Talking to a girl on the phone can be very nervous, especially if you have a crush on her. Don't stress though--talking to a girl over the phone is like talking to a normal friend. You may need to do a little bit of preparation to figure out why you're calling him and be able to talk to him at the right time, but whether you want to ask him out or just want to get to know him better, staying calm is the key to a successful call to him.
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Part 1 of 4: Overcoming Nervousness When Making a Call
Step 1. Have a reason to call
Before you pick up the phone, make sure you know the reason for the call. If you call a girl you already know, the reason could be asking her out. If the person you are calling is a girl you want to get to know more about, you can continue the conversation you had previously. It's important to have concrete reasons so you don't stutter.
- If you're not really ready to ask him out, you can call him with the excuse of asking him out with other friends.
- If you're not ready to ask him out and just want to get to know him better, think back to your last conversation with him and look for topics to bring up again. For example, if he recommends a book, you can call him to say that you really enjoyed the book. If you are in the same class at school, you can ask the last assignment.
Step 2. Choose the right time to call
When you talk to him, make sure he's not in such a rush that he ends up on the phone. Call him when he's free, such as after school or work or during his lunch break.
If you just met the girl, don't wait to call her. You need to make sure that you are still fresh in his memory. So try calling him within a day or two of getting his number
Step 3. Send SMS first
If you're not sure when to call her, texting ahead of time can help. You can ask if he's free for the day or tell him you'll be calling in a few minutes so he's ready.
If he's texting for some reason and you happen to be near the phone when the message comes in, take that opportunity. Text him back to say you'll be calling him in a few minutes
Step 4. Take a deep breath
If you really like this girl and want to be able to have a smooth conversation, it's natural to be nervous before calling. So that you don't get confused when talking on the phone, try doing breathing exercises. This will help you stay calm so you can make the best impression.
Part 2 of 4: Starting a Conversation
Step 1. Greet him warmly
You have to make a good first impression when he answers your phone. So, it is important to prepare a greeting that you can directly convey. If you already know each other, saying hello and mentioning yourself is enough. If you just met, say hello, say your name, and remind him where he met you.
- For example, if you know this girl well, you can say, “Hey Kristi, this is Joko. How are you?"
- If you've just met him, you can say, “Hey Kristi, this is Joko. We met yesterday at the library."
Step 2. Talk about things that interest him
Conversing with him about something as common as the weather would definitely not impress him. Design a conversation that relates to his interests or hobbies that you know he'll enjoy talking about--and he'll know that you're really paying attention when he's talking.
- For example, you could say, “You said you were a badminton fan. How did you think last night's match was?"
- You can also ask him what he's going through. For example, you could say, “You had an exam yesterday, didn't you? Perhaps not?"
Step 3. Ask questions that answer more than just yes and no
You need to keep the flow of the conversation as smooth as possible. So, it's best to avoid yes and no questions. Such questions tend to stop the conversation, whereas open-ended questions can keep the conversation going.
For example, instead of asking, "You liked the movie?", you could say, "What did you like about the movie?"
Step 4. Listen to him
You might be tempted to impress him by constantly on the phone, but that could be wrong. Give him a chance to talk and listen carefully to what he has to say. This will make him understand that his thoughts and opinions are important to you.
- If he's talking, make sure he knows you're listening. When he stops, you can say "Really?" so he knows you're following him.
- Don't be afraid to ask questions when he's talking. It is another way of showing that you are listening.
Step 5. Get your point across immediately
While it's also good to make small talk about his interests and what he's going through, don't let the conversation drift off in the dark. After the initial pleasantries, explain why you called. Often times he will appreciate your promptness to convey the purpose of the call.
- For example, you could say, "I called to ask if you'd like to take me out for a walk tomorrow night."
- You could also say something like, "I called to ask if I could have the pasta sauce recipe we discussed."
Part 3 of 4: Seducing her over the phone
Step 1. Lower your voice
If you're trying to seduce him, your voice needs to sound confident and confident in yourself. Lowering your voice a little so you don't sound shrill or nervous can be helpful. However, make sure you speak loudly, so he can hear everything you have to say.
Step 2. Speak clearly and quietly
If you are nervous, you will usually speak quickly. If you want to sound seductive, try to keep your voice low and speak clearly. This will help you sound more confident. This is important when you're flirting.
Step 3. Give compliments
When you are trying to reach his heart, making him feel good about himself can be a strategy. Compliment the things you like about him, but be honest and don't overdo it.
- For example, you could say, “What I told you the other day was real… you look so beautiful in that blue dress.”
- Don't focus on their physical traits when you compliment them. If you're impressed by his sense of humor, intelligence, kindness, or any other trait, make sure you convey that too.
Step 4. Keep the topic light
When you're trying to flirt, it's best to avoid heavy topics, such as a sick friend or a layoff at work. Instead, stick to topics that are funny and fun, like your new cat or a trip you just took to a fun park.
Part 4 of 4: Ending the Phone
Step 1. Tell him you enjoyed chatting with him
When you're almost over the phone, you need to make sure he knows you appreciate the time he's spending talking to you. Let him know that you enjoyed chatting with him and that you would like to chat with him again tomorrow.
- For example, you could say, “It's fun to talk to you. Tomorrow again."
- You can also say something like, “This chat was really fun. How about we continue tomorrow at lunch?”
Step 2. Complete the plan
If you're calling for a specific reason, make sure you go over the details before ending the conversation. For example, if you ask him out and he agrees, make sure you know when he's going and where you'll be meeting.
Even if you haven't set a date or plans yet, it's a good idea to let him know when you'll see him again before ending the call. For example, you might say, “I might be able to meet us this weekend for Tono's birthday. We can chat again.”
Step 3. Say good-bye
When ending the conversation, you need to say goodbye. Depending on the time of day, you can end the call by saying, “Good night” or “Have a nice day.” You can also casually say goodbye, "See you later" or "Okay, okay." Say it sincerely so he knows that you mean what you say.
Tips
- Never forget to call if you promise to call him. He may think you are not serious.
- When he's on the phone, it's a good idea to ask questions so he knows you're interested. However, don't bombard him with questions so that he feels like he's being interviewed or being interrogated.
- Even if he's hoping he'll answer your call, have a voicemail ready, too. Think about what to say before you pick up the phone so you don't talk nervously.
- When you meet a girl you want to know more about, set a time to call her when she gives you her number. For example, you could say, "I'll call you Sunday afternoon."
