Just did something bad or said something inappropriate to your boyfriend and want to apologize to him? Want to apologize in an honest, direct, or more persistent and memorable way? Do you want him back? If you really love him and can't imagine life without him, here's how to apologize to him.
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Method 1 of 2: Apologizing through words
Step 1. Think about your apology and get to the heart of the matter
Everyone can say they are sorry, but not everyone can mean it and support it with problem solving. Realize that your boyfriend may expect you to think about your actions and/or words for a while before apologizing to him. Before you say an apology, it's a good idea to have a definite answer about:
- The reason you do what you have done, or say what you have said, makes him unhappy
- The side of your personality that causes it to happen.
- Your plan is to fix it so neither of you will experience it again.
Step 2. Start with a simple and frank, "I'm sorry
" Don't speak hesitantly, or try to apologize without actually saying "sorry." There's a good chance what he wants to hear is those words, so be prepared to say them from the start.
Step 3. Tell him that you really want to work this out and improve your relationship
Don't shout or badmouth him in front of other people; You can frighten him and make things worse.
If he seems genuinely displeased and doesn't want to accept your apology at this point, go home. Ask him if you can call him in a few days
Step 4. Calmly explain to him the reason behind your actions
If you've thought about the problem (Step 1), then you should be able to figure out why and what kind of error you made, and how you can fix it in the future.
- Example: "I know that I owe you an apology. I shouldn't have lied to you or your parents about my age. I know it's wrong, but I don't want you or them to believe in me just because I'm older. your parents, so I plan to apologize to them directly. I understand if you or your parents are still angry with me over this."
- Example: "I shouldn't be looking at Sita like that. I know that she is your friend, and I would never do anything that would harm my relationship with you or your relationship with her. I have no defense for what I did, just an explanation: a lot men steal glances at women. Once I know that it bothers you, I will try my best not to make the same mistake again."
- Example: "I'm sorry for calling you that - I won't do it again. That's wrong and insulting. I admit it. I shouldn't be overly angry, and I shouldn't be talking too much. I realize that you might change your mind. about me because of that, so I'll try to do whatever I can for you."
Step 5. Give him time to respond
Let him ask you all the things he wants to ask. Respond honestly. A few things to keep in mind when he asks you:
- Don't put the blame on it. Even if you're not the only one who made a mistake, don't blame him. Your apology won't work if you do that.
- Let him express how angry, disappointed, or unhappy he is. Don't try to block his emotions; he deserves it. It will make him feel better.
- Don't try to show affection at this point - it may still be too early. That includes not kissing, hugging, or holding hands unless he initiates them.
Step 6. Tell him that you will give him time if he needs it
Briefly rephrase your apology and walk away if he wants some alone time. Respect the way he wants to do things.
Method 2 of 2: Apologizing in Other Ways
Step 1. After you've made an effort to apologize verbally, try another method if he still hasn't forgiven you
Oftentimes, you have to apologize many times before he accepts that you are truly sorry. It does not matter; the more thought and effort you put into apologizing, the more likely he is to forgive you.
Step 2. Write an apology letter
Give it to her in a romantic way, such as tuck in a beautiful bouquet of flowers, or personally sent by one of her closest friends. The contents of the letter may read as follows:
Example: "I know that a letter cannot completely correct what I have done. I also know that a letter cannot fully describe how I feel and what I want to say. But I know for sure that I have messed things up. imagine life without you. You are the person I dream of when I sleep, and the person I think of when I wake up in the morning. You are everything. Nothing I am doing right now can make up for what I have done, but I can say to you that I will never make a mistake like that again. I promise from the bottom of my heart.."
Step 3. Depending on the nature of the girl, try to apologize in public
Be careful, because sometimes there are girls who don't like other people knowing about their relationship. Be careful before using a public apology. Also consider this: he may feel that you are using public pressure to force him to forgive you, such as "Oh, how could Sarah not forgive her? Look how good she is to Sarah!" In the end it might be better to keep this between you guys as a couple.
- Make a face-to-face apology in public. Look for him when he's with his friends, be prepared, and speak your mind. Look him deeply in the eye when you apologize, and focus your attention solely on him.
- If you're feeling creative, try using a flash mob to apologize to him. Flash mobs take a lot of preparation and work, so make sure it will work if you decide to do it.
Step 4. Leave flowers, chocolates, or stuffed animals at home or at work
Many women like these three things. Be sure to write him a short message; flowers and chocolates without an apology message will only take away the emotional feelings. Remember, you want emotions!!
Step 5. Compose an apology song and post it to YouTube
Songs about missing someone, doing someone wrong, or songs about feelings of guilt and shame can also be used. And of course, any song that has meaning to you as a couple is also worth using. You can change some of the lyrics to suit the situation..
Another option, make a compilation of songs for him. A compilation of songs feels less personal, but with the right care and thought it can help get your message across. Pick songs that you know he likes and songs you don't think he'll ever hear
Step 6. Write him an apology poem
Leave the poem for her, or record your own voice reading it on her answering machine. Make it as touching and emotional as possible, for example: I know my words right now
as if floating and chaotic and empty
I can't seem to grow
I can only follow
I'm paying attention to my life right now
and in you I find elegance
I just want to stay with you
and caress your charming face
Tips
- Fundamental to an apology is sincerity and honesty, otherwise you don't have to think about it if you don't want to.
- Try to make him special, because you want him to understand that you love him.
- Whatever you do, be as prepared as possible. Focus on the details and smoothness of your plan. You don't want him to misunderstand your point.
- Remember, the sooner you do it the better. If you really messed up, he's probably very upset, and you need to fix that as soon as possible.
- Persistence is key, but you need to know when he wants you to back off for a while.
- Don't expect anything in return, just focus on the fact that you're really apologizing.
- Don't forcefully ask for answers or give ultimatums. This will put a lot of pressure on him, and can make things worse.
- You don't have to spend a lot of money, and in fact, most girls will appreciate a more personal attitude. Example: pick some wildflowers and give them to her in her office, make dinner and deliver it to her house, prepare some things to pamper her…
- It can be helpful to ask friends for help (if they don't get mad at you first).
Warning
- Don't get caught in the cycle of apologizing just to lighten the mood. Your problems as a couple will pile up and eventually you will hold grudges against each other.
- Ask yourself why you should apologize and if you really mean it, as this will determine the way you will take it.
- He's not guaranteed to forgive you, but remember that ultimately you want to make sure he understands your feelings.
- Not everything requires an apology just because your boyfriend isn't happy. Think hard and long-term about your actions – and his.
- Don't put pressure on your lover to make a decision and don't communicate with him for a few days, give him some space to think!
