The relationship between friends is one of the most important relationships in life. This is why we should as much as possible make sure our dearest friends enjoy spending time with us. Usually, this happens naturally, but every now and then we need to remind ourselves of the things that make certain friends more special than others.
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Part 1 of 3: Enjoying Life with Friends
Step 1. Plan activities together
Some of the most beautiful memories that people have are happy moments while on the move with best friends. Make a plan with your best friend and make sure you both stick to it. The most important thing to remember is to make sure you're willing to put in the effort to spend time with him outside of your home, school, or work.
You can do a lot with it. Take a whole day to go on a trip with him, or set aside an hour for just coffee. The most important thing is that you enjoy the moment together
Step 2. Spend time with her at home
To have fun, you don't have to do anything crazy. Sometimes, visiting one of you's house and just relaxing is enough. Invite him over to your house when you don't have any specific plans. Just enjoy the company and relax.
There are many exciting activities while relaxing at home. Try watching a movie, playing a video game, baking cupcakes, or doing any activity. Just because you're spending time at home, doesn't mean you can just sit quietly on the couch
Step 3. Do some things periodically together
Meeting each other regularly can strengthen the relationship between you. However, the meeting does not have to be large. Maybe you can enjoy lunch or take the bus to school with him. Even if the meeting is quite short (eg about 20 minutes), seeing him on a regular basis is an important part of being best friends.
- Regular activities also help create good memories because you get the chance to do something with your best friend.
- Just like being someone's best friend, having regular social interactions is also good for your mental health. Science shows that social interactions can reduce the likelihood of anxiety, depression, and stress when a person meets other people face-to-face and on a regular basis. If you are experiencing these mental problems, regular social activity can help you feel better and strengthen your friendships.
Step 4. Build a joke that only the two of you know
When spending time together, there are usually moments that make you both laugh out loud. Recall and revisit those moments in the future. These memories will make you both smile and laugh again, and remind you and your best friend of all the happy moments you've had together.
Step 5. Show spontaneity
You don't have to follow a "script" to be someone's best friend. Call him whenever you want. He'll appreciate you thinking about him, even when you're not spending time with him.
Don't know the right thing to do? When you're not with him and see something that reminds you of him (or you find him funny), call or text him about it. Invite him to spend time with you, even when you don't have any special plans. Just call your friend
Step 6. Be friends with his family
When you're someone's best friend, there's a good chance you'll spend a lot of time at their house. Get to know his family members and make friends with them. Ask about their lives and how they are doing when you meet them. Try to remember details about family members that you can come back to when you meet them at a later date. You may not always be able to maintain a close relationship with his family, but in general, try to be friendly with his family.
When you are friends with someone, you may be invited to take a vacation with their family. Make sure you show the best attitude and treat all his relatives with respect when invited to vacation. Otherwise, you could actually ruin your friendship with your best friend
Part 2 of 3: Support it
Step 1. Provide your presence when he is sad
In life, we all experience moments of sadness or adversity. When your best friend is upset, talk to her and encourage her to talk about things that make her feel sad. Try to see the situation from his point of view and give sympathy. He will realize how important he is to you and repay your kindness when you need it.
- Oftentimes, people are more attracted to someone who can sympathize than someone who offers a solution. Even if you're tempted, don't try to tell him how to solve his problem when he's complaining. If you need to say something, wait for him to calm down before sharing your opinion.
- If he's really down, you may need to provide more help. Try providing assistance such as shopping for her and doing household chores. He will really appreciate your help after recovering from his grief.
- Sometimes, a person experiences a very painful event (eg the death of a family member) that causes him or her to grieve. This almost always makes someone behave differently, but don't take the change as a rejection of your support. If your best friend is going through a tragedy, stick with her, even if she doesn't look happy when she meets you. He still needs your help and will not forget the support you always give.
Step 2. Let him support you
Support is two-way. You need to trust someone who provides support for that support to be effective. Meet your friends when you feel sad or angry. Be open and talk about what makes you sad or angry. In addition to making you feel calmer, you can also build trust between the two of you and strengthen the friendship that is lived.
Practice showing your vulnerable side by being open and sharing your grievances, even if you get rejected. Although it may seem difficult to show, your vulnerable side can deepen a relationship because even your best friend can find space to open up
Step 3. Encourage him
Try to support him all the time, and not just when he's sad. Encourage him to try whatever he wants to do and try his best at everything he tries. Your support will make him feel more confident and give him the energy to pursue his dreams. Of course he would appreciate this. He will always remember the people who encouraged him in his efforts to achieve his goals.
Even if you don't agree with what he wants to do, you still need to support him as long as it doesn't hurt him or get him into trouble. You don't have to do all the things he does. The support you give even though you don't like what he's going through will mean a lot to him
Step 4. Show your loyalty
Don't tell the other person his story when he asks you to keep it a secret. Don't force him to do something he doesn't want to do for your own benefit. Things like that will only break his trust and ruin your friendship.
- When two of your friends are at odds, you may find yourself in a difficult situation to take sides. But in the end, you need to stand up for your best friend. Unconditional loyalty like this is very important.
- If you want him to trust you with his secrets, you may need to share some of your own with him. If you feel like throwing a tantrum, your best friend should be one of the first people you call or go to. By sharing secrets, both of you can easily become loyal to each other.
Step 5. Accept the flaws
No one is perfect so you shouldn't expect perfection from your best friend. Don't try to change things about him that you feel are bad or lacking. He probably understands himself as much as you do. As time goes on, you will realize that it was his uniqueness that made the two of you bond with each other from the start.
Part 3 of 3: Become a Person Who Others Think of as a Friend
Step 1. Show your kindness to him
Kindness makes those who give and receive it both happy. People want to be surrounded by good and friendly people. Treat others with respect and provide assistance to people who seem to be having a hard time. You will be surprised by the impact of your kindness, even the smallest kindness.
Step 2. View your friends as equals
You shouldn't look down on him or treat him as a higher person. Usually, people don't like it when someone feels better about themselves. In addition, people usually feel uncomfortable when someone clearly has low self-esteem. In the end, we are all human. Try to always remember this.
If you often have trouble seeing your friends as equals, try to think about what you want to say and how other people react to what you say. You won't come across as rude to your friends or to yourself. If you are able to monitor yourself closely, your habits will naturally change over time
Step 3. Be funny
It's no secret that people love to laugh. Throw jokes at the right time. You can tease or prank someone, but make sure you don't say anything rude. You'll be happier when you see the humor in the little things, and people will want to spend more time with you.
Don't worry if you're not a humorous person. One way to show your humorous side is to surround yourself with people, media, and things that make you laugh. Watch comedy shows and listen to comedians. Make time to relax each day if you have a busy schedule. Your character change won't happen overnight, but soon you'll feel more comfortable doing things or telling jokes that make other people laugh
Step 4. Be yourself
There's no point in being a different person because you feel someone will like you with the new character. Other people can spot your pretense, unless they're not good at seeing "hints." Nobody wants to hang out with liars and fake people. By being yourself, you can attract the attention of others who like you for who you are, not like you for the image you are trying to convey.
Being yourself means being open, honest, and sincere about yourself. In addition, you also need to keep your word and be a person who can be trusted. Practice being honest with yourself and others. This will help you build relationships with other people, as well as increase your self-confidence
Tips
- Being around your best friend will make you feel more comfortable. If you don't feel comfortable around him, this is a good time to reassess the people around you.
- Don't expect anything in return when you do something for him. Give help because you really want to do it, not so you can get something in return.
- Don't interfere in the matter, unless both parties involved are your friends. If they know that you want to try to reconcile them, simply tell them that they are friends and you don't want to see them fighting.
- Developing a relationship does take time. Don't expect your friendship to develop quickly! If you want to be yourself and meet or interact with him often, he can be your best friend at the right moment.
