What's a worse situation than being rejected by the person you like? The answer is, being rejected by the person you like, then after that he just teases, plays, or even humiliates you! Remember, you are too precious to be treated that way. Don't let the actions and/or words of the person you like destroy your life. Instead, try to turn the situation around; show that you are not affected by the game and can still live just fine without it.
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Method 1 of 2: Faking Feelings
Step 1. Take the time to "overflow everything
" After experiencing rejection, it's normal to have trouble controlling your emotions; especially if afterward the person you like turns around to tease or embarrass you. So take some time to express any frustration, anger, and sadness about the rejection you've just experienced (you'll need to do this alone, of course). Cry and scream all you can; let everything flow out of your system.
If you're really feeling down, don't be afraid to share your feelings with your closest friends and relatives. They will certainly be able to calm you down and/or provide advice that will help you
Step 2. Avoid him as much as you can
If he wants to upset you and mess you up, don't make it happen! Avoiding it is the right move so that he doesn't get that satisfaction. Don't go to the cafe he frequents, don't talk to him unless you have to. If necessary, you should even avoid his friends; no one knows whose side they are on, right?
You also need to do this avoidance in cyberspace. Don't pick up the phone or reply to her messages, and delete her from your social networks (Facebook, Twitter, etc.)
Step 3. Be confident when you have to interact with him
Sooner or later, you're bound to get back in touch with that person (especially if you're in the same class or office with them). Don't talk to him; wait until he took the initiative to do so. If you have to do it first, show your disinterest in a polite way. Speak in short, to-the-point sentences, such as “Oh, great,” “Okay, that's fine,” or “Okay.”
If he's flirting with you, stop talking and/or give him an icy stare to get him to stop. It's your reaction that he's really looking for, so don't allow yourself to appear annoyed or angry in front of him
Step 4. Keep yourself busy
Don't let yourself get caught up in sadness, regret, or other negative thoughts. Instead, show that you don't care about the person by moving on with your best life! Busy yourself with hobbies or school matters, start implementing a new exercise routine, try new hobbies, try to develop yourself in the things you used to do, etc. Undoubtedly, your mind will be distracted from the negativity brought by that person.
Remember, mourning the past will not help you move forward. If you allow yourself to do this, don't be surprised if you'll find yourself constantly checking your phone, looking at old photos with the person, or feeling a strong urge to call them. Brace yourself! Never go back to the person who has hurt you
Step 5. Fight the desire for revenge
If someone is being mean to you, your natural response is to get back at them. Unfortunately, if you want to show that you don't care, this is a step you shouldn't take. Running into her or plotting a revenge scheme will make you feel better for a while, but will it make you forget about it? In most cases, ignoring the person (and pretending they don't exist) is the best retaliation.
Remember the wise saying, “Don't argue with idiots. From afar, people won't be able to tell who the real idiot is." Trying to get back at him will only make you look childish. So what's the best step you should take? Don't do it, even do not think about that possibility.
Method 2 of 2: Forgetting the Person You Used to Like
Step 1. Focus on yourself
After recovering from the rejection, it's time for you to get back on your feet. In order to move on in life, the first thing you need to do is realize that you are valuable! Plant that belief in yourself; Of course you can use various positive affirmation efforts you want, but these three examples of positive affirmations are basic affirmations that you should try: You are beautiful/handsome (adjust to your gender), you are smart, and the person is very stupid for rejecting you..
Never feel weak or helpless without that person. Appreciate and be grateful for your independence! Don't get used to depending on the person you like
Step 2. Forget your shyness
Expressing love and then being rejected is embarrassing enough; but when the person you like actually accompanies the rejection with negative behavior, it's natural for your world to feel like it's falling to pieces. Don't worry, the shyness will go away with time; some take a long time to forget, some don't. But most importantly, don't focus on the negative feelings that are haunting you. Instead, let go of those negative feelings and replace them with more positive ones.
Remember, the past can never be changed. That is, there is no point in worrying about the past. So why worry about something you can't change?
Step 3. Realize that the “game” is very immature
An emotionally mature and healthy person will not play with – or embarrass and/or tease – the person who likes them. If you are treated that way by the person you like, there is only one conclusion: he is immature and (actually) lacking in self-confidence. After knowing that you should feel more relieved and easier to move on with life.
Step 4. Don't let him come back into your life
Over time, you will definitely feel better. The shame of the unpleasant experience will go away, and you can focus more on respecting yourself. Unfortunately, unstable emotions make it easier for you to fall into the same hole again, especially if that person tries to get into your life again. If possible, don't communicate with him while you're not 100% healed. If he forces his way back into your life, don't be afraid to refuse and ask him to back off.
If he doesn't want to understand, be clear about your refusal. You MAY say, “For now, I don't want to talk to you. Please leave me."
Step 5. Start seeing him as someone who is no longer important
Remember, he's been humiliating you and making you too nervous all this time; it's only natural that your ultimate goal is to stop thinking about it as important. It does take a lot of time and patience to do this; but if you follow the steps above correctly, your feelings should gradually recover. At one point, you may end up laughing at yourself for caring so much about that person.
When you're ready to get over that person and move on with your life, start looking for someone who truly appreciates and cares about you, rather than someone who constantly belittles your feelings. Remember, your happiness is the best payback for him
Tips
- If you want to show someone you don't care, the best way is to avoid that person. Don't respond to his invitation to chat, and don't respond to his words with body language such as nodding or smiling. The best way to show indifference is to ignore it in the first place.
- Another way to show indifference is to show concern for everything EXCEPT the person. For example, after you are stuck in a similar situation, leave the person and go have fun with your friends.
