When J. K. Rowling said, “The downturn was the solid foundation that built my life back on”, her words were truly apt. Sometimes, you have to go through a slump to find the energy to skyrocket again. The good news is: you're on the right page to do this. Let's start.
Method 1 of 4: Taking Care of the Basics
Step 1. Complain a little
That's right. Complaining is the first step to starting life again. You have to feel what you feel. Holding on to feelings will only make you explode later on. What's more: acknowledging this is a way to encourage you to take action. Knowing the situation you are in and not liking it is a way to get emotional. So please complain. You are not satisfied. That is life.
Talk about your feelings. You know why people who are on a diet need a diet buddy, or at least announce what they're going through? The reason is for support and responsibility. The same principle can be applied here. Even if you can only find one person, you have a friend to lean on and someone to help you walk on the right path when you get lost. We all need that kind of support
Step 2. Rest
The reality is you need a vacation right now. Sometimes, life just has to stop for a moment. As much as possible, buy snacks and take a break. Start to recharge your energy to strive to conquer the world.
If you have a job, you may have to take time off. Not for long-don't get fired. Just a day or two to rest and concentrate. Right now, you have to focus on yourself
Step 3. Have a stable income
There is a definite hierarchy of needs in human life. For some of us, this need is to have money to fulfill it. To serve food at the table, you must have money in your pocket. You don't need too much money, but to move up the hierarchy (and start thinking about moving up), you need a steady income.
So, in summary, if you are unemployed, start looking for a job. Look for a job that makes you work 40 hours a week. In today's economy, jobs are not easy to find, but you will definitely get them. Look carefully and don't let any opportunity be wasted
Step 4. Finish school
If you haven't graduated from high school, this is very important. To get a job, you need a diploma. All you have to do is search on Google and contact the Ministry of Education. Most agencies will help design funding for schools and point you in the right direction. Besides, what's wrong with asking?
If you've been to college but haven't graduated, consider returning to college. Not only will you expand your job options, but you'll also feel better. You will feel like you have accomplished something. In the end, being down is just a way of thinking. There are many people who look down on others but feel great. Finishing college can completely change the way you think
Step 5. Quit bad habits
If you regularly smoke, drink, or engage in other addictive habits, those habits should be stopped now. There is no personal progress if the habit does not stop. To see the progress, you can't keep your old habits. Don't waste any more money.
Imagine a person you admire. Does the person depend on other people or something else for his life? When it comes to self-projection, why consider anything other than the ideal? You owe it to yourself to be the best person you can be. If you can't break the habit, no new, better habits will come your way
Step 6. Start thinking proactively
When you have to change all of your situations and really start over in life, you have to make some big arrangements first. You have to think, act, and dress like a new person, and be around new people. But, to do this, you have to start thinking positively and with full of conviction. Keep the words “I can't”, “what if”, and “maybe”. There is no room for such thinking here. How to start life again? you will.
There is a high chance that training the brain to think differently could alleviate this situation. You are made up of your thoughts. While it's impossible to get someone else to do this specifically, know that the rest of this article will make this process easier. Thinking positively and with confidence will make all of these steps possible
Step 7. Decide what kind of person you will become
How do you look? What will you wear? How will your relationship look? Where will you live? What car will you drive? Take 15 minutes, close your eyes, and really imagine the life you want in your heart to really feel it. Keep a picture of your perfect life in mind. You have to believe, without a shred of doubt, that the person you envision is you in the future.
You need an end point to know how and where to start the journey. Where will your journey end? What target do you want to achieve? Write everything down. Everyone needs something to pursue because no human is perfect. Now is your chance to choose it. This is what you are aiming for
Method 2 of 4: Taking Care of the Body
Step 1. Take a shower
This may sound a little funny, but to open your mind, your body must be clean. To start a fresh life, you have to be fresh too. Being dragged into a slump by dirt for a whole day will only serve as a reminder of the situation you are in.
As we discussed earlier-“downside” is a way of thinking, and therefore, these states can come and go. Taking a shower (and other seemingly useless attempts) will do the trick to relax you, de-stress, and signal to your mind that it's time to start a new day. You don't just get clean-you get ready too
Step 2. Start exercising
This looks a little ridiculous, doesn't it? What kind of depressed person has the desire (or perhaps the effort) to exercise? However, you should not underestimate these things. In fact, you should think about it the other way around. Do successful people exercise, or do people who exercise become successful? Did the chicken come first or the egg?
The first thing to take care of when you're down is your body. You lay in bed all day, just greeting the sun to drive it back. Plus, this habit is a vicious circle that will only spread. Your body condition begins to decline and so does your thinking. When you exercise, your mind begins to receive signals from your body rather than the other way around. You'll feel better, you'll look better, and you'll get better when you work out-you'll be able to deal with other problems in this crazy life
Step 3. Concentrate on eating healthier foods
Before you know it, you've been eating instant food, canned drinks, and boxes of ice cream for hours and then self-hatred builds up. After bingeing on food, you feel really guilty-then, pushing the process to repeat itself. The only thing you can do is lie down on the couch and pray for relief from indigestion. Not very productive, right?
Food should make you feel more energized, not lethargic and regretful. After eating healthy foods, your body will feel better and you will feel better. Do you see any patterns? Coming out of a slump is about feeling good enough (not getting better) to act. Eating healthy food is part of a mental trick to make your mind think positively
Step 4. Make an effort outside
For the record, this section is not in favor of materialism or arrogance. But looking good on the outside can make you feel good on the inside. So, after you shower (after your workout), wear nice clothes and socialize. You deserve it.
Knowing that you look good can change the way you look at everything-and the way people treat you too (it's sad, but that's how it is). You will find that self-confidence can completely change your behavior (for the better). The world will probably be a little kinder and in return, you will find it easier to love yourself
Method 3 of 4: Caring for the Mind
Step 1. Stop the negativity
Come on, stop it! You know how negativity works. Instead of thinking about useful and rational things, you're thinking, "I really suck - I've never been appreciated after all, so why bother trying?" Here's a suggestion for you: Such thinking is not a fact. Thoughts are feelings, and feelings can change.
When you notice that you are thinking something negative, you can encourage yourself to stop it immediately or add something to make it better. “I feel like a failure” turns into, “I did fail today. But tomorrow is a whole new story." Don't think everything is black and white. Nothing is 100% true. When the saying goes "the storm will pass", this is what it means
Step 2. Rebuild old hobbies and find new ones
Between naps and the latest movies, it's easy to lose your old self. To bring yourself back to life, you have to do things you probably don't want to do-and keeping your old life from falling is one of them. If you used to love playing music, force yourself to play again. If you used to love to cook, cook. It may be the last thing you want to do, but reinventing a hobby that once made you happy can be the medium of change you need.
Apart from keeping an old hobby (a good one), a new one is just as rewarding! Staying active (both physically and mentally) will force you off the lazy, dispassionate thinking that has been holding you back. Are there opportunities at your school or office? Did your friend try something that looks interesting? What is the most useful way to spend your free time? In other words, what can distract you?
Step 3. Make a daily to-do list
The sworn enemy named "lazy" will attack every day. The morning went by, and the only reason to get out of bed was to go to the bathroom. This is where a daily to-do list comes in handy. On that list, write down all the little things you want to accomplish for the whole day. They don't need to be big things that can change the world, only small things that can get you out of bed and productive.
It all depends on your position in the process. This could be “send 5 apps”, “run 3 kilometers”, or “chat with new people”. Think of a few things you'd like to see happen in the future-what little things can you do each day to achieve them?
Step 4. Help others
Another trick to going out into the world and getting more involved in other people's worlds (which can be a less scary and intimidating place) is to help others. Not only will you feel better, but making other people feel better will make you feel the same way. You can feel gratitude instantly.
Look for small opportunities in addition to bigger opportunities. Offering to help walk the neighbor's elderly dog, helping with a pregnant woman's groceries, helping your family members-little kindnesses like these will add up. You will feel a purpose. You may also be able to make new friends, and make the world a better place. It's like the proverb that says "once rowing, two or three islands crossed"
Step 5. Surround yourself with positive influences
The people around you are very likely to be the cause of your downturn. It's hard to believe, but the people around us can be a channel of potential for us. Could it be that the relationship you are in is making you feel tired? If your answer is “maybe”, you should invest your efforts in something else.
Sometimes, ending a toxic friendship is necessary. We grow up to be adults and our friends don't see the new identities we see. It's completely normal. If a friend (or lover) isn't making you happy, maybe it's time to let it go
Step 6. Move house
Of course this is easier said than done, but if your current situation is dictated by location (no job openings, no friends), it's a good idea to consider moving house-if it's financially feasible. You don't have to move very far, but a change in your surroundings can make you feel better. What can restore you better than restore all your senses?
By moving, you will quickly forget all about your old life. After all, who were you in the past? If bad memories are associated with where you live, consider this idea carefully. Is there a place you could go but you can still maintain your support network? Think carefully and ask yourself if this process is really necessary. This process is like putting a new world into your lap
Method 4 of 4: Creating a Balance and Routine
Step 1. Be patient
Of course, starting a new life will not be done overnight. This takes years. You may be making small developments that you are not even aware of. Imagine that you lose about 1/8 kg per day. You won't be able to notice it for very long-but, one day, your outfit will be completely oversized.
When you realize it, you will feel so wonderful, happy, and satisfied that those bad times felt like they never really happened. Until the moment you wake up and realize, “Damn. I used to be like that, huh?” come, just relax. That time will surely come. That time always comes. After rain comes sunshine. Remember that proverb?
Step 2. Focus on transitions
This is another way of saying, "rafting upstream, swimming to shore". There will be times when you feel very frustrated-when you feel like you are about to fall into a deeper abyss than you did in the past (is there anything worse than being down?). In these times, focusing, staying positive, and realizing that this is totally normal is a much needed action.
You're balancing your old life with your new life now, and that can be pretty scary. No one expects you to do it without help. In fact, we expect you to lean on our shoulders for support. That's what we're for. Although this transition period will be difficult, know that it is only temporary. Focus and you will get through it
Step 3. Cultivate your passion
You are at the top and looking for higher peaks. Absolutely amazing. Now, it's time to discover something new. Satisfying thing. Something that will encourage you. Something that will keep negative thoughts away. What do you immediately think? All the passion you can pursue as long as you really do it. It will keep you busy, use your creativity, and provide purpose. Everything is very beautiful.
Mastering something feels very satisfying. Mastering something you truly enjoy feels more satisfying. Cultivating passion, whatever it may be, can do a lot of good for who you are. You will feel strong, even the worst situation will not be in your dictionary anymore. That state has been erased
Step 4. Have a satisfying routine
Now that you have a fresh and fun new idea, you need to make it stable and a part of your everyday life. This may take a few weeks, but balancing work life, social life, passion, and free time will pay off in the end. There's no reason not to do it.
The good news here is that routines will form on their own. As long as you keep your priorities in check (taking care of your body and mind, as described above), routine will work
- Realize that you are starting a new life. Act like a new person.
- Know your reasons. As you plan your new life, know the reasons why you want to achieve that goal. This is very important because it will keep you motivated.
- Look for a support group (either offline or online). Other people must have experienced it too. You may not know it, but they've been through it.
- You can do it! You know the saying, "If there's a will, there's a way"? The saying applies here.
- Do what you can do best, which is to be yourself. You sometimes feel down for personal reasons that arise because someone or something made you feel that way. However, you can't please everyone. Just because you don't like where you are right now doesn't mean the people you meet the next day or the next few days won't love you for who you are. Be yourself.
- Surround yourself with positive people and situations that focus more on positive energy.