While ending a romantic relationship in person is generally the wisest step to take, in certain cases, it's also okay to use text messages, especially if the two of you have dated a few times, aren't in a serious relationship, or if the act is is the safest option to take. Interested in knowing more information? Read on for more tips on ending a relationship via text message in a polite and mature way!
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Method 1 of 10: Start the message with a compliment
Step 1. Say positive things about your partner to ease any negative reactions that may arise from them
However, don't over-praise your partner so that your main point is obscured. Instead, allude to one positive thing you experienced while dating her, or compliment her character implicitly.
- For example, you could start your message by saying, "Hey Adam, thanks for treating me to coffee last night."
- As another example, you could also say, "Hey Hedi, you seem like a sensitive and fun guy."
Method 2 of 10: Continue the compliment with a sentence that begins with the word “honestly.”
Step 1. Convey your decision in a sincere and polite sentence
Trust me, your partner will be more relaxed if you realize that you have considered the decision carefully. Therefore, be honest about what you mean, but use positive diction to avoid hurting her feelings.
- For example, the next sentence could be something like, "But to be honest, I'm no longer interested in being in a romantic relationship with anyone."
- As another example, you might say, "Honestly, I don't feel the same vibe as I used to with you."
Method 3 of 10: Express your disagreement
Step 1. Don't send ambiguous messages to your partner
That is, affirm the decision to end the relationship with him because of an ambiguous statement, even though it sounds kinder to the ears of the partner, in fact it will only make him confused. Therefore, it is best to make your wishes clear from the start.
- For example, you might say, "I feel like going forward, we're going to have a lot of incompatibility."
- As another example, you could also say, “I don't feel any good vibes between us. That's why, I feel it's time for us to go our separate ways.”
Method 4 of 10: Give reasons, if desired
Step 1. If your partner questions your decision, please give a brief reason, if desired
Basically, you can give specific reasons or not. However, there is no need to feel the need to tell your partner everything. If you want to simply convey that your feelings for him have faded without going into specific details, feel free to do so.
- For example, you might say, "I don't think we're compatible, that's why this relationship isn't working for me."
- As another example, you could say, "I realize that we've been arguing a lot lately, and to be honest, I don't want to be in that kind of relationship."
Method 5 of 10: Use “I.”
Step 1. Focus on your feelings instead of on your partner's faults
At this stage, do not mention all the shortcomings of your partner so that he does not feel more hurt. Instead, focus on communicating how you feel and the decisions you want to make. Take responsibility for your feelings because you are the one who will end the relationship with him!
- For example, instead of saying, "You travel too much with your friends," try saying, "I feel lonely when I'm not invited to participate in your activities."
- In addition, you can also say, "I feel like we always have a hard time discussing what's going on," instead of, "You're always picking fights with me."
Method 6 of 10: End the relationship on good terms
Step 1. End the confession with a statement showing your appreciation for your partner
Even if the purpose of the communication is to end the relationship, remember the good times the two of you had together. For example, mention his efforts to make you a better person, or another positive influence he has had on your life. Doing so will show you care about your partner's feelings, as well as confirm to your partner that their existence clearly leaves a positive impression on you.
- For example, you might say, “I always appreciate your efforts to make me more patient. Wishing you success and happiness in the future!”
- In addition, you can also say, "Even though our relationship has to end, thank you for all the fun things we've had together, okay?"
Method 7 of 10: Give a polite response
Step 1. Don't worry
You can always deliver negative news without being rude or mean to the person you're talking to. If your partner asks you questions about your decision, try to answer them in the most polite way possible. Show that you understand their point of view without needing to change the decisions that have already been made.
- For example, you might say, “I understand why you're upset. But, I also have to be honest with my feelings, right?”
- As another example, you might say, "I see what you mean, but I think ending the relationship is still the best decision for us."
Method 8 of 10: Send messages that are short and to the point
Step 1. Just say the things that are important so that your beliefs don't waver
Even if you are experiencing a very complex emotional turmoil, try to end the conversation in the shortest possible time. One way is, you don't need to mention all the reasons that prompted you to end the relationship with your partner. Make sure your point can be conveyed clearly through a short and straightforward text message.
For example, send a text message that says, “Hi Alex, thank you, yes, because you have been a very supportive and fun partner. But, to be honest, lately I don't feel the same emotions as before because we talk less and less. Maybe, it's good if this relationship ends, huh. Even though the ending wasn't good, I'm still grateful for all the fun times we've had, yeah. Wishing you continued success in the future!”
Method 9 of 10: End the relationship completely
Step 1. Confirm to your partner that your relationship is really over
Don't give false hope by indicating that the two of you can get back together in the future. Also don't give the same hope by indicating that the two of you can still be good friends in the future. After the relationship is over, don't contact him to confirm that you no longer want to interact with him.
If your partner continues to terrorize you after the relationship ends, block their phone number and social media accounts so they can no longer contact you
Method 10 out of 10: Have a one-on-one conversation with your partner, if the two of you have been in a relationship for a long time
Step 1. In fact, ending a serious relationship via text message is disrespectful behavior
Even if it feels easier, understand that it will hurt you, and your partner, much more in the future. Therefore, respect your partner and show that the relationship is important to you by inviting him or her to have a face-to-face discussion.
Don't feel safe to communicate one-on-one with your partner? At least end the relationship via a phone or video call instead of a text message
Tips
Think carefully before ending the relationship. Surely you don't want to make a decision that you will later regret, do you?
Warning
- If the two of you have been dating for a long time or have dated more than 5 times, it's best not to end the relationship via text message to show your appreciation for him. If you don't want to meet face-to-face, or if you feel insecure about meeting her, at least ask her to read it over the phone.
- Even if you have done everything right, the process of ending the relationship will still be difficult. Therefore, there is no need to deny the sadness or depression that follows. Instead, allow yourself to feel all those emotions to reflect on the fact that ending the relationship was the right decision.
