For many people, there is nothing worse than hurting the people they care about and care about. That's why, if your words and/or actions have hurt an important woman in your life, immediately admit your mistake and apologize so the situation can improve faster. If you can only apologize in text, then don't worry, as this article has rounded up some of the best tips you can use to make an indirect apology.
Step
Method 1 of 10: Understand the perspective
Step 1. Try to understand his point of view
Before texting him, try to think about if the same problem happened to you. Sharpen your empathy so you can understand his perspective better, as well as to know what to say and/or do to improve the situation.
For example, if you forgot your birthday, try to imagine what it would be like if a similar situation happened to you
Method 2 of 10: Admit your mistake and offer your apologies
Step 1. Admit your mistakes
No need to circle around on the spot! Just say an honest and sincere apology for hurting her. Chances are, he has forgiven you even though he's still too proud to admit it. It's also possible that he just needs time to clear his head and defuse his anger before forgiving you. Most importantly, don't be shy about admitting mistakes and apologizing afterwards.
- Send a message that says, "I'm sorry, yes, I know I hurt you." Remember, the body of your message should be short, straightforward, and uncomplicated.
- Even if it's not entirely your fault, there's nothing wrong with rectifying the situation by apologizing first.
Method 3 of 10: Take responsibility for your actions
Step 1. Admit your mistakes and don't make up excuses to justify them
Firmly say that your words or behavior hurt him. Don't try to blame the other party or the situation! Trust me, it will be easier for him to open up to an apology that is delivered honestly and sincerely.
- If you forget to text or pick up the phone, try saying, "I'm sorry, it was my fault."
- If you're willing to admit you were wrong, he won't mind doing it either. For example, if he's angry and yelling because you didn't pick up his phone during rush hour, try saying, “I should have said yes when I couldn't check my phone. Sorry, I was wrong.” After all, he shouldn't mind apologizing for cursing you.
Method 4 of 10: Show your guilt
Step 1. Show your guilt for hurting her
Admit your mistakes, even admit how much you feel guilty for hurting him. Describe the emotions you are currently feeling and how sorry you are for saying something hurtful or doing something hurtful to him.
For example, if you've been ignoring him all weekend and his behavior is hurting him, try saying, “I'm so sorry, I have a stomach ache since yesterday so I can't contact you. I'm really sorry if it hurt you, I really didn't mean it."
Method 5 of 10: State why you are at fault
Step 1. Admit how fatal your mistake was
Sometimes, a person's faults don't just refer to his words or behavior. Therefore, try to identify the negative impact your words or behavior have on him, and show that you are fully aware of the impact. This will make it easier for him to forgive and appreciate your apology.
For example, if she's upset that you didn't notice her new haircut, try sending a text message that says, “I know you just got a haircut and would like to hear my opinion. I think what you're doing is really brave and I shouldn't have been silent when I saw it."
Method 6 of 10: Don't try to justify your behavior
Step 1. Focus on his feelings, not yours
Just as you shouldn't make excuses or turn to blame them, neither should you try to simplify your behavior or mistakes. Be careful, doing so can make him feel even more unappreciated! Don't focus the conversation on you either. Instead, tell him how much of a negative impact your behavior had on him, and how much you regret it.
For example, try sending a text message that says, "I know I hurt your feelings, and I'm sorry for that," instead of simply saying, "I didn't mean to hurt your feelings."
Method 7 of 10: Allow him to share his feelings
Step 1. The opportunity may help him recover
In fact, an apology is the first step you should take after hurting anyone. After doing so, try not to overwhelm the conversation or focus the conversation on your guilt. Instead, give him the opportunity to express himself as well.
Send short, simple text messages, such as, “Can you tell me what you're thinking, please?” or “How are you feeling now?”
Method 8 of 10: Express your desire to correct the error
Step 1. Offer to correct your mistakes and behavior in the future
Ask whether or not there is anything you can do to improve a situation that has already occurred. Show your seriousness and willingness to correct the mistake!
Try saying, “If I may, I'd like to try to correct my mistakes. Whatever you ask I will do, as long as I am given the opportunity to do it."
Method 9 out of 10: Ask him to forgive you
Step 1. Help him to calm his anger
After apologizing, admitting mistakes, and trying to fix the situation, ask if he's willing to forgive you. Most likely, he would need some time to think about his decision, and that was perfectly natural. However, it's also possible that he feels ready to forgive you and move on with life as usual.
Send a message that says, “I'm so sorry, yes, for making you angry. I promise I will do whatever it takes to improve the situation. Will you forgive me?”
Method 10 of 10: Repeat the same process directly
Step 1. Re-express your guilt when you meet him
Apologizing via text message is powerful enough to be a temporary solution. However, to make sure the relationship between the two of you really returns to the way it was, don't forget to show your guilt through actions. When the two of you meet again in person, reiterate your apology and show that you are serious about not repeating the same mistake.
For example, if you've apologized via text message for suddenly canceling your appointment, when you see him later, don't forget to say, "Uh, I'm sorry again, I had to cancel the appointment with you."
Tips
- If she forbids you to contact her, please give her some time to clear her head before starting to text her apologizing.
- If he doesn't accept the apology sent by text message, try to apologize in person. Sometimes a direct apology is a panacea for improving relationships with other people.
