Many people do not understand how to express affection, let alone convey it through concrete actions. are you one of them? If so, from now on try to express your feelings, affection, and concern for your partner. Believe me, these actions are effective in perpetuating the relationship between the two of you, as well as making the relationship feel healthier and more positive. Want to know more complete information? Read on for this article!
Method 1 of 3: Expressing Yourself
Step 1. Show your gratitude
Always feeling grateful can improve your physical and mental health, you know! In addition, the habit of gratitude can also reduce aggressiveness and strengthen empathy in you; couples will interpret this attitude as an expression of sincere love.
Step 2. Always respond
Men tend to prefer to keep their opinions and feelings in their hearts, which is often interpreted as a 'cold attitude' by women. From now on, even if you don't agree with your partner, still accept your partner's thoughts and respond politely.
Step 3. Write a letter to the couple
Communicating with your partner via text, phone, or email may be easier for you. However, communicating your feelings through a manually written letter can make your partner realize that he or she is an important person to you.
Step 4. Put your feelings into words
Use your own language to summarize a sincere message that shows how much you love your partner. Voicing your feelings can help you manage and appreciate any feelings that arise. Try saying:
- "You know, I like it difficult to express my feelings. But seriously, I love you more than anything."
- "Hugging you always makes me comfortable and happy."
- "Every time I see you, I…"
Step 5. Always call her back, even if it's just to say 'I love you'
Negative surprises turned out to have a very significant impact on relationship satisfaction, you know. To prevent negative surprises from occurring, make sure you keep the satisfaction level in the relationship high.
On the other hand, positive surprises can increase your partner's satisfaction in their relationship with you
Step 6. Respect him when the two of you are arguing
If your partner seems reluctant to end the conversation (even if it upsets you), try to respect their emotional needs. If you can't handle it calmly, voice your feelings without ignoring his opinion.
Step 7. Tell him how much you love him
Humans tend to take things lightly that they understand the truth, such as their love for their partner. Remind yourself of this fact by constantly telling your partner.
Look him in the eye, or wait until the time is right (such as when the cinema lights dim before the movie starts), then whisper in his ear, “I love you.”
Step 8. Ask him what he likes and what you can do to make him happier
It makes him realize that his happiness is important to you. Also, showing your concern for their well-being is a very strong indicator of affection. You can ask:
- "What the hell, things that make you happy when in fact tacky?". This question is worth asking if he's not looking happy, or if you want to surprise him a little.
- “If you could… in this world, what would you…?”. Questions with this pattern are useful for creating future plans. For example, you could spend time with your partner discussing interesting places that both of you have always wanted to visit, or unique foods that you both have always wanted to try. After that, use that information to give a surprise gift one day.
Step 9. Make him feel important
Talk to him and ask him how he is sincerely. Usually, women communicate by sharing their personal information, feelings, and helplessness. Balance your response by expressing your feelings as clearly as possible.
Get rid of the "Oi, how are you?" from your dictionary. Instead, ask more specific questions like, “This morning was fun, wasn't it? What do you have for lunch? Delicious?" After that, respond to the answer with your personal opinion and observations
Step 10. Listen to him and do your best to calm him down
Even if you don't know what to say, at least hug or lean him on your shoulder. Dealing with an emotional person isn't easy; however, you need to do this to show that you are reliable. Emphasize to him that:
- "Everything will be all right."
- "Sometimes I feel that way too."
- "I'm here for you."
Step 11. Never compare him to your ex-girlfriend
Making comparisons is a natural part of the human communication process. However, the habit of comparing your partner to your ex-boyfriend can indirectly make him feel like he is competing with your exes.
Research shows that affection and closeness in relationships will be disrupted when someone starts comparing their partner to their exes
Method 2 of 3: Creating a Deeper Attachment
Step 1. Create an internal joke with it
Attachment is one of the important keys to a lasting romantic relationship. The stronger the bond between the two of you, the more lasting your long-term relationship will be. Sharing internal jokes is an easy way to relive the good times the two of you had together.
Step 2. Take unplanned positive actions
For example, wash the jacket he left at your house, paint his nails with his favorite nail polish color, or give him his favorite flower. Unplanned positive actions can lift his mood and make you happy.
Step 3. Offer to help if he seems troubled
Help as simple as removing a pebble from his shoe indicates that you love him enough to help him overcome any problem, no matter how small.
Step 4. Give him your sweater and hug him tightly
Understand that the human sense of smell is closely related to memory. Giving your partner an outfit that keeps your scent on them can make them think about you all the time even when you're not around.
Step 5. Limit communication breakdowns
Your partner will feel less important or even frustrated if you keep checking your phone while you're chatting with them. If you're planning a special date with him, make sure you limit any communication breakdowns that may arise. Some effective limits are:
- Promise yourself not to tamper with your phone except in an emergency.
- Explain in advance to your friends that you can't be bothered while on a date with your partner.
Step 6. Invite him to do activities that interest you
This method is also effective in improving the health and depth of relationships, you know! Try getting him to listen to your favorite music together, do a team sport like tennis, or do something completely new to both of you.
Don't sacrifice your personal happiness for your partner. These habits can make you hate him and end up ruining your relationship. If you and your partner have conflicting interests, keep encouraging your partner to pursue his or her interests while still doing things that interest you
Step 7. Practice your ability to be an active listener
A common complaint that often arises in a relationship is a lack of communication. To prevent this from happening in your relationship, make sure you always look your partner in the eye when speaking, respond through body language, and repeat what your partner says in your own language.
In general, men find it difficult to be active listeners because this principle goes against men's communication strategies. Want to learn to be an active listener? Try reading one of the WikiHow articles entitled How to Be a Good Listener
Step 8. Buy him a personal item
If you want, you can even make him something! The time you are willing to invest in making something for him will emphasize your care and affection for him. These intimate gifts have emotional value that can transform into positive memories in your relationship.
Step 9. Don't laugh at him, but laugh with him
Even if his personality or habits seem ridiculous to you, try to remain sensitive to things that make your partner self-conscious. Explain your perspective slowly, and get to the root of the problem gradually.
Respect the boundaries at all times. Respecting these areas actually shows that you value them and consider them important
Step 10. Give her a cute nickname
A nickname or nickname is one of the keys to increasing the satisfaction of each party in a romantic relationship. Don't forget to ask his opinion about his preferred nickname.
Picking a nickname he doesn't like will only piss him off, especially if you're always laughing about it
Step 11. Accept him as he is
Don't try to change it! Any change should happen if he wants it, not if you ask for it. No matter how hard you try, change won't happen if he's not ready to do it. If there is a problem that is bothering you both, work together to find a solution.
Step 12. Take him on a trip
Of course, you don't have to ask her out at a place that's too expensive. However, at least create a new dating experience by asking him to see the sights or do different activities. You can even take him to the location where the two of you first met, or go for a walk in the park and chat without being distracted.
Method 3 of 3: Showing Love Through Body Language
Step 1. Always greet him with a smile
Smiling can be contagious, you know! When he sees your smile, he will know that you are really happy and excited when he sees it. Some studies even show that smiling can make you look more attractive.
Step 2. Have more physical contact than usual
Don't let go of the hug as if you really don't feel comfortable touching it! Hug him longer than usual and rest his head in the crook of your neck.
Physical contact can release the hormone oxytocin (also known as the 'love hormone') into the bloodstream. Longer touch releases more oxytocin, which can increase the depth of your relationship
Step 3. Hold her hand
Holding or holding your partner's hand is a simple form of touch but has been shown to relieve stress.
Touch him gently to spread your happiness and generosity. A touch that is too strong can make him think you are selfish and/or aggressive
Step 4. Understand the soothing touches
Many people like to be touched in specific places because it can calm them down. Understand your partner's precise touch points, and use those touches to convey "I love you" without words.
Step 5. Kiss him suddenly
No need to kiss her on the lips! A short and warm kiss on the forehead, nose, and cheeks was also effective in making her cheeks blush.
Step 6. Look deeply into her eyes
Remember, eye contact is one of the most universal ways to communicate. Take a few moments to look deeply into his eyes, and remind him how much you both love each other.
Step 7. Hug him and kiss the top of his head
When you're both in a hurry (or if the situation doesn't allow it), you can also just admit it or pat him on the head. However, if possible, give a warm hug, soothe, protect, and make him believe that he is the only woman who rules your heart.
Try harder to share your feelings. Remember, men and women communicate in different ways. Even if you really have a hard time understanding your partner's communication style, at least try to always communicate in a way that he or she understands
- Don't compare them to people who have filled your past.
- Don't lie even if it's for his own good. Trust me, being honest with each other will bring long-term benefits to your relationship.
- Do not think of attention and affection as a routine that must be done.