Some people believe that a person's star can influence a variety of personalities, including the types of people they are romantically attracted to. While there's no evidence that stars or astrological signs can affect personality, you can get astrology hints when it comes to getting a Virgo man. This move is more effective if your crush exhibits common Virgo traits, such as intensity, interest, and intellectualism. Get to know him and see if he exhibits these characteristics. Make a good first impression by dressing conservatively and not showing too much emotion. In relationships, try to develop patience. The Virgo man has "spicy" tastes and is picky, so it may take him some time before he is ready to commit.
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Part 1 of 3: Determining the Match
Step 1. Determine if he has the typical Virgo personality
Don't assume that he has all the typical Virgo traits just because he was born between August 23 and September 22. While it may be fun and exciting to consider a person's star or astrological symbol, don't just trust astrology over what you can learn with your own eyes and ears. Observe him and talk to him about his personality, and see if he fits the description of the partner you are looking for. Also remember that you shouldn't change yourself or pretend to be someone different just because you want to attract a Virgo's attention. Be yourself and determine if his values and interests align with yours.
You can also turn this into a “game”. Try saying, "I think astrology is really fun and I noticed you're a Virgo. Usually, a Virgo is intelligent, slightly conservative, polite, hardworking, and intense. Do you feel these characters are in you?"
Step 2. Notice his interest in current issues
The Virgo figure is considered to prefer people who can undergo intelligent discussions. If your crush has that kind of character, it's a good idea to read up on issues or issues happening in the world and start a chat about the latest happenings with him.
- Read the news regularly. Try downloading some news apps on your phone, such as The Jakarta Post which sends regular updates on the latest happenings.
- Watch news shows. Show news shows like CNN Indonesia News Room on television while you prepare dinner, or turn on the radio and listen to news shows that cover current events.
Step 3. Show your humorous side
Usually, the Virgo man is seen as a serious person so he may be attracted to someone who can take him to a more relaxed and lighthearted situation. Pay attention to how he responds to your sense of humor. Try telling a joke to lighten the mood.
- When trying to figure out his sense of humor, start with jokes that aren't too confusing or mischievous. It doesn't really matter if your sense of humor tends to be mischievous, and you don't need to change it. However, it's a good idea to observe his sense of humor and response first before making a naughty or "crunch" joke.
- Start with a light joke of something you can observe. Make jokes about the weather, or come up with interesting puns from time to time.
Step 4. Pay attention to good manners
Respect for other people is important, especially for a Virgo. If your crush tends to have a conservative attitude, a good demeanor can have an impact in the long run when you try to get their attention.
- Remember the etiquette your parents taught you when you were little. Use words like “Please”, “Thank you”, and “Excuse me” or “Sorry”. When in a restaurant, remember to be polite to the waiters. Don't scold or yell when you're upset about the bill or the food served.
- If you have a cheerful personality and often speak loudly, and that personality seems to offend him, think about whether you really want a relationship with him. You shouldn't change yourself to be in a relationship with someone else, so if he prefers to be with someone who is quieter or quieter, he may not be interested in you. On the other hand, your cheerful and open personality can make him feel more relaxed. The most important thing is to be yourself and respect others.
Step 5. Talk about work ethic
Notice if he seems intense and is a hard worker. A person with such a personality may feel bored with people who are considered lazy or often self-satisfied. If you are also a hard worker and want to pursue your goals, there is a good chance that you and your crush could make the perfect match.
- For example, if you have a job, try to be the best employee. Pay attention to small details, show up on time every day, and take advantage of free time at the office to learn more about the company. This is useful, especially if you want to attract a hard worker in the office.
- Show hard work in other areas. Keep the house tidy and do hobbies.
Part 2 of 3: Making a Good First Impression
Step 1. Plan dates with intellectual activities
A visit to a museum or a drama show can be ideal dates for Virgo men. They prefer smart chat so something that can encourage intelligent discussion can be a memorable first date. Make sure you are also interested in the activities planned.
- Explore the cultural centers in your city/area. Is there a museum or planetarium in your city? Is there a local theater group that performs frequently?
- Fulfill individual tastes. If he likes art, for example, take him to a museum or art show. If he is interested in science, watch a documentary on evolution.
Step 2. Keep it simple and a little shy
Virgo men are known to be "slow" in showing their emotions. You may not need to show emotions openly if your crush has that trait. However, if you have an emotional disposition and love to pour out affection, don't force yourself to be different (to the point that it makes you uncomfortable). Do what feels natural and pay attention to his cues. If he's uncomfortable with your "level" of emotion, hold back or reduce it until you both get to know each other better. When in a relationship, the Virgo man usually likes the outpouring of emotion or affection from his partner, but of course you need to win his heart first.
- Respect the boundaries. If he steps slowly, you will need to slow down your approach or pace to adjust. It's important that you pay attention to her body language or ask her how she's feeling (e.g. "Are you comfortable?" or "Is this okay?"). Some people take longer to determine whether they want to show physical contact or be in a relationship with someone. Therefore, respect his feelings and do not rush.
- Show a calm attitude when communicating. Make sure he's aware of your interest in him by replying to a text message or phone call. However, don't overdo the fun. Give a straightforward response like “Thanks for inviting me. I will come." More enthusiastic responses like “I can't wait to see you!” can make him feel uncomfortable.
Step 3. Try to look presentable when you're with him
Virgo men tend to be perfectionists and can feel uncomfortable when their partner falls apart. If you are neat and clean, and pay attention to small details, there is a good chance that you and the Virgo man could make a great match. However, if neatness isn't part of your style, he probably won't be interested.
- Make sure your clothes are clean. Do not wear clothes that are dirty or have holes in them. If you have a cat or dog, make sure you clean the clothes with a lint roller before going to see them. Also make sure you pluck any hair that falls out of your clothes.
- When eating together, eat slowly and don't slurp or spill food. Always place the napkin on your lap.
- If you invite him over to your house, make sure your living area is clean. He can feel uncomfortable when he sees the floor of the house that needs to be swept or the sink is filled with dirty dishes.
Part 3 of 3: Maintaining Relationships
Step 1. Discuss your values
Even if he fits the description of his astrological sign or star, you shouldn't make assumptions about what he thinks is important or the values he holds. As with any relationship, take the time to get to know the things that he considers important in the relationship and determine whether those things match the things that you consider personally important. Maybe you disagree on some big points (eg not wanting to have children or having very different communication styles). Talk about what both of you expect from a direct and honest relationship.
For example, you can't just assume that he wants more alone time because he's an intense Virgo. You might ask, “Do you need a lot of alone time? Will you let me know if you need some time or space to be alone?” Who knows, he actually prefers to be around people, unlike the typical Virgo figure
Step 2. Have patience
The Virgo man is a hard thinker and may take a lot of time to make decisions about his partner. If you can't wait to be in a relationship, you may not be able to get it from a Virgo man. It takes time to commit so try to be patient.
- Don't force him to commit in the first place.
- Don't lose your temper. Even if the wait feels tedious, remember that the Virgo man is a kind, loving, and loyal person. You will have a very friendly and caring partner if they will give you the time to accept and approach you.
Step 3. Let him pursue his job or dream
If he's passionate about his hobbies or work, it's important that you both work independently and have time for yourself. The Virgo man doesn't do things half-heartedly and is willing to put all his energy and effort into pursuing what he wants.
- Virgo men are also usually very dedicated in their work. Let it work without interruption.
- If he has a hobby, remember that he can take it seriously. Try to support his interest. For example, he might join a sports team. Come to the game and cheer him on. Even if sports aren't your thing, it's a good idea to watch the games and show your support for them.
Step 4. Be kind and loyal
If your crush exhibits typical Virgo traits, he or she will show great dedication and expect the same dedication from their partner. Virgo men also don't want to accept unimportant relationship "drama". Be loyal to him and don't lure him into unimportant arguments.
While you shouldn't rule out or ignore your own feelings, try to avoid arguments. If he upsets you, take a calm and friendly approach. Try saying, “Can I talk about something that upsets me? I just wanted to make sure we could talk about it so it doesn't affect our relationship."
Step 5. Accept the intensity
Don't be surprised if he is an intense person. It is her nature and is probably irreversible. Virgo men tend to take everything seriously, including relationships. Once he is ready to commit, he will take the commitment seriously. This can be a good thing because you will have a loving and loyal partner. However, he may also show an intense and serious attitude towards his work, school, and hobbies. You have to accept this when you are in a relationship with him.
- Give him time to pursue his interests. He usually takes things that seem silly to you seriously, but accept his attitude. That is his nature. If you are not interested in the same thing, take the time available to pursue your own interests or goals.
- Remember that its intensity and seriousness can be to your advantage. You need a serious partner, and their seriousness can build a long-term commitment.
Tips
- Keep in mind that a person's personality is more important than the stars or astrological symbols. If he is a Virgo, he may not display the traits associated with his astrological sign.
- Always be honest with yourself. Do what you feel comfortable doing, even if it goes against what a Virgo might be looking for or interested in. Find a partner who is attracted to you for who you are.
