A positive attitude will go a long way in helping you feel happier. To develop a positive attitude, you must be able to control it. You may also want to learn how to value yourself and your time. These two factors will help you live a more positive life. Another way to increase a positive attitude is to find ways to deal with stress, because stress triggers you to think negatively.
Method 1 of 3: Learning How to Control Behavior
Step 1. Understand how behavior affects your life
Your behavior in dealing with life will determine your level of happiness. You can't always change the things that happen to you, but you can change how you deal with them. Whenever you are faced with a certain situation, you will make a choice.
- For example, when your tire goes flat, you can get angry and raise your blood pressure before changing the tire. Surely, no one likes this situation, right?
- On the other hand, you can also think of it as part of everyday misfortune, taking deep breaths and trying to fix tires. By avoiding negative reactions, you won't be wasting time with anger. On the other hand, you can even look at the incident in a positive light. Perhaps, while waiting for the tires to be repaired, you can read a book that you haven't had time to finish before.
Step 2. Look at things positively
The way you discuss things can influence your behavior. For example, if you talk or think about something negatively, you will continue to think of it as negative. On the other hand, if you speak positively about something, your mindset will change.
For example, if you receive an uncomfortable email in the morning, you may sulk and assume that nothing good is going to happen throughout the day, or consider the email a challenge in getting through the day. You still receive the email, but the way you think when you receive the email can influence your behavior
Step 3. Change the vocabulary you use
Sentences like "I can't do it!" will only make you give up prematurely. If you think something is impossible, you will most likely believe the suggestion. To work around this, use positive language, such as "I can take this slowly."
Step 4. Be proactive instead of reactive
In each situation, you have the option of complaining or addressing the issue. Complaining will make you unhappy, but by dealing with the problem, you will feel better. By actively addressing problems, you will feel more productive and productive, because you will be truly productive.
Step 5. Enjoy the little things
Like most people, you may be too fixated on a big break goal, like a long vacation or a national holiday. While it's not always a bad thing, wishing for happiness over a long break can make you forget the little pleasures of everyday life, like a delicious piece of cake or an afternoon chat with a close friend. Try to enjoy your life right now, and love what you do.
For example, if your mind is on the Eid holidays when you are chatting with friends, draw yourself into the current situation. Listen carefully to what your friends have to say, instead of imagining a vacation
Step 6. Learn to be grateful
Gratitude is important in developing a positive attitude, because with gratitude, you will be able to appreciate what you have in life. With gratitude, you can focus on the good things in your life instead of the bad.
Every day, set aside time to be grateful. You might find three things you're grateful for -- write them down in a journal
Step 7. Stop chasing the latest things, be it TV, cell phones, cars, or other things
By chasing the latest, you can't enjoy what you have now. Placing happiness in what you don't have will cause you to keep looking for something that can make you happy.
For example, when you want to change your phone, think that your current phone is good, and 10 years ago's phone didn't have as many features as your current phone
Step 8. Balance the image of the target with reality
Although many people believe that imagining success will help you achieve success, research shows that if you only imagine success, you will have a hard time achieving it.
Therefore, after imagining success for a while, think about the obstacles you will face in order to balance your mindset
Method 2 of 3: Respect Yourself
Step 1. Be kind to yourself
Within us, there is a part that always warns us when we make a mistake. However, self-criticism may be discouraging. If you can control your self-criticism to be positive, you will be able to respect yourself more.
- One way to find out how often you talk negatively to yourself is to count the frequency of negative thoughts. Every time you think negatively about yourself, make a note on paper or on your phone. Taking notes will make you more aware of how often self-criticism occurs.
- Once you know how often you have negative thoughts about yourself, start turning those negative thoughts into positive ones. For example, if you're thinking "I hate my waist!", turn that thought into something positive, like "My waist may be ugly, but this strong waist can help me give birth, you know!"
Step 2. Hang out with positive thinking people
Your environment will affect your mental state. Therefore, try to be around people who are trying to be happy so that you can be happier. Make friends with positive thinking people, and try to avoid people who can provoke negative thoughts.
Also avoid news and stories in the media that make you think negatively. News and stories in the media can also influence your mindset
Step 3. Find inspiration
Find inspiration and motivation in the form of books, podcasts or radio broadcasts every day. In this way, you will get an injection of energy, and be able to face the world with a positive mind.
Step 4. Appreciate your self-assessment
Others may try to make you feel inferior, for example by judging your appearance or driving. However, the only judgments you really have to listen to are those from within. In general, other people's judgments are of no use to you, as they are made only to increase the valuer's self-esteem.
For example, if someone comments on the clothes you're wearing, don't take that comment to heart. Instead, remember why you like what you're wearing, and respond politely to comments. "You may not like the color, but I like it, because it's a good color."
Step 5. Help others
Helping others will change your mindset in a positive direction, so you can feel better. In addition, you will be able to be more grateful for the things you have.
Visit the nearest social institution, charity charity, school, or library to start volunteering. These places usually open volunteer vacancies
Method 3 of 3: Relieve Stress
Step 1. Focus on your breath
When you're stressed, one way to calm yourself down is to take a few deep breaths. By closing your eyes and inhaling, you will feel calmer. Try to take deep, slow breaths to distract yourself.
Step 2. Sleep on a schedule
The amount of sleep can significantly affect stress levels and behavior. If you don't get enough sleep, you're more likely to feel stressed, and it's easier to behave in a negative way. Keeping a nightly sleep schedule will help you get enough sleep, so you wake up feeling refreshed and happier.
One way you can stick to a sleep schedule is to set an alarm clock 30 minutes to 1 hour before bed, just like you set an alarm clock to wake up. With this reminder, you'll know when it's time to rest
Step 3. Stretch
Do some stretches in the middle of work to rest your muscles. Short stretches can help you forget about work, and stretch muscles that are stiff from stress.
- Try changing your sitting position from "cow pose" to "cat pose." In a chair, come forward and place your hands on your knees. Move your back forward, then move your back back.
- Stretch your arms above your head, and move your body left and right as you do so.
- You can also move in circles to stretch the muscles. While sitting, bend your arms, then turn them left and right.
Step 4. Try journaling
Keeping a journal every day can help you relieve stress. If you hold on to your emotions for too long, you will feel stressed.
Express your emotions on paper. Ignore the grammar, and don't think about the content of your journal
Step 5. Get a hug
Hugs signal your body to release the hormone oxytocin, which can calm you down and make you more social. Therefore, hugs are very good for reducing stress.