You may need to keep your relationship a secret for a variety of reasons. For example, maybe you are prohibited from having relationships with fellow coworkers in the office. Maybe you are a secretive person and don't want your private life to be exposed all the time. Whatever the reason, there are steps you can take to establish a secret relationship with someone.
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Method 1 of 2: Keeping Relationships Secret at Work
Step 1. Avoid intimacy at work
The office is not a place to make out with anyone. Besides being easily caught, intimacy at work can also be a reason for the office to fire you. Therefore, hide your intimacy with your partner while in the office.
While some companies may fire you for such behavior, others may transfer you to another section or department, furlough, or put a formal negative note on your employment history
Step 2. Don't isolate other coworkers
This means when you go to lunch, bring some other friends, at least once in a while. People will notice that you always go out to lunch and come back with your partner, and start talking about the two of you if you never invite other friends.
Step 3. Don't plan a vacation together
While it's great to be able to go on vacations together, if the two of you often take time off at the same time, people will start to become suspicious of your relationship. So that the relationship can remain confidential, arrange a schedule of leave in turns.
Step 4. Avoid social media
Of course, you wouldn't be so stupid as to change your relationship status to “Dating” while making friends with some coworkers on social media. However, it's also a good idea not to upload photos of togetherness with your partner to social media. If your co-workers often see the two of you on social media, they will naturally be suspicious.
Keep in mind that once you've uploaded something, even for friends only, it can become public content if someone re-uploads it on another platform
Step 5. Take advantage of the opportunity, but secretly
If you and your partner don't have appointments with other people after work, take the opportunity. Go have dinner together. Spend the night together. However, make sure you plan this in advance by bringing a change of clothes to work the next day (if staying together).
Step 6. Show honesty
If someone asks you about your relationship, this is a good time to admit it, at least if you won't face severe consequences or punishment. When a coworker asks about your relationship, it's possible that other co-workers are already suspicious of your relationship with your partner. Just explain the relationship honestly.
Method 2 of 2: Hiding Relationships from Friends and Family
Step 1. Discuss your relationship with your partner
If you deliberately want to hide the relationship, you need to discuss the decision with your partner. If you don't, he may think you're embarrassed by it. Discuss why you're hiding your relationship while being open about how you feel.
Step 2. Understand that for whatever reason, your partner may be upset
People hide relationships for a variety of reasons, from religious differences to significant age gaps. Infidelity is also of course one of the reasons the relationship is hidden, and is a form of secret relationship. However, people don't usually want to be hidden from anyone, so you could end up pissing your partner off when you make this wish.
Step 3. Set a time limit
At some point, you can no longer hide your relationship. You and your partner must determine the time to reveal the relationship that is being lived. Therefore, make an agreement about the right time to share the relationship. You can both set a specific time period (eg 3 months) or a fixed date (eg the 8th day of month X). However, the most important thing is that you both agree on the chosen time limit.
Step 4. Stay away from social media
As with romantic relationships at work, if you want to keep your relationship a secret from friends and family, don't post photos of them together on social media. Also, of course don't change your relationship status.
Step 5. Delete evidence of communication with him
When with family members who (likely) will be looking at your phone or communication device, it's important to delete evidence of chats with your partner. Delete short messages, instant messages, phone call history and voicemails from him as soon as possible from your phone, tablet and computer.
Alternatively, you can buy cheap cell phones specifically for secret relationships. However, it will be more difficult or inconvenient when you need to hold two phones
Step 6. Create a separate email account
If anyone has access to your email account, create a second account to hide your relationship with your partner. Choose a service that is different from the service that can be used, and use a different name so that it is not associated or related to your personal identity.
Step 7. Clear browser history
If you visit a suspicious site, even a fancy restaurant site, clear your browser history when you're done using your computer. Of course, you only need to clear history if you're using a shared computer. However, it's a good idea to play it safe if you want to keep your relationship a secret.
Some browsers, such as Google Chrome have a feature that allows you to surf without being tracked by the internet. However, if your browser doesn't have this feature, just clear your history and cookies when you're done using your computer. The deletion feature can be accessed in the main menu and the browsing history segment
Step 8. Use another credit card
If you and your family share credit card charges, use a different credit card when you date your partner. If possible, make payments in cash. Otherwise, other family members will be confused when they see the "suspicious" charges on the card bill.
If your family members often look at the contents of your wallet, it's a good idea to keep the spare credit card in a secret place
Step 9. Visit the hidden place
You should know the places frequented by friends and family. Avoid places that put both of you at risk of meeting them. If necessary, drive out of town or an area outside the city center so you don't run into people you know.
