If you've done something to hurt your friend, intentionally or unintentionally, you don't have to worry. It's not too late to repair the relationship and get back to normal.
Step
Part 1 of 3: Achieving Mutual Understanding
Step 1. Find out and understand what you have done to upset your friend
Whatever you do to him may not be a problem for you, but it may mean a lot to him. Try to put yourself in his position. How would you react if someone did the same to you? This step is important to do to rebuild friendship relations that have been damaged.
Step 2. Talk to him
Do not contact him via SMS or email if there are other ways. In certain circumstances, it's okay to use the phone, but the best way to talk is to meet face-to-face. While talking to him, share everything you feel and think about this, as well as what you should do in a situation like this.
Don't forget to maintain eye contact when chatting with him
Step 3. Be patient
Remember that some people take a long time to forgive and forget what happened in the past. If your friend belongs to this group of people, don't force it. Be patient and respect your friend's decision to keep your distance.
Part 2 of 3: Apologizing
Step 1. Think before you speak
Your friend may become even more upset if you don't pay attention to what you're saying or if you're careful when you speak. But, at the same time, don't plan what to talk about. What is said must come from the heart, and not in the form of words that have been designed in the brain like speech text.
Step 2. Be prepared to talk about it
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Use this situation to find out his point of view as well and not just to tell your friend how much you care about him so that something like this doesn't happen again.
Step 3. Stay calm
The problem will not be solved if you are irrational. Acting with a cool head will prevent your mouth from uttering words you didn't mean.
Step 4. Apologize sincerely
It's important to show how much you feel guilty and want to do whatever it takes to avoid getting into this situation again.
Part 3 of 3: Rebuilding Friendship
Step 1. Leave this problem in the past
Once your apology is accepted, it's important that both of you forget about the matter and continue the friendship. Problems that continue to be brought up will lead to more quarrels.
Step 2. Focus on the things you like
It's important for you and your friends to get back to having fun. Never forget that you are friends for a reason.
Step 3. Take it slow in your relationship
Sometimes, after a fight, you need time to get his trust back. Put yourself in his shoes, and you'll know how to deal with this situation.
Step 4. Take the time to focus on a few things your friend likes
By doing this, your friend will know that you really care about them and are serious about maintaining a relationship with them.
Tips
- You must remain calm. It's important not to let your emotions get the better of you.
- Actions mean much more than words. If you really feel guilty, show it to your friend. Change your behavior, apologize, and do something that confirms how much you want to be friends with him again.
- Be a good listener.
- Don't be afraid to apologize first.
- Find a compromise point so that this problem can be resolved immediately.
Warning
- If your friend has determined to forget the problem and forgive you, the best thing to do is accept it and do it too.
- Never stalk or violate someone's privacy.
