to make sure that he really likes you:
- He constantly asks you to travel with him.
- He is constantly trying to make physical contact with you.
- He's trying to ask you out on a date.
Step 2. Don't delay your rejection
The longer you delay it, the worse the situation will be. By delaying rejection, you are giving his feelings a chance to grow. As a result, it's more likely that he will find it increasingly difficult to maintain a good relationship with you after accepting your rejection.
Step 3. Don't avoid it forever
Trust me, he won't be able to understand your rejection signals if all you do is avoid him. Take the time to express your objections in person and privately; don't embarrass her in front of many people!
Step 4. Make a solid plan
Write down whatever you want to tell him. If you don't plan those words, the conversation will likely go on longer and be awkward; Trust me, you don't want to experience that. In your plan, also write down all the reasons behind your refusal, for example:
- You still can't get over your ex.
- You are not physically attracted to him.
- You're in love with someone else.
Step 5. Express your refusal over the phone
You can apply the tips in this article even if the conversation is over the phone or text message; Most importantly, make sure you make a firm decision. Make sure he knows that he doesn't stand a chance to be romantically involved with you.
Part 2 of 3: Having a Conversation
Step 1. Acknowledge the seriousness of the conversation
Show him that you are willing to have a serious conversation with him. Only in that way, he will really take your words.
Step 2. Be kind to her
Don't destroy his pride! Make sure you include a few compliments while emphasizing that these qualities are still not enough for you.
- "You are indeed a good friend, but sorry, we can't date."
- “You can definitely make other people happy, but sadly that person isn't me.”
Step 3. Give a signal asking him to “back off”
Even if you've given the reason for your refusal, there's a chance that he still doesn't really understand. Therefore, after giving your reasons, make sure you also use affirmation sentences that imply asking him to "step back".
- "We're not going into a romantic relationship."
- "We can still be friends, okay?"
- "I feel like we don't get along."
Step 4. Reassure him that your feelings won't change
If you don't give affirmation, chances are he will feel like he has a gap to hope. Don't let him go unnoticed. If you and he decide to stay friends afterward, make sure you set clear and specific boundaries.
Step 5. Be honest with him
Allow him to ask and give the most honest answer. There's no need to lie just to protect her feelings; trust me, your honesty will make him move on with life easier and faster.
Step 6. Be willing to listen
Imagining the conversation situation from a long time ago can indeed help smooth the conversation process. But on the other hand, doing so will also leave you with expectations about “how things should be”. Instead of attacking him with your expectations, sit across from him and listen carefully to what he has to say. Only then will he be willing to listen to your words.
Step 7. Be willing to end the conversation
To make sure he really understands what you mean, try asking his opinion. Make sure you only end the conversation if he has fully understood your refusal. Don't leave him unexplained.
Part 3 of 3: Moving On
Step 1. Be polite
You may have rejected his feelings, but that doesn't mean you can ignore him or be rude to him. Don't see him as weak and helpless after accepting your rejection. Trust me, he can definitely move on; so make sure you keep it human. Appreciate him and don't ignore his existence.
Step 2. Give him some space
Don't try too hard to make her feel "fine". You are indeed obliged to show a friendly and friendly attitude if you run into him accidentally; but make sure you don't keep in contact with him at other times. Remember, rejection hurts; if you keep reminding him, he will also be in constant pain. As a result, he is likely to have problems managing his emotions and self-esteem. Of course you don't want to be in charge, do you?
Step 3. Don't give him hope
If he decides to stay friends with you afterward, make sure you and him are willing to set specific relationship boundaries. Believe me, boundaries are needed to maintain good relations between you without causing misunderstandings.
- Discuss whether the two of you can comment on each other's appearance.
- Also discuss what physical contact (hugs, holding hands, etc.) is and isn't.
Tips
- When you're having a conversation with him, try to offer him a few compliments so he doesn't get discouraged.
- Don't be surprised if he responds aggressively or defensively to your rejection. Remember, not everyone can accept rejection easily.
- Before conveying your refusal, make sure first that you really only see him as a friend, nothing more.
