You meet someone and are attracted to them. However, how do you know if someone is already in a relationship? When you're attracted to someone, one of the most important things to do is find out if they already have a boyfriend, or are dating someone else. Luckily, there are a number of strategies you can try.
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Method 1 of 2: Reading Omens
Step 1. Check online
Check their Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Myspace, or other social network accounts. If you're not sure he has a social site, search by name, zip code, school or other known information. Find out if the relationship status is "dating."
- Keep in mind that a profile can be set to private and you will need to ask him to add you in order to view his profile. This has the potential to reveal any feelings of attraction you have.
- In addition to checking their profiles, try checking their recent photos. Are there any photos of the couple or any sign that could be a sign that he's with someone?
Step 2. Use a people search engine
There are several people search engines on the Internet, such as Pipl, which are designed to find people's information. Be sure to double-check any information found with other information as search results are not always accurate.
Finding out about someone online can be useful when you have a good reason to know about them. However, make sure not to get caught up in the dangerous world of online spying
Step 3. Ask a friend
Your friends probably know it and they're also less likely to talk to your crush and other people. Ask them something like, "Hi, did you know if he's been in a relationship?"
If you and your crush have friends in common, you can also try asking them. However, be aware that these friends may report to your crush that you are asking if he has a girlfriend or not. As a result, your secret will be exposed. Even asking the same friend can be embarrassing or lead to an uncomfortable situation. Think carefully whether you should take the risk or not
Step 4. Pay attention to rumors
While rumors are not the best source of information, they can also be useful in finding out basic information about a person.
As with online information, try double-checking rumors. Was it just one person talking about the rumor or did it spread? Try not to believe something immediately and without any confirmation
Method 2 of 2: Talking To Him
Step 1. Notice if he ever mentions someone
Have a casual conversation with the person you like, which can sometimes lead to a conversation about whether or not he already has someone. He might even say his name!
- Ask him about his recent activities. Try to direct an answer that can make him say "I'm doing this with my girlfriend." Asking about his activities on the weekends is a good opportunity.
- A sure sign that he already has someone is when he says "we" when talking about past or future plans and activities.
- You may also notice nonverbal signs that the person is already in a relationship. Are they constantly on the phone, texting and smiling? Are they always busy or asking permission to meet other people?
- Talking to the person can also be helpful because you'll get to know them a little better. You can find out if you really like him and want to keep in touch.
Step 2. Ask and insinuate indirectly
If your crush says something funny, ask "what does your boyfriend think about that?" or "I don't think your boyfriend is amused by the jokes." If you're discussing something she likes or a place she likes to visit, ask "Do you and your boyfriend go there often?"
- You can also ask "So where's your boyfriend?", especially if you've just met him. If he already had someone, he would answer the question. Otherwise, he can get a little flustered or laugh and say, "Oh, I don't have a boyfriend yet." This is the perfect opportunity to seduce her by saying, "I just thought people (add adjective) like you must have a boyfriend." This approach can get your strategy going by complimenting and wooing the person you like.
- Try to act as if you are giving a certain argument. For example, say, "Do you like it when your boyfriend calls you often? My friend thinks he doesn't need to call his girlfriend every day. What do you think?" Keep using this tactic until you figure it out.
- Keep in mind that while these questions can help you figure out whether or not the person you like is in a relationship, it doesn't necessarily mean that they like you. However, at least you already know the information!
Step 3. Spend time with people you like
His partner can appear suddenly.
You can also tell if your crush already has someone based on how they behave with YOU. If someone likes you, they will try to spend time with you. That is the clearest sign. If he doesn't take the time to see you, it could mean a) he's been with someone; b) he is not very interested; c) not the right time for them to feel ready for a relationship
Step 4. Ask
The easiest solution is to ask the person you like directly if he or she is in a relationship or not. Be careful because he will assume that you are attracted to him and there is no turning back for that. However, this method is the fastest and safest way to get a definite answer.
If you dare, ask him directly. If you ask, he will show that he is already in a relationship. He's still likely to say "yes" to going out with you AND connecting with other people. However, that is completely another matter
Tips
- Remember if a relationship is destined to succeed, it happens organically. If something is destined to succeed, the play, the chase and the pretense must be discontinued for a healthy reciprocal of affection.
- If the relationship isn't working because the person you like is already with someone or for some other reason, don't dwell on it. Many people believe that when you don't succeed with someone, it's because your relationship will work with someone else in the future.
