It's all about texting. Text messages are the best way to get a girl to like you, think about you all day, and call you out of the blue. You know that cute girl on the train does nothing but stare at her phone screen? Yes, he is texting. Here's how to make sure he's replying to your messages.
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Part 1 of 4: Deciding What You Want To Achieve
Step 1. Decide what you want from him
If you're interested in hanging out with him as a friend, then there's less pressure to say the right things to him than if you want him to be romantically attracted to you. Once you know what you want, you can send a short message according to this purpose.
Note: Most of the steps here assume that you are looking for a way to build a romantic relationship with a girl
Step 2. Don't get too close to him
Once you've got his cell number, it's best not to call him right away, so you don't seem too eager or annoying. After you've waited as much time as you deem necessary (at least 2 or 3 days), send a sweet, seductive, funny, and mysterious text, or a combination of these.
The short message that men usually send is "Hi. This is Joni from the cafe, remember?" This message is a false example. Just assume that he remembers you, and waits anxiously for your message. Asking if he remembers you should only be used to tease him (e.g. because when you met him at a party, he had just finished a few drinks). drink)
Step 3. Keep the impression you made
Try to maintain the impression you left when you got his cell phone number. If you tease him by giving him silly nicknames like "dwarf" or "weird," include these nicknames to gently remind him of special interactions between you two.
Part 2 of 4: Deciding What to Say
Step 1. Send him a text and say "hi
See if he replies. Most likely, he'll reply “Who is this?” Then tell him who you are. If he doesn't reply to your messages, then he's not interested. If he replies, ask about friends, family, and things that interest him. Then you can see the direction from there.
Step 2. Send a simple message
A simple message is the best approach. "Hey, you." Chances are the girl doesn't know your cell phone number, so she'll be wondering who's calling her; this means he will probably reciprocate.
- Possible reply #1. If he replies "Hi, who is this?" You can have fun by making him guess, or teasing him for giving out his cell phone number to so many men that he doesn't know who he's talking to.
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Possible reply #2. If he replies: "Oh hi, is this Joni from the cafe?" Reply "I hope you haven't been waiting for me to call you this week;)" This message is a little pompous, funny, and immediately teasing him. Adding a smiley image in a text message at this point may not make you look dashing, but it can be hard to tell if someone is joking in a text message, especially if they don't know you.
Another reply. Another reply you might send is: "So this is the sweet long-haired girl I met last Wednesday?" or something. He may be surprised by your boldness, but he will laugh
Step 3. Calm down until you call him back
It's normal to send three to four text messages a few days or a week before you call or ask her out. By this time, you may have teased him, made him laugh, and interest has built up in his mind, so your chances of messing up a phone call or first date are very slim.
Part 3 of 4: Knowing What To Do If He Doesn't Reply
Step 1. Understand the situation
If he doesn't reply to your text messages, then you need to deal with the situation appropriately. There are many levels to sending a message, and paying attention to etiquette in different situations is important. Remember that this is the first time you are texting him, you are basically a complete stranger to him. So if he doesn't reply, you need to understand that he doesn't "ow" you anything, and avoid sending aggressive text messages that indicate he's obligated to reply to you.
Step 2. Give him some time and text him back
If this is the first message you've sent, wait a few days to give him time to reply. If he doesn't reply after 2 days, he may have a hard time remembering who you are, and how he feels about you. Try texting back after 2 days with specific details like, "Hi, Tanya. This is Robi - the handsome guy from the cafe. I'm still waiting for your first date:)" A message like this will let him understand that this is your second attempt to contact him, but still in a sweet and fun way.
You can also try calling him if he hasn't replied after 2 days. If she doesn't answer, leave a voice message like this, "Hi Tanya. This is Robi. I sent you a message, but don't know if you received it. I just wanted to call you and see how you're doing." If he doesn't call you back or reply within a day or two, then you should just let him go and move on with your life
Step 3. Understand if he stops replying to messages in the middle of a conversation
Remember that sometimes there are more important things than texting. Her mother might be hospitalized, or her car tire might burst. There are thousands of things that can happen all the time that make him stop texting, no matter how much you like the person you're talking to.
- Send messages that show you care like, "Is everything okay?" This way he knows that you're aware that he's stopped replying to messages, but it also shows that you care about him.
- If he still doesn't reply, wait a week and send a relaxing message that you're a quiet guy with a busy life too. Say something like, "Hi, Tanya. I just got back from hiking. I just wanted to see how you're doing. See you later." If he still doesn't reply after a few days, then it's time to forget about him.
Step 4. Know what to do if he stops replying before the date
If the reply you're waiting for is something as important as where you're going to meet her, try sending a message like, "Everything okay?" and waiting for a reply. Wait 20 minutes, and send "Are we still seeing each other tonight?" If he still doesn't reply, he's probably canceling his date with you, and you should leave him. If something happened that he couldn't reply, then he would give an explanation.
Part 4 of 4: Controlling the Conversation
Step 1. Don't piss him off
How often you message is what matters. Getting into a conversation is easy, but one you should avoid in the first few days. You don't want to piss him off by making his phone ring or vibrate all day because of a text message from a guy he just met.
Step 2. Have a short conversation
It's best to have a short conversation (four to six short messages at a time) and tell him you're busy and will call him back. Try to be really busy or do something interesting. You don't want to build a relationship based on a lie that you'll always remember.
Step 3. Reply to the message while relaxing
It's easy to get excited when you get a message from a pretty girl you like, but she'll know it if you reply to her as soon as you receive the message. He will assume that you like him and wait for his messages all day long. This will make him no longer curious. So give yourself some time between your short messages and don't piss him off, but be careful not to keep him guessing. Communication in the form of a short message is fun because you have time to organize your speech, and it's time for you to reply, so take the time to think it through.
Step 4. End the conversation
When it's time to end the conversation, say "I have to go (or do something interesting, if that's the case). I'll call you back." If you end the conversation, this will indicate that you are not someone who always wants to be close to him.
Step 5. Control yourself
When he just replies and says "bye," so be it (unless he asks something). If he was the last person to message, then you're in control here, and he'll wonder if you'll text back.
Step 6. Brace yourself
There are few things more unattractive than a man who seems too hopeful. If the girl you like doesn't reciprocate after you've tried a few times, then maybe it's time for you to stop trying and move on. Find another girl and try to get close to her.
Tips
- Be patient. If he said he was going to travel, he meant it. If he tells you it means he cares enough about it, so don't bother him.
- Don't pretend to be busy. If he replies, never say you have to go, goodbye, or try to make him think so; never pretend. If he replies, great. If he doesn't reply after a few days and you've been waiting too long (you'll feel it in a few days), message him again. Usually, it's best to send the message again after a few days have passed.
- Send short and sweet messages, but not too short. Say something interesting to him. Then let it be. If he doesn't reply for a few more days, then leave. Whatever you do at this point, the hope of success will be very small.
- The secret: be his friend. Meet him in person like the first time he met so he can fall in love with you, his new girlfriend, and not with your reflection on his phone.
