You just broke up with your lover and find it hard to be happy? Or maybe you've been single for too long and feel like you'll never be happy until you find your soulmate? It may seem like you'll never be happy as long as you're single, but it's really not that different from feeling happy in any other situation. By finding what you are passionate about and growing it as often as possible in your life, you can learn to be happy independent of your relationship status. Read on to learn more about how to be single and happy.
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Part 1 of 2: Considering the Benefits of Single Life
Step 1. Consider the health benefits of being single
Being single has been associated with a reduced risk of adverse health effects due to marital or intimate relationships that are not working well. Some research shows that bad relationships can make you physically unwell. But singles are likely to be fitter and healthier. Singles also tend to visit the gym more often, eat better, and have lower stress levels.
- Single people tend to be slimmer than people in relationships. One study found that people gained an average of 6 kg or more after starting a relationship.
- Single people also have more quality sleep than people who share a bed with their partner.
- Single women have better mental health than married women, especially married women who already have children.
Step 2. Respect the freedom to spend as much time as you want
When in a relationship, you cannot ignore your partner's needs and wants. Sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do to make your partner happy. But when you're single, you can spend as much time as you want. You don't have to think about pleasing anyone but yourself. That means you have more time for your hobbies, personal interests, career, and general health. Enjoy this freedom while you are single!
Step 3. Consider the financial benefits of being single
While in a relationship, you may have to deal with a partner who is not responsible for managing their money. It can also cause financial problems for you. But if you're single, you don't have to worry about other people's shopping and frugal habits. You can use the money you earn as you wish.
Step 4. Enjoy the opportunity to strengthen friendships and make new friends
When you are in a relationship, it will be much more difficult to keep in touch with friends and make new friends because your partner will take up most of your time and affection. But when you are single, you have more time to dedicate yourself to your friends and meet new people. Remind yourself of this when you feel down because you are single. Think about the relationship that would deteriorate if you had a lover who took up most of your time and energy.
Step 5. Enjoy sex that is rare, but more enjoyable
When you're in a relationship, you probably have sex every day or at least a few times a week. When you are single, your intimate life may be much less frequent than that. But research shows that although single people tend to have less sex, they enjoy it more than people in relationships.
Step 6. Recognize that you have the ability to try a romantic relationship, if you wish
If you're still finding it hard to see all the benefits of being single, remember that you can always try a romantic relationship if you're not feeling happy. Being single isn't for everyone and some people thrive on having love and a companion. Remind yourself that you can always be in a relationship if you want.
Consider online dating sites to find people who are also looking for a committed relationship. Finding someone who is interested in a relationship and not just a casual date may keep you from getting your heart broken in the future
Part 2 of 2: Enjoying the Benefits of Single Life
Step 1. Ignore media portrayals of happy couples
Part of the reason why some people feel unhappy being single is the media portrayal that reinforces the image that we need to be in a relationship to feel happy. Try your best to ignore this message because it is not true. Avoid romantic comedies and magazines that build the impression that being single is gloomy and being in a relationship is a joy.
Depictions of a single woman may also be less favorable because they are often portrayed as ideal (a super woman who has everything) or evil (a lonely and sad woman who has nothing). Neither of these depictions is realistic, so do your best to ignore them and take them as a misrepresentation of what it's like to be single
Step 2. Focus on being your best self
Being single is an opportunity to focus on yourself and work towards your ideal vision of becoming the person you want to be. Take a course, exercise, plant a garden, do volunteer work, go to therapy, or do whatever your heart desires. Just remember that everything you do should be for yourself!
- Concentrate on yourself while you're single and find out what you like and don't like. Developing a stronger sense of who you are will help you get through life as well as identify the person you are truly compatible with (if you choose to be in another relationship).
- Find a new hobby! Learn to play guitar, take tap dancing lessons, plant a garden, write novels, cook sumptuous meals! Whatever you've wanted so far, do it now. Try new things that can lead to new skills, friendships, and increased self-confidence.
Step 3. Pamper yourself
It is important to maintain a positive self-image while you are single. Buy new clothes, take care of your nails, pamper yourself at the spa all day, or get a massage. Just because there's no one around to impress or make happy, doesn't mean you don't need to do nice things for yourself anymore. You are a strong and independent person who deserves the best. So give yourself the best!
Step 4. Surround yourself with supportive people
Whether you find yourself not getting many dating opportunities, or have recently ended a serious relationship, spending too much time alone can make you feel even worse. Try to make as many appointments as possible with people. If you don't feel like you have supportive friends, consider joining a club or gym to make new friends.
While getting support from others may seem like a luxury that not everyone needs or can get, psychologists are now discovering that strong social relationships are actually important for emotional well-being and physical health. So while you don't need to be in a romantic relationship with other people to be happy, feeling the support of a group of people you trust can be an important part of being single and happy
Step 5. Give yourself a boost
Say things you like about yourself to help you feel happy. Daily positive affirmations can help you feel happier day by day. Take a few moments each day to look in the mirror and say something encouraging to yourself. You can say something you believe in yourself or something you want to believe about yourself. Some examples of affirmations include:
- "I'm smart".
- "I am a loving friend."
- "People love spending time with me."
Step 6. Be an optimist
Being optimistic can help you feel happier, whether you're single, married, divorced, or lost by your partner. Practicing optimism will help you stay focused on the things you like about yourself and your situation and stop dwelling on the things you don't like about yourself or your situation.
- For example, instead of dwelling on the things you don't like being single, remind yourself of all the things you enjoy doing when you're single, like being able to flirt with someone without feeling guilty and doing whatever you want with your free time.
- Try keeping a diary of things you are grateful for. Each night, try to think of three things you are grateful for and write them down. Doing this every day will help you develop a more positive outlook over time and may even help you get better quality sleep and enjoy better health.
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- Appreciate everything you have, such as your creativity, intelligence, friends or pets, and your newfound independence.
- Be aware of the support you get from others and don't feel that everyone is against you. Your friends are probably the people who understand your feelings best.
- Appreciate all the good things you have right now, such as good friends and family, and good health.
- If you're really feeling down, try distracting yourself by spending time with your friends.
- Avoid romantic movies. Instead, try watching action, comedy or horror movies! Netflix is a great resource for watching these movies!
Warning
- Be careful about entering a new relationship. If you're in a new relationship, make sure you've forgotten about your past relationship. It won't be fair to your new lover, and it certainly won't be fair to you.
- When flirting with other people, make sure not to overdo it. Giving false hope to others is not an attractive trait of a person.
- If you're really feeling depressed about being single, consider talking to a mental health professional. You may have depression or another medical condition that requires treatment.
