Quality conversations are crucial to a successful relationship. In fact, today, in an age where people often communicate with text messages and social networks, as many as 87% of teens still often talk to their partners on the phone. The extra effort you put into making the call will show a girl that you're really interested in her. Plus, it can make him feel wanted. If you want to call your long-time lover or call a cute girl you just met, use the calling tips outlined below to have a conversation that can make it feel like she's in love.
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Part 1 of 4: Choosing a Place and Time to Call
Step 1. Try to call when he is free
Take the time to chat via text message, or wait until you feel he's completely free before calling him. Don't make him feel uncomfortable or force him to choose between you, or his family and friends. Call after soccer practice, drama club activities, shift work at a cafe, or after a family dinner.
- Send a quick text a few hours before calling: “Hi, have time to talk to me tonight?” or “Can I call you at 7pm?” Be flexible, and try to suggest a phone time that is convenient for both of you.
- Don't take it to heart if he doesn't have time to answer your call right away. Maybe he's just busy. Offer him another alternative time: "How about tomorrow night?" or “Good luck on your midterms! Can I call this weekend?”
Step 2. Call from a closed and quiet place
A woman will be more honest and open with you if she knows that no one is listening to your conversation. Do not call when you are out with other people, or set the speaker settings on when calling without their permission.
Step 3. Give it your full attention
He wants to make time for you, so you should do the same. Almost all teenagers believe that doing various jobs at once will make their concentration become divided when having a conversation. Let him know that your conversation is the most important thing in the world. Don't text, chat on the internet, watch television, or converse with other people while you're talking to your loved one.
Part 2 of 4: Making Small Chats
Step 1. Greet him cheerfully, because feelings are contagious
If you sound excited and friendly when you talk to him, he's more likely to respond the same way. When she answers the call, greet her in a way that can open up a conversation and show that you want to hear her. Use words that match the level of closeness between the two of you:
- Hi! What's my lover doing?
- Hey, beautiful! How are you?
- All day long I miss your voice so much! What are you doing?
Step 2. Leave a sweet voice message for her
If he doesn't answer the phone so your call goes to voicemail, leave a short but sweet voicemail. He'll appreciate the fact that you're thinking about him and enjoy hearing his voice.
- If you've been in a relationship long enough, you can say: “I just called to say I love you!
- If you're new to her, leave a more casual-sounding voice message like: How are you? I miss.
- Let him know when is the best time to call you back, so he doesn't have to leave a voicemail too and make it happen again: “I'll be home after soccer practice finishes at 7pm. Maybe we can talk again later?”
Step 3. Warm up the conversation with things that are casual
Humans are social creatures; it was his nature to have light conversations with strangers. Small talk can create a connection along with the activities of getting to know one another. Even superficial conversations can mean a new kind of relationship. Stick to light topics that your lover can feel comfortable with:
- Tell him about your day.
- Ask questions about their favorite sports team.
- Talk about events at school.
- Talk about television shows or movies you've watched together.
Step 4. Give him a compliment
Let him know that you enjoy the conversation and are happy to have him to talk to. Say something to encourage him to be more open to you (don't overdo it):
- Your stories are always so much fun!
- That's so funny!
- I'm so curious, I want to know what's next!
- You are very easy to talk to.
Part 3 of 4: Continuing the Conversation
Step 1. Let the flow of the conversation flow naturally
If you and your partner are compatible, small talk will naturally flow into deeper conversations. Direct the topic of conversation, ranging from casual jokes to conversations with more personal topics. Take advantage of the types of openings that can get you to know each other better:
- I'm also taking guitar lessons! Why do you prefer the guitar over any other musical instrument in the world?
- You get a driver's license within three months? If you had a car, where would you like to go?
- The school holidays are only two weeks away! Where do you want to go?
Step 2. Be emotionally open
He will only be honest and open if you are also honest and open. Most people are reluctant to express their feelings honestly not because they don't feel interested in doing so, but because they fear rejection. When you tell him how much he means to you, he will start to feel safe saying the same thing.
- The world seems to shine every time I see you.
- You are the most beautiful woman in the whole city.
- It feels like you understand me much better than anyone else.
Step 3. Ask open-ended questions
Formulate questions that your boyfriend can feel free to answer by providing details, background stories, and expressing his feelings. Don't stop the conversation with the kinds of questions he can answer straight away with a yes or no.
- To open a conversation, ask questions that have "what" "how" and "why" elements. What is your favorite childhood memory? How did you meet Lady Gaga? Why did your family decide to move to this area?
- Avoid asking something that begins with "I believe that you …, Maybe you …, You must have …," and so on. This kind of saying implies that you want a “yes” or “no” answer and the possibility of ending the conversation. Questions such as “You must have enjoyed meeting Lady Gaga” or for example “You might hate moving to a new place” will only limit your boyfriend's answers.
Step 4. Be a good listening listener
Conversation should go both ways, and listening is just as important as talking. Do not interrupt or overwrite what he is saying. Pay attention to what he has to say and wait until he is finished with his thoughts before you ask questions. Give him encouragement to tell more.
- What happened next?
- How does that affect how you feel?
- Why do you like milkshakes the most?
Step 5. Avoid talking about topics that could end the conversation
Be honest with your boyfriend, but don't make him feel offended or uncomfortable. Notice the enthusiasm he shows during the conversation. If he sounds excited when he talks about a certain topic, deepen the topic. If he's quiet, indecisive, and often says "Maybe", "I don't know", or "I think so", steer the conversation into a much more enjoyable topic.
- You should be aware of sensitive topics as you begin to get to know your lover better. Avoid these topics. Make your conversation with him a positive experience. Bringing back bad memories (eg parental divorce, ex-lover, deceased grandmother) is not a shortcut that you can take to become closer to him. Let him know that he can tell you everything, but don't bring it up and create feelings of sadness on purpose.
- Approaching aggressively can frighten him. Do not give the impression of being obsessive or begging too much. Don't make overly honest comments about her body parts or she'll be upset.
Step 6. Plan for the future
Planning activities together, such as a fun night out or plans for a lifetime, are things that build closeness between couples. Discuss together about where you want to live and where to go if you can choose to go anywhere. Talk about the dog you'd like to have, or what your version of your dream house would look like. Have fun and use your imagination. Keep the flow of the conversation light but seductive: you don't have to plan your life in detail. Tell your lover how much you look forward to going on a life adventure with him or her.
Part 4 of 4: Saying Farewell
Step 1. End the conversation before you run out of words
It's a good idea to end the conversation while you still have a lot to say. Thus, you will look forward to the next conversation. Suggest her a topic of conversation that the two of you can discuss on the next phone call.
Step 2. Tell him that you are happy to have spoken to him
Let him know that he is a special person. You appreciate the conversation you have with him. He will be more likely to call you if he knows you want to hear his voice.
- I'm looking forward to the next talk! Call me anytime.
- I will think of your sweet voice all night long.
- You should call me often.
- I'll text you tomorrow morning!
Step 3. Make her smile when you say goodbye
Say something sweet that you know will make her happy before hanging up. Make jokes that only the two of you know, tease him with a nickname he likes, or give him a compliment to make him blush.
- Bye, beautiful.
- Good night, beautiful!
- Mwah! Good night kiss!
Tips
- Don't try too hard to impress him. Don't sound arrogant or insecure.
- Don't bring up other girls just to make her jealous. He will see your motives.
- Speak in a calm, confident, but seductive voice during the phone conversation.
- Before you call, make sure you have plenty of free time. Don't hang up in the middle of an important moment, or make him think you hung up on him first.
- Make sure the flow of the conversation is not too boring. Remember, you're not calling your grandma.
- Don't lose your temper or try to have an argument on the phone. He will stay away.
- Respect family and culture.
