Nervous around girls? If you want to know how to stay calm and win the heart of a certain girl, now is the time. You can learn the right way to get to know a girl and build a close relationship with her. You can also learn how to start a conversation and get to know the girl better. Plus, you can learn how to add sparks of tingling to your seduction.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting to know her
Step 1. Start by saying hello
Are you interested in someone? Winning someone's heart is not that complicated. If you want a girl to start noticing you, start by greeting her. When you run into her in the hallway, make eye contact and say, "Hi!" Smile and wave. He will know that you are attracted to him.
- You don't even have to say anything. You just have to smile when you see it coming. Your smile will always be appreciated.
- Call him by his name. Hearing someone call by their own name makes one feel considered and safe. It's like a simple flattery given all the time. When you meet him, say his name often.
- If you've never seen a girl before and want to approach her, you just need to approach her and say hello, then start a conversation.
Step 2. Start a conversation
Once he notices you, start a conversation with him. Start with something interesting and specific, or start a conversation about something you and the girl know.
- Be funny. Start the conversation by saying something to break the awkwardness: "I'm thinking about breaking into the gym and hiring a Cadillac to go to Mexico. What do you think? I need an accomplice."
- Talk about what you and the girl have in common. If you meet a girl at a bar or restaurant, try saying, "Isn't this place great? What do you think? Have you been to this place before?" If you are in the same class as the girl, ask her about the last test she took in that class, or ask her opinion on a topic studied in class.
- Avoid starting the conversation with closed-ended questions that won't lead to a longer conversation with him. If you say, "What are you busy with?" or "How are you?", the conversation is going nowhere.
Step 3. Find an excuse to have a private chat with him
It's hard to get to know someone specifically when you're in a group. If you want to get to know the girl better, try to find an excuse to talk to her alone. Make this a regular thing.
- If you're chatting with a girl while she's somewhere, ask her if she wants to go out or find a place to chat with you for a bit. "How about we talk outside so we can hear each other more clearly? I want to hear what you have to say."
- Sit next to him at lunch, or on the bus, or chat with him in the hallway on your way to class. If you both walk home together, walk together.
Step 4. Contact him via Facebook or text message
Sometimes, it's much easier to get to know someone through social media or text messages. Girls may be more open and talk more in writing than in person. It's better to talk to him in private and find out what you have in common. However, once you get the girl's phone number, text her when you have something interesting or specific to talk about.
- Send him a message about something just in time. If you have an assignment in the same class as her, send a message: "This English assignment is killing me. Can you distract me?"
- Don't waste her time sending messages that say, "Hi" or "What's Up?" or a specific emotion icon. If you want to get his attention, say something he can respond to.
Step 5. Don't rush
If you want to win a girl's heart, take the time to get to know her and become her friend first. Many guys complain that they get lost in the friend zone. Info at a glance: Girls can be attracted to someone, or they may not be interested at all. The more time you spend together, the more your feelings develop. It may not be romantic at first, but it can quickly develop into something more than friendship.
When you're ready, it's great to be proactive. Girls love it when the guy who asks them out comes first. If you're shy or afraid of rejection, you don't have to worry. If you like a girl and want to win her over, you just need to ask her out and spend more time with her
Part 2 of 3: Talk to him
Step 1. Ask her interest
Everyone wants to feel comfortable and relaxed with someone who could potentially be their partner, or while they are dating. If you want to make a girl feel relaxed, get her to talk. How to? Ask him what he is interested in through open-ended questions. Ask her wishes, dreams, and goals. Learn all as much as you can about him.
- Look for loopholes to make him talk more. If he says he doesn't like the latest Avengers movie, ask him what kind of movie he likes. If he says he likes horror movies, ask him what he likes about them. Keep him talking, and keep the conversation positive.
- Always ask open-ended questions. Don't ask questions that can be answered with a "yes" or "no".
Step 2. Give him your full attention
When you are together, be together. Show him that he's important to you by getting rid of things that can distract you from your time together. If you're paying attention to other things and trying to eavesdrop on other people's conversations, or if you're distracted by your cell phone, he'll feel like he's being ignored.
If he is speaking in a group, direct your attention to him. Even if someone else tries to talk to him, he will appreciate the fact that you care about what he has to say
Step 3. Be an active listener
A liaison is needed to be able to have a conversation. To find common ground, you have to really listen to what he has to say, respond to it, and give him your time. You can't pretend to be in a relationship. You have to really listen and get to know the girl.
Make eye contact when he speaks. Nod your head when you agree with what he says. Briefly restate the point he made and ask him to say more about it. Be a good listener
Step 4. Send him a short message on time
Many guys think that waiting for a girl to text, call, or email first shows that they are hard to find and makes them look attractive. This thought is not true at all. This only makes them look like they've been watching soap operas too much. If you want to win a girl's heart, reply to her text immediately when you realize she's texting you. Pick up the phone or respond to the email he sends you when you receive it. Don't try to keep it quiet just to show that you're cool.
At the same time, you have to remember that sending too many text messages is not good. If you find that he doesn't respond immediately to a text, phone, or email you send, don't flood him with 50 text messages asking, "Hi? Are you there?" Give him space and wait for his response
Step 5. Let your sense of humor take over
One of the keys to attracting the girl you like is to have a common sense of humor. Recent research says that when it comes to dating, guys who try to be funny are more attractive than guys who are very serious or overly patient. Even if your joke isn't funny, it's a good idea to try to show that you're a guy who likes to laugh.
You can show that you are a man who likes to laugh when he is with your friends, but still with good manners. If you don't have the same sense of humor as someone, you certainly don't want to be with them. You can't pretend you have the same sense of humor
Part 3 of 3: Get Him Attracted To You
Step 1. Support the girl, and always be by her side
If he is wrong about something or is going through a difficult time, support and comfort him gently and put the girl first in your heart. If he is doing the right thing, encourage him to do what makes him happy. When she is sad, you should be by her side for her and let her know about it. Let him know he can tell you anything.
Step 2. Have positive energy
positivity is very attractive. When you're with him, try your best to keep things light and fun instead of serious and dramatic. Complain less about things with him, and focus on the good things. Being with him should be fun.
When you are around him, don't be someone who hates and demeans other people. Be someone who appreciates all things and also the girl, so that when she is around you, she will feel better about herself and the life around her
Step 3. Gently tease him
Some studies show that gently flirting with a girl can add sparks to her being attracted to you. Respect the girl's intelligence by treating her like a normal person, don't overlook her intelligence.
Be kind. "Teasing" does not mean "hurt her feelings." You can tease her by saying something like, "I saw all the pictures of yourself you posted on Facebook today. And I really mean it when I say: Your room is such a mess!" instead of saying something like, "I saw all the pictures of yourself you posted on Facebook today. It's completely useless. Do you really like it when guys stare at you?"
Step 4. Be generous with compliments
Whether now or later, everyone loves compliments. But if you only compliment the girl's appearance every time you see her, your compliments will only become as boring as small talk.
Compliment his appearance carefully. Focus on what she is wearing, not on the girl's physique. Say, "That dress looks great on you" instead of "Your body is really hot." There's nothing wrong with his physical attraction, but if he thinks that all you care about is his beauty, he'll start to think you're a shallow man
Step 5. Treat him with respect
Giving him a light touch sometimes sparks a tingling feeling and is also attractive to him. Tucking a strand of her annoying hair behind her ear, or touching her hand can be a simple moment of fun and also enhance your intimacy. But remember, the same thing can also make the girl go away. It's important that you read his body language and take a stand based on it.
- Respect the girl's boundaries. If he says "no", understand that it means you have to stop. If he shows signs of disinterest, don't push. If he's showing signs that he's uncomfortable, don't be an asshole. If he says he doesn't like something now or in the future, respect his feelings and don't try to persuade him to do something he doesn't want to do.
- Respect his decision. She wears too much makeup? Does not matter. Tell her she can do whatever makes her happy, she looks amazing with or without makeup. She wants to wear sexy clothes that show too much of her body? Does not matter. You have no right to say what he can and can't do.
Step 6. Dress well
Appearance is important. If you want to win a girl's heart, put more time and thought into dressing and grooming yourself when you know that she will be around you. Choose clothes that make you comfortable and look good on you. Shower regularly and try to keep your body in shape.
Step 7. Don't think too much
A girl is not a prize you can win or a ladder you can climb. Obviously, you don't "win" a girl. You get to know him, and form a relationship with him. Sometimes there is interest, and sometimes there is none at all. If you want to get to know a girl better, there's no better way than to take action and ask her directly.
Rejection can occur. If you're not right for someone, take this as a good thing. There are many people who are better suited for you. Don't waste time on someone who isn't right for you
Tips
- Every girl is different. The contents of this article may not always be successful.
- If you're attracted to a girl and she says she already has a boyfriend, apologize immediately. Tell him that you don't know and leave him.
Warning
- If he rejects you twice, don't push. If you bother him, he can put up a fight. There is a fine line between being attracted to someone and stalking that person. Don't cross the line!
- He might give you a fake phone number instead of the real one, don't worry. Try the same steps on another girl.
