Has your best friend recently moved to another city? Or have the two of you had a big fight and aren't communicating as well as they used to? Do not worry; there will always be times when people who were once so close leave you for reasons they thought were valid. Continuing to live after the loss of a loved one is not easy; but as long as you're willing to be patient, build a realistic perspective, and try to open up to new people around you, you're sure to be able to recover and move on with life better afterward.
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Method 1 of 3: Respect the Decision
Step 1. If he's no longer willing to be your friend (for whatever reason), try to accept his decision
Silly, stupid, and bogus whatever reason he gives, there is nothing else you can do but accept and respect his decision. Remember, you can't force anyone to be your friend. If he has withdrawn from his relationship with you, there is nothing more you can do to keep the relationship intact, right?
That's not to say you shouldn't fight for your friendship with him; but make sure you know which relationships are worth fighting for, and which aren't. There are times when you need to accept the fact that no matter how hard you try, your friendship still can't (or doesn't even deserve) to be saved. Ask yourself to what extent the relationship is worth fighting for
Step 2. Accept the fact that every human being will change
This is a fact of life that you unfortunately cannot escape. Now you may be on very good terms with someone; but no one can guarantee that the relationship between the two of you will go on as well next year, right? If things go beyond your expectations, simply remind yourself that your best friend has lost a very valuable treasure, a best friend of yours. Trust me, you are a special person!
- Try to deal with the loss that you feel realistically. If your best friend has completely changed and lost the positive things that once made you close friends, maybe the relationship between you really needs to end. Surely you don't want to be in a fake relationship, do you?
- If he doesn't want to make an effort to keep your friendship intact, leave him. There's no point in being the only one struggling in a relationship.
Step 3. If he leaves you because he can't accept your honesty, don't stop him
Believe me, he is the one who loses because he has been selfish to a friend as good as you.
Step 4. Take time to mourn your loss
After all, your life has just undergone a major change; your best friend is now no longer filling your life so it is natural that you feel sad and hurt because of it. Therefore, nothing prevents you from crying, shouting, hitting the pillow, or turning on the music at full speed. Do whatever you need to do to vent your sadness, anger, and disappointment! Let go of everything so you can focus more on letting go of negative feelings and moving on with your life afterward.
Even if you are no longer friends with him, never forget the wonderful memories you had with him. Remember, things don't happen without a reason; even if the changes you feel don't seem to benefit anyone, believe me, your life will develop for the better after that
Step 5. Let go of your disappointment
If he doesn't want to be your friend anymore, there's no need to regret it; after all he is the one who loses because he has let go of a friend as good as you. In other words, this is the problem, not yours. After you've managed to get over the sadness and confusion after losing your best friend, try to let these negative feelings out of your life. Trust me, harboring anger, resentment, and bitterness will only slow down your recovery process and prevent you from building more positive relationships with new people. Recover yourself and get ready for a new life after.
- Realize that you can definitely find new friends at the right time.
- Forgive yourself and move on. There is no point in constantly blaming yourself for mistakes or bad things that happened in the past.
Method 2 of 3: Finding Constructive Ways to Move On
Step 1. Do things to take your mind off the loss you've just experienced
Make sure you stay active and fill your free time with useful things; surely, your pain will lessen by itself and indirectly, you will more easily let go of the person and move on with a better life.
No matter how big your pain, believe me, time will heal your wounds. One day, you'll even realize that your best friend is too 'hard' to reach to even think about
Step 2. Join a class or club that caters to your interests
This is the perfect way to make friends with people who share your interests. It's also a powerful way to forget the pain of being left by a friend who was an important part of your life.
Step 3. Try to get closer to your other friends
Maybe among them, there is someone who has been worthy of being a friend but you have never considered. Spend more time with the people you feel comfortable with and observe the results!
Step 4. Be grateful for your ability to truly care and consider others, then find someone who needs a friend as good as you
Step 5. Remember, life will go on no matter what
You are not experiencing the apocalypse! In the future, your life will continue to be filled with people who come and go without you being able to prevent it. Your best friend has her reasons for leaving; meaning, the two of you are not meant to grow old together. Don't worry, there are still millions of people out there who share your hobbies and interests. Believe me, new friends will surely come without you knowing it.
Method 3 of 3: Dealing with Friends Who Move House
Step 1. If you are forced to live far away from your best friend (for example, because your best friend has moved to another city), try to keep your friendship alive
Don't worry, there are many things you can do to make sure your friendship stays intact.
Step 2. Be realistic about the friendship you are in
Maintaining a long distance relationship is a very tough challenge, but not impossible. Chances are, the two of you can only experience special moments when you're meeting in person (when one or both parties aren't busy). To keep your friendship intact during times when it's hard for the two of you to see each other, make sure you both agree to keep in touch regularly and care about each other even if you're separated by distance.
Step 3. Keep in touch regularly
In today's technological era, distance doesn't really matter anymore because there are many sites like Facebook or Myspace that can disguise the distance. You two can always communicate via email or phone too, right?
- Use the Skype application to communicate face-to-face remotely on a regular basis.
- Invite your friends to play computer games or Xbox online. Keep in touch while playing the game.
