Have you just got the phone number of the man or woman of your dreams, but don't know how to use it? Instead of thinking about it until the brain is too stressed, try to take the first step to make sure the communication process is going well. Trust me, if started with the right technique, the conversation between the two of you will be pleasant. Plus, your relationship can develop in a much more positive direction afterward!
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Method 1 of 3: Sending a Positive Text Message
Step 1. Send a message about the activities you previously did with it
If you recently spent time with him, try starting the conversation by discussing the last thing the two of you did. Use the moment as a reference and give him the opportunity to give his opinion. Trust me, it's a powerful and very casual way to start a conversation!
- For example, you might say, “Wow, I'm so full. That restaurant was really good, you know!"
- Or, you could also say, “Wow, today's class is so boring! I fell asleep."
Step 2. Ask questions
Asking a question on the first text message is a way to throw the ball of conversation at him. As a result, he only has two choices, namely to reply or ignore you. If he responds with another question, make sure you follow the flow.
Your question can be as simple as, “What are your plans for the weekend?” or “What shoes are you wearing today? I want to use the same model, ah."
Step 3. Start the conversation with an interesting topic
Incorporating humor into the first text message is a powerful way to keep the conversation going. Therefore, avoid boring opening lines like "Hi" or "How are you?" Instead, send him a text message he doesn't receive often to increase his chances of replying.
You could say, “So I just went through 20 blocks for a sandwich, didn't I. Uh, I just realized that it's Sunday and the shop is closed! How are you today?"
Step 4. Tell him your identity if he doesn't have your mobile number
While a mysterious attitude can trap other people's interest, never hide your identity for too long so that you don't come across as weird. If you have the cell phone number, but not the other way around, don't forget to explain your identity from the start.
Start the message with a question like, "Guess who I am?" followed by information about your name, or "Hey! This is Garrett, I got your number from Kelly."
Step 5. Send message without hesitation
The only way to communicate via text message is to do so without hesitation! If you already have his contact information but are too nervous or afraid to contact him, the conversation between the two of you will never last. Therefore, don't wait too long and consider too many things. After all, the worst thing that can happen is not receiving a reply from him, which is actually no different from the results you get when you don't do anything.
Method 2 of 3: Sending Quality Text Messages
Step 1. Use emoticons regularly
The use of emoticons is very useful because the other person cannot see your face or gauge your mood. That is why, sarcastic sentences often cannot be conveyed properly through text messages. Therefore, use emoticons to make it clear how you feel about something, but don't do it too often and replace each word with an emoticon so that your actions don't sound overwhelming.
- For example, you could say, “Chemistry class today was really fun, huh:)”
- Or, you can also say, “Chemistry is the most exciting subject in the world:|"
Step 2. Pause between texts
Even though it sounds contradictory, actually providing pauses between texts is effective in building interest and curiosity, you know! Communicating too often, in many cases prone to make the other person lazy to continue the communication process. Therefore, act as natural as possible by sending messages only when you have free time to do so. This gives the other person a chance to think of an appropriate response, and the conversation can feel more meaningful afterward.
Step 3. Submit a photo of the activity you are currently doing
Photos are the perfect way to tell your story in a fun way. However, make sure you only send appropriate photos and don't post too many selfies, okay? Trust me, he'll be encouraged to continue the conversation with you after receiving the photo.
Step 4. Keep the intensity of the conversation light
Conversation topics that are too serious and detailed will often make the communicating parties "get lost". Therefore, it is best to have a serious and deep conversation only by telephone or face-to-face communication.
- If he's willing to open up to you, don't be afraid to respond. In other words, always follow the flow of the conversation naturally.
- Light topics include how you were that day, a show you both like, or a song you just heard.
Step 5. Send a decent message
Try to assess his comfort level and relationship status with you. If the two of you are just friends, don't use words that are seductive or potentially uncomfortable. However, if the two of you are already in a romantic relationship, feel free to flirt or flirt with her via text message!
- If you don't reply to your message, it's possible that he's busy or doesn't want to chat with you. Whatever the reason, you still need to step back and give him time to reply.
- If the two of you are just friends, try saying, “Hey, I'm bored, here. What are you doing now?"
- If your relationship is moving in a more romantic direction, try saying, “Hey, I'm bored, here. Entertain me, please!;)"
Method 3 of 3: Keeping the Conversation
Step 1. Ask questions about his life
If you're not sure what to say, try asking questions about his life. Read the replies first, then ask the relevant questions. The more information he provides about his life, the more he will want to continue texting with you.
Step 2. Don't be judgmental
Once trust has been built between the two of you, he's more likely to start opening up to you and talking about more serious topics. If that's the case, the worst thing you can do is give a judgmental response to the things he tells you. Instead of acting like that, try to better understand his perspective.
If you're being judgmental, he's likely to not want to open up again in the future, or even worse, he won't want to text you anymore
Step 3. Don't be afraid to be yourself
Do not doubt every sentence you will send. If you notice that you're constantly typing long sentences and then deleting them, stop whatever you're doing and try to relax. The more honest you are at the time, the less pressure you will have on subsequent conversations. Therefore, be yourself and don't be too busy filtering your words.
Step 4. Go with the flow
The process of communicating through text messages can be very interesting because the flow of conversation is generally undirected. Instead of pushing yourself, try to stay with the flow and exchange messages naturally. Listen to what the other person has to say and start opening up if he starts opening up to you. If you want to ask her out or direct the conversation to a more intimate topic, it's best to wait until the time is right to do so.
Do not be too quick to change the relationship in a more personal direction so that he does not feel scared
Step 5. Don't keep sending messages if you don't receive a reply
Being too pushy or sending too many text messages in a row can make the other person lazy and ignore you. Instead, stay calm and wait for his response. If his response doesn't come, he's probably busy, right?
