Are you a bisexual man and want to date a man with similar preferences? If there's someone you suspect is bisexual but hasn't openly acknowledged their preferences with others, try reading their cues before taking any further steps. If he also seems interested in you, try throwing in all kinds of flirting and flirting, or even asking him out!
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Part 1 of 3: Detecting Signals of Interest
Step 1. Pay attention to his body language
The way a guy behaves around you can indicate his interest in you. Two people who are attracted to each other tend to always have their bodies facing each other, standing or sitting close together, and emitting various implicit signals such as:
- Smile and look into your eyes. Both are classic signals that indicate someone's interest. If a guy is attracted to you, he's more likely to smile while looking you in the eye even if you're not close.
- Raised his eyebrows. This body language will often appear automatically if someone sees a person they like. Observe if he shows similar body language when he first sees you.
- Slightly opened his mouth. Humans tend to open their mouths slightly when faced with a person they like. If he's attracted to you, this body language will generally appear as soon as your eyes meet.
Step 2. Observe how he acts in front of you
If he looks like he likes to preen in your presence (like fixing his tie, straightening his hair, or trying to improve his appearance in any way), he's most likely trying to signal his interest in you.
For example, unconsciously he often smooths the clothes he wears when chatting with you, or strokes the hairs on his face to make sure he looks neat
Step 3. Observe how it touches you
Someone who has an interest in you will always touch you gently and intimately. For example, he will put his hand on your arm or shoulder even for a short duration. If he's constantly touching you attentively, he's probably just trying to show his interest in you.
If he's always laughing at your jokes while touching your upper arm, it's most likely his way of showing his interest
Step 4. Observe how he treats other people
Comparing his behavior to you and to others can help you analyze his interests. If he's always been more warm and considerate to you than to anyone else (both men and women), he's more likely to have an attraction to you.
If he always laughs at your jokes but never does the same for other people's jokes, chances are he is really interested in you
Part 2 of 3: Seducing her
Step 1. Smile and make eye contact
Two classic flirting tactics are making eye contact and flashing a warm smile. Whenever your eyes meet, try to smile and look him in the eye to show your interest in him. After all, smiling and making eye contact are friendly body language so they are still considered implicit cues.
Make eye contact for a few seconds, then immediately look away. After a while, look back at him. If he's still staring at you at that moment, chances are he's really interested in you. If that's the case, don't hesitate to give him a warm smile to indicate that his interest is not one-sided
Step 2. Have a chat with him
Before asking him out, try having a chat to get to know him better and to analyze if you both share the same interests. Do this to make sure your date doesn't feel boring! Therefore, don't hesitate to ask him what he likes and doesn't like, as well as basic things that can help you get to know him better. Some examples of questions worth asking are:
- Where do you work?
- What do you usually do in your free time?
- What music do you like?
- You were born here?
- Have a pet?
- Are you happy?
Step 3. Praise him
Everyone loves compliments, regardless of the intention behind them. By complimenting him, you actually increase his confidence and send a message that you are interested in him. If he shares the same interest, he's more likely to return your compliments. Otherwise, he will most likely just politely thank you then try to change the subject.
- Try saying, “You have a great sense of dress! I like your suit."
- Or you can be a little bolder by saying, “I'm sorry I kept staring at you. Your eyes are beautiful, really."
Step 4. Give it a light and friendly touch
Doing so is a pretty powerful method of seducing him and measuring his attraction at the same time. For example, touch him gently to show your interest in him. As a result, afterwards he will feel more confident to return the touch if he wants.
- For example, you could try touching his shoulder or arm when he says something interesting or silly.
- Or, you can also be a little more daring, such as placing your palm on his shoulder or shoulder to guide him when the two of you are walking side by side in a crowded place.
Part 3 of 3: Asking Her On a Date
Step 1. Show your interest
If you're assuming that she's also dating or harboring an interest in men, try taking an implicit approach first. In other words, first try to send a positive signal about your interest in dating him, especially if you're still unsure about his sexual preferences. As a result, he also has the opportunity to politely decline your signal if he doesn't have the preferences you assume.
- For example, you might say, "I'd like to invite someone over to the cinema on Saturday. Do you have any ideas, about which guy I want to invite?”
- Or you could also say, “So there's a cute guy I want to hang out with, but I'm not sure if he likes other guys or not. What do you think you would do if you were in my situation?”
Step 2. Take a straightforward approach
If your signal never seems to arrive, or if you want to know his preferences firsthand, don't be afraid to take a more direct approach. In other words, ask directly if she's also dating men. If he answers "yes," you can immediately ask him out on a date.
- For example, you might ask, “You date guys too, don't you? Or just girls?”
- If he admits to dating both of them, try saying, “Wow, that's great! We have to go out together once in a while."
- If he answers "no", the situation between the two of you will definitely feel awkward. However, don't worry because sooner or later, the awkwardness will subside. To bring the conversation back to normal, try to come up with a firm, direct, and honest response like, "Okay, that's okay. I did ask that to all the boys I met. It's hard to guess someone's sexual preference!”
Step 3. Try recommending dating ideas and locations
If you feel you are receiving positive signals from him, don't hesitate to ask him out! Based on the conversation patterns between the two of you, try to recommend specific dates, locations, and date ideas to him.
- For example, you might say, “We both like watching horror movies. Do you want to watch a movie that just came out in theaters this Saturday? What time do you think you can get?"
- Or, try saying, “This newly opened Indian restaurant looks delicious. Do you want to go together next Thursday?”
