Do you often have difficulty interacting with women, especially women you like? Talking to girls can be a scary experience, especially if you don't have enough experience. But believe me, nothing is impossible in this world. As long as you are willing to build your confidence and open up more, you will surely win any girl's heart easily! Want to know how? Read on for this article!
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Part 1 of 2: Make Him Like You
Step 1. Be approachable
To grab the attention of the girl of your dreams, make sure you make her feel "want to approach you". Believe me, a person who is always nervous and awkward will look very difficult to approach. If you want to get his attention, don't pretend to be busy or look cool. If he approaches you, put your phone away, stop looking around you, and give him your full attention. Some simple tips to make it look more approachable:
- If you meet him, give him your best smile.
- Show an open posture; Don't cross your arms when chatting with him.
- Be aware of your facial expressions: don't look at them and other people with unfriendly facial expressions.
- Don't look nervous or busy staring at the floor.
Step 2. Boost your confidence
If you're always reluctant to approach the girl you like, it's probably because you don't feel confident about how you look. Don't worry, most guys are used to doubting their appearance. But who says you have to be the most handsome man to get the heart of the woman of your dreams? Trust me, the most important thing is that you look happy with your appearance. If you hate the way you look and feel less confident about it, any girl will be lazy to interact with you. Some things you can do:
- Approach him with a confident and confident step.
- Look him in the eye when you speak.
- Remind yourself that you deserve his attention.
- Don't belittle or belittle yourself.
Step 3. Be yourself
If you try to be someone else in front of him, it's a sign that you're preventing him from liking the real you. Remember, improving yourself doesn't mean changing yourself just to get women's attention! Trust me, girls can smell your dishonesty and will lose interest in you. Always remember that in the end, the right woman is the one who can accept you for who you are.
You certainly want any woman to accept you as you are. But that doesn't mean you need to unlock everything at the beginning! Let him go through the process of getting to know you better. There's no need to talk about your obsession with video games or your insect collection at home before getting to know them better
Step 4. Learn to communicate effectively
Communication is an important factor in all areas of a person's life. Therefore, make sure you are willing to improve your communication skills for your personal gain, not just to approach the woman of your dreams. Most of the men – especially those who are still in their teens – have difficulty communicating with women of their age (even with other men); if you look comfortable communicating with him, surely you will look more special in his eyes. Several ways to communicate effectively:
- Ask a question. Show that you care about the things in his life.
- Listen to him carefully. Don't get used to interrupting his words!
- Compliment him and get into the habit of accepting the compliments he makes.
- Try to express your feelings when the time is right.
Step 5. Give your support
Instead of buying him a bunch of gifts or paying for all the food that goes into his stomach, give him the emotional support he needs. Trust me, it will ensnare his interest in no time! Even simple actions like listening to his complaints or praising his accomplishments can have a tremendously positive impact. After you get to know each other better, show that you are willing to support all of his goals in life. Also show that you will always be by his side whenever needed!
- Find ways to show your support. For example, you can attend a sporting match that he participates in or ask how his math exam is doing via text message. Show that you always think about it!
- Remember, the purpose of life is as important as the purpose of your life. Make sure you take all of your life goals and accomplishments seriously to show you care about them.
Step 6. Be fun
Most women like a man who can build meaningful relationships with, and who knows how to have fun. Show that you are easygoing, easy to talk to, and can make him laugh. Don't constantly complain or be lazy to try new things! Some things you can do:
- Try planning a unique and fun date with him. You can also invite your other friends if it's awkward traveling together. Take him up the mountain or do other challenging activities!
- Don't complain about the activities he wants to do with you. Even if you're not interested, give it a try! Trust me, sometimes activities that are less fun will feel much more fun if done with the right people.
- Don't take it too seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself; surely, women will be more comfortable around you.
Step 7. Have manners
Burping at the dinner table, telling racist jokes, or making fun of others are some examples of actions that won't win any woman's heart. Treat the woman you like the way you would treat your own mother. Remember, he's not your boyfriend; meaning, your jokes with your friends are not necessarily funny to him. Of course you don't need to really take care of the surrounding image; but at the very least, show that you appreciate it by not saying and/or doing things that make him uncomfortable.
- Open the door for him.
- Be polite to the people around you, whether it's your teacher or even the waiter at the restaurant you visit. Don't just be polite to him, but be rude to others. Believe me, women will realize that you are actually two-faced.
- If you really want to look more special than other guys, then being polite is key. Remember, men (unfortunately) are often associated with impolite attitudes. If you are able to break this assumption, surely he will see you as a mature and approachable person.
Step 8. Increase your comfort when interacting with women
You have to be willing to learn to approach women, even if they are not people you like. Regular practice does not guarantee perfection, but it will certainly help you in the future. Take the time to approach the women around you and make friends with them. Surely this action can reduce your nervousness while helping you find your own way to interact with the woman you like. The more comfortable you are when interacting with women, the more likely you are to be yourself and not worry about possible rejection.
Make sure you respect all the women around you, not just the girls you like. Build your reputation as a good man
Part 2 of 2: Making Her Feel Special
Step 1. Give a sincere compliment
To get the heart of the woman of your dreams, you first need to know how to give a sincere and meaningful compliment. Saying, “You look hot in that dress,” won't win her over; mainly because you seem unable to see what's so special about him. Instead, try to learn to be a better observer and identify what makes him special. Some examples of compliments you can give:
- "You seem really good at communicating with new people. How do you do that?"
- "The way you laugh is really unique and fun!"
- "You always know how to lighten up other people's moods. That's a special ability, you know!"
Step 2. Ask questions about her daily life
If you want to get the woman of your dreams, make sure you don't see women as objects, but real people you really care about. For that, make sure you are diligent in asking questions about his life goals, classes he likes, or his pets. At the beginning of the introduction, try asking things that can get you to know him more deeply, such as:
- Hobby
- His favorite music group, television show, or book
- Her friends
- Brother
- Favorite place
- It was said that day
Step 3. Ask her opinion
Another way to make a girl feel special is to ask her opinion. At the beginning of the introduction, there is no need to ask his opinion on matters that are too serious or controversial; Be careful, you will actually leave a negative impression on his mind. Instead, try asking his opinion about simple things like the band you just formed, the shoes you just bought, or the history class you took. Sooner or later, he will realize that his opinion is important to you.
Asking her opinion will also show that you don't only care about her physical beauty
Step 4. Listen to him carefully
Your willingness to listen will make him feel special and want you more. Make sure you don't interrupt his words, try to solve the problem, and/or compare his problem to yours. Put her problems and feelings first, and show that you really pay attention to her words. After she has finished telling her story, try asking follow-up questions about the situation and her feelings; Don't change the topic right away!
Make sure you also remember the words. On another occasion, try asking, “Have you told your sister yesterday what you told your sister? What next?". Even a simple act can show you care for him
Step 5. Explain what sets her apart from other women around you
Let him know that he is special in your eyes; I'm sure he'll be flattered and want to spend more time with you! A few things you can say:
- "You're very different from the other girls here. You seem very comfortable with yourself and aren't trying to impress anyone."
- "You are very different from the women I know. Around you, everything is easy for me."
Step 6. Make time for her
If you really want to show concern for the girl you like, don't act like you're too busy to travel with her. Of course you don't always have to be there for him to look like he's not busy; but at least, don't ignore his invitation to travel. Trust me, he will realize how much you value the bond that exists between the two of you.
Doing so doesn't mean ignoring your personal activities just to fulfill his invitation. Just make sure you're willing to spend some of your time on it
Step 7. Ask how he is
Show that you think about him even when he's not around by asking how he's doing regularly. Of course you don't have to call him every minute until he gets fed up. But once in a while, try sending a text that says, “I was thinking about you,” or “How was your aunt's birthday party?” just to show that you think about him even though you are separated by distance.
- Never make him think that you stop caring about him when he is not by your side. Keep in touch with him regularly to show you care.
- Make sure he is also willing to do the same so that the communication process does not go one way.
Step 8. Don't forget to say how much you like it
Have you and he decided to date? This is a sign that you are worthy of conveying how much you care and love him. But remember, do this only when you have decided to be in a relationship and travel a lot together. For example, you can say, “I really like you,” or “I love being by your side,” whenever you feel like saying it. Be careful not to overwhelm him with attention, but don't make him feel neglected either. Every now and then, let him know how much he means in your life.
Express your affection sincerely, not just because you want something from him (such as when you need his permission to watch a basketball game or want him to kiss you). Express your love because he really means a lot to you
Tips
- Treat all women with courtesy. Modesty is the most important key to approaching women and can have a very significant positive impact.
- If you don't succeed at once, don't give up and keep trying.
- Talk to your other female friends to understand what they are really looking for in a guy.
- Make sure you also remember every detail he tells you. Remember, something small and seemingly insignificant can mean a lot later on.
- Be yourself. A woman worth pursuing is a woman who can accept you as you are.
- Comb your hair neatly, eat menthol candy, and bring out the best male version of yourself.
- Keep your tone casual, polite, and straightforward (especially if you're talking to a girl you like).
- Don't rush into trying to impress him. First, trap his attraction by being yourself. If he can't accept you for who you are, it's a sign he's not good enough to be your partner.
