If you now like a guy, maybe you are making plans to approach him. If you're nervous or don't know what to do, fear not. Approaching men is actually quite fun and easy, and can increase self-confidence. You need to let him know who you are and that you're interested, by staying true to yourself and looking for opportunities to chat with him.
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Part 1 of 3: Get Him To Notice You
Step 1. Make sure he knows who you are
This step is easy if you and he are classmates or work in the same office. However, it's possible that you like a guy you haven't had any interactions with. If that's the case, there are ways to get him to get to know you without the impression of stalking.
- Ask the same friend to introduce you to him.
- If he works at a shop or cafe you frequent, make sure you go there regularly whenever he works. Ask him about the menu or anything the shop or cafe sells. Show a friendly attitude and thank them for the help.
- Like the photo or post on social media if you connect on social platforms.
- If you and he are coworkers or classmates, but don't normally interact, find an excuse. Organize an office party and ask if she'd like to help. Sit next to him and borrow the pencil.
Step 2. Make sure you always look your best
You never know (or maybe you already know) when you will meet him. So, you need to look your best to be confident when interacting. Wear clothes that accentuate your personality and make you look and feel special.
- If you have a favorite accessory, like a special hat, wear it. Special accessories can make a mark and help boost your confidence and make you memorable.
- Of course, you want to look perfect, but make sure your clothes are appropriate. Don't go to work in revealing clothes just to impress her, or choose fancy clothes for college.
Step 3. Introduce yourself
Introductions are a scary step if you are shy. However, most people enjoy meeting new people and like it when someone introduces themselves politely.
- Say something casual in introductions. If you frequent her workplace and she is familiar with your face, say, “Hi, I'm Ani. I don't think I know your name yet."
- You could also say, “I've seen you around here a lot, but I don't think I've seen you in person. I'm Monica."
Step 4. Praise him
People always remember being praised. Compliments are very pleasing and show that you notice something about them. Look for one thing in his appearance or job that you like. He will associate you with the pleasure that is the effect of the compliment.
- Say that you like the dress, especially if it has something to do with you. For example, “Your shirt is beautiful. I like that band too.”
- Praise the work. You could say, “Your coffee is the best,” or “You are an amazing lab partner.”
Part 2 of 3: Greet Him
Step 1. Make seductive eye contact
Seductive eye contact takes several forms. Generally, you need to maintain eye contact for four seconds before looking down or looking away. Holding your gaze during this time is a sign that you are flirting.
- If you're feeling bold and sexy, lick your lips a little. However, make sure you are sure because licking your lips is a blatant seduction.
- There is a difference between teasing and staring. Read the signal and the response, don't just stare.
Step 2. Smile
This may seem obvious, but if you're feeling nervous or embarrassed, you may forget to smile. However, a smile is very important. A smile is a signal that you are friendly and approachable. In addition, a smile also shows that you are interested.
A smile that displays your teeth and wrinkles around your eyes conveys warmth and shows that you are happy to meet him
Step 3. Say “hi”
This simple greeting is also easier said than done. If you feel very shy around him, that's normal. However, you should be comfortable enough to at least say “hello”.
- Wait until he looks at you or catches your gaze. Then, say something casual, like, "Hi."
- If you're used to greeting them in the hallway or at work, add to the greeting with, "Good morning," or "Nice to meet you."
Step 4. Like him or “make friends” on social media
This step is easier than saying hello in the real world. If it's not going to make a weird impression, try making friends with him on Facebook or another social media platform. This method is best if you have mutual friends or hang out in the same neighborhood.
- If you follow him on a dating site or app, use the app to like his profile.
- When you like his profile or ask to be his friend, then you can send a short message. A simple message like, “Hi! I like the photo that you just posted” can already be the subject of the initial conversation.
Step 5. Make a statement
Statements make you look and sound confident. Say something about the surroundings. These comments will invite conversation and show that you're interested in chatting.
- You can say, “Wow, it's sunny, isn't it?” or “The coffee here is special.”
- You can also ask for help or direction. For example, “I've never been here before. Is there a type of coffee that you recommend?” or “Which is the fastest way to the library from here?”
Part 3 of 3: Showing That You Like It
Step 1. Make sure he is single
You can avoid embarrassment if you make sure that he's still single before taking any steps. If you are not familiar with it, find out in the following ways:
- See if she wears a wedding ring.
- In cyberspace, check the photo with someone who might be his partner
- Listen when he talks. Does he reveal a lot about himself and his life, without mentioning a partner?
- Are his eyes roaming the room and looking at the people around him? It could be a sign that he is single and looking for love.
Step 2. Do something nice for her
This way shows that you like him without having to say anything. It can be trivial, but make sure he notices and appreciates it.
- If you notice that he always comes to class without a pen or pencil, bring a special pen for him. Say, "I see you usually need a pen."
- If you work in a place he frequents frequently, offer a promotion or discount if that won't get you into trouble. If you often come to work, give a lot of tips or bring something. Accompany it with the words, “Your bread is really good. So here I brought my own cake."
Step 3. Tell the truth
If you don't know if he likes you or understands the signals you're sending, there's always the option of being honest. Men love to hear that because they don't have to guess what you mean.
- You can be frank without being demanding. Say, "I'd like to hang out with you once in a while, if you're interested."
- Frankly, you can say what you like about him. For example, “You seem attractive. Wanna hang out sometime?”
- There are people who are frank and honest about saying, "I have to say that I like you." Sometimes men are fascinated by this kind of honesty, but other times they lose interest. He may not know how to respond, or feel pressured to answer.
Step 4. Send a written message
Messages on paper are a cute way to show interest. You can also include a phone number in the message so he has to act. Write a simple message. Don't express your dead love on this occasion.
- Write down your number and give it to him. You can say something tempting, like, "I'm sure you want this?"
- If you and he have never interacted or have no mutual friends, don't give out a phone number for security reasons.
Step 5. Send a text message
To send a text message, of course you need to have his number or be connected to him on social media. Text messages or online messages are a fun and relaxing way to get in touch with the guy you like.
- Say something more personal and interesting than just, "How are you?" Ask something related to his profile, or ask for advice.
- For example, “How is the new restaurant in your photo, the food is delicious? I'm going there this week too."
Step 6. Invite him to an event
You may be afraid to ask him out on a date, but chances are he'll love it. Usually, men are not often asked to date. So, your invitation may be of interest to him. First, think about what event you want to go to with him.
- Choose an event that's being held on a specific day, such as a concert or sporting event. Don't just choose activities like drinking coffee.
- Say, “Hi, I have an extra ticket to Prambanan Jazz. Maybe you want to go with me?”
Tips
- Follow your heart. If you think he's interested too, then maybe he is. If you're shy, do it slowly, but surely.
- Be yourself. Confidence and feeling comfortable as you are is very important in dating.
- Remember that there is always the possibility of being rejected, but that's okay. If he's not interested, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or your character. Keep going ahead. There are many other men who deserve your attention more.
- You can ask if he has a pencil you can borrow or ask him something to start a conversation.
