Shy girls can be mysterious, but learning to talk comfortably to introverted or shy girls can make dating easier. You can learn to make a shy girl more comfortable in conversation, and get to know her better. Learn how to approach and ask shy girls out, and how to make them fun and comfortable. Learn how to keep this shy girl happy all the time.
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Part 1 of 3: Ask a Shy Girl on a Date
Step 1. Start by greeting her as usual
If you have a crush on a shy girl, it will be difficult to approach her first. So don't rush. Don't ask her out right away. Instead, start by greeting him regularly.
Whenever you pass each other in the corridor, make eye contact (this may be difficult) and smile. Say his name, and greet him in a friendly manner
Step 2. Find a little information about it
Befriend her on Facebook or other social networking sites to get to know the girl you have a crush on. Talk to his friends to find out if he is dating someone else, or what type of girlfriend he is. Try to find out what his hobbies are and how he spends his time. Learn all the things he loves.
- Often times, shy people are more comfortable talking on the internet or via text. Getting to know her online first is a good way to get to know a shy girl better.
- Don't assume that the girl who is coy in front of you likes you, or doesn't like you. Shyness is not a sign of anything other than feeling ashamed.
Step 3. Introduce yourself
If you want to date, you have to do more than say hello and walk away. When you feel comfortable enough to greet and approach him, you should approach him once in a while and have a little chat. Make sure he knows you before asking him out.
Say hello simply: “Hello, I_, we are in the same class in Biology”
Step 4. Have a one-on-one conversation
Shy people are usually easy to talk to in one-on-one conversations, but can be difficult to talk to in large groups. Don't try to chat with shy girls in class, or when you're with your friends, because you'll have a hard time getting her to talk. Make it a simple topic to talk about, something you both enjoy, and have a one-on-one conversation.
If you're in the same class, just talk about the class: “My exam was ruined. Very difficult. How about you ? Do you like this class?
Step 5. Keep the conversation short
Most shy people are afraid because they feel they are too bad to talk to, and don't like to talk because they are afraid they will break it or become awkward. Usually this always gets worse. Instead of making her feel that way, just have a quick chat and then be done. Say, “I have to go now. We'll talk later, okay?"
If he looks uncomfortable, don't pay attention to it. Just end the conversation in a friendly manner, and a little compliment. "Nice to talk to you. You're funny. We'll talk again later"
Step 6. Ask her out in a simple way
Keep talking to this girl. Little by little, extend the duration of your chat. When you start to feel comfortable talking to him, ask him out.
- Keep the invitation as simple and short as possible: “Hi, I always care about you and I think you are sweet and very kind. I like you. Do you want to go out with me sometime?”
- Sometimes, things like dancing or other big events can be intimidating for shy girls. It's better to keep your invitation vague: "Would you like to hang out with me sometime" might be better than, "How about this Friday?"
Part 2 of 3: Dating a Shy Girl
Step 1. Make a plan in advance
If you suddenly call a shy girl, she may find excuses not to go out with you. It's not because he doesn't like you, but because introverts or shy people prefer to plan things out in advance. Shy girls need the opportunity to be mentally prepared for a date.
- If it's 5:30 on a Friday, and he doesn't have any plans, he may want to stay home undisturbed. Plan ahead to give him ample opportunity to get ready.
- Generally, try to make plans at least 1-2 days in advance.
Step 2. Plan a fun date that will open him up
Planning an activity with a shy girl is a good thing because you will be doing something together. If you find it difficult to chat with him, try to choose an activity that makes him relaxed and fun, without involving a lot of chatter.
- Cycling, bowling, or playing mini golf may seem like silly ways to go on a date, but they're great things to keep you both active and busy. You both will have a pleasant experience.
- Dinner is a good opportunity to chat, but dinner can end up being awkward if the two of you can't have a casual chat. On the other hand, cinema keeps the two of you from chatting at all. Both options are not good choices.
- Make sure you do things slowly so he can talk if he wants to. If you go to a club with loud electronic music, the two of you won't be able to chat.
Step 3. Spend some time relaxing together
Shy girls are usually not party-goers. If you take her to a dance, to a ball game, or to a dance club, don't be offended if she prefers to stay home and watch Netflix with you. Make your time with him special, even if you don't do something you usually do on a date.
Cook dinner together, instead of going to a fancy restaurant. Cooking together gives you the opportunity to engage in activities that will keep the two of you talking, even if it's just about the food you're making
Step 4. Make sure you ask her out alone
Shy girls usually feel intimidated by large groups. While it may sound fun to go out with all your friends and watch football in a large group, he will feel like he is having a bad dream. Try to make time to be alone.
Of course, some girls may be more comfortable on group dates and feel shy about being alone. Every girl is different. Talk to him and find out what he prefers and do what makes him feel more comfortable
Step 5. Let him choose his plan
Being shy doesn't mean he doesn't have his own opinion. When you're on a date, give him the opportunity to choose his activities. This will make him feel comfortable and confident so that he feels comfortable when he is with you. Give him a chance to open up.
However, don't be afraid to make decisions either. Some shy girls may often say "I don't know" in response when you ask them what they want to do. Plan if he doesn't have a plan
Part 3 of 3: Keeping Shy Girls Happy
Step 1. Praise him
Shy girls are usually (but not always) insecure. But even if he doesn't, complimenting him is a good thing to make him feel comfortable and loved. Keep the compliment as simple and sincere as possible to make him feel more confident around you. If he feels that way, he will be more open and less shy in some situations.
Don't overdo it, keep compliments simple, and compliment things he can control, not abstract things like he seems. “Your eyes are beautiful” might be a good compliment, but “I love your hairstyle” is better because he did the hair. You praise the choice, not the appearance
Step 2. Give him some alone time
Shy or introverted girls sometimes need some alone time, and don't want to spend hours chatting with you via text or Facebook. That's okay. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you, or that he's going to break up with you. That means he is being himself. Relax and move at his pace.
- If you call or text and leave a message, don't try to contact him again until he responds. You left a message. He will accept it.
- Let him decide what to share on social networks about your relationship. Don't post too many photos and updates about what the two of you are doing, unless he wants to. Shy people may want to be more reserved than you are used to.
Step 3. Don't force the chat
The secret to dating shy girls? Talk less. Sometimes, shy girls want to be quiet. It is okay. Know when to step back and be still. He will be more open and start talking when he is ready.
- Enjoy time together. If things get quiet because the two of you have nothing to talk about, enjoy the silence together. You don't have to keep talking. He may become annoyed with you.
- Don't ask him when he's embarrassed. Sometimes other people will question this when they are feeling awkward. Highlighting this issue will only make it worse. There's no point in answering this question, and it will only keep you away from it.
Step 4. Ask questions
If you're having trouble getting the girl to open up and talk more, it's probably because you're not talking in the right way. Ask genuine, specific, and open-ended questions to make him feel comfortable and open up to you. Listen to the answers and follow up with more questions. This method also allows you to get to know him better.
- Encourage the girl to talk more by asking follow-up questions. If he says he likes going to the lake, that's your chance to learn more. "When was the last time you were there? What do you usually do there?”
- Ask open-ended questions to give him a chance to talk more. Don't ask, "Did you like yesterday's soccer game?" because this question has only one answer. Instead, ask, "What did you think about yesterday's soccer game?"
Step 5. Give him a chance to talk
It is very important to be a good listener. If you're used to waiting your turn to talk, you'll have a hard time chatting with shy girls. Use your listening skills and give him the opportunity to open up and share his life with you.
Look him in the eye as he speaks. Nod and support him while he is talking. Keep cell phones and other distractions away. Give it all your attention
Step 6. Don't rush
Never rush him because you could lose him. Dating should be slow and let him choose the pace. Shy girls need to feel comfortable, relaxed, and free with someone they are dating. Let him choose when he is comfortable enough.
- If you want to kiss her, but you're not sure if it's appropriate or not, it's best to ask her first. "You look so beautiful tonight. I want to kiss you. Can?"
- Don't try to "cure" the girl. There's nothing wrong with being shy and introverted. If you want to change someone to date them, you shouldn't date them.
