Having feelings for a 12 year old boy at your school or church? If so, then take a look at this article and learn some tips for grabbing her attention, engaging her in conversation, and spending time with her! However, understand that love is a feeling that cannot be forced. This means, instead of "forcing" him to like you, try to show your positivity and your desire to get to know him better. That way, he will know that you are a fun person to be his friend, or even his life partner.
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Method 1 of 3: Get His Attention
Step 1. Make eye contact and smile at him
When in the same room as him, look him in the eyes and give him your best smile. Show that you are a friendly person, and that seeing him in his form can make you happy. However, don't overdo it, okay? If your behavior is not controlled, he will most likely see you as a strange person and be reluctant to get to know you further afterward. Therefore, it is enough to look him in the eye a few times in class, in the middle of a sports game, at a party, or at church. After he looks back at you, you can either look away with shy body language or keep staring at him.
Step 2. Wear attractive clothes
Choose your favorite clothes that can at least make you feel beautiful and comfortable when wearing them. Clothing that is less comfortable to wear, no matter how good it is, will only reduce your confidence when you meet him. Don't wear fashionable clothes just because other people do too. Chances are, he won't even notice how fashionable your clothes are, but your comfort will definitely catch his eye.
Step 3. Wear makeup that is not too heavy or flashy, if you wish
Experiment with hairstyles and makeup that you find appealing, but make sure they're not too much and stay in line with your comfort. Most importantly, always start the day by making sure your cleanliness is maintained, such as by bathing and shampooing, wearing deodorant, and brushing your teeth every day so that your body always smells good and clean.
- For example, you can let your hair down, tied in a ponytail, in a bun, or styled in whatever style you find attractive. If you want, you can even straighten or curl them!
- Put a little mascara on your lashes, then apply a little foundation or concealer if you need to cover up pimples or redness on your skin.
Step 4. Draw close to him
When you and he are in the same place, try standing or sitting next to him. If you want, you can even give her a light touch on her arm while you're chatting, or push her body when she's teasing you. At the same time, pay close attention to the signals he gives. Remember, some people feel uncomfortable when they feel their personal space is being violated, such as through personal touch. If he's giving you the same signal, don't worry, this response doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like you.
If you don't want to get too close or touch her, try imitating her body language. If he's crossing his arms across his chest, resting his head on his arm, or standing with his hands in his pants pockets while chatting with you, try to wait at least 20 seconds before doing the same or similar. In fact, this is an implicit way of showing how much you care and are attracted to him
Step 5. Encourage him to ask something
Observe the types of books he reads, the music he listens to, or the sports clubs he joins on social media. When you're around him, try reading the same book or wearing a picture of his favorite band to encourage him to start a conversation first.
Step 6. Write her a love letter
Put a sweet or silly sentence in the letter, then tuck the letter in his locker. If you want, you can even use a pseudonym or include a simple puzzle in each letter so he can guess the identity of the sender. If you don't want to sound too direct or serious, try starting your letter with a compliment or a light joke.
Method 2 of 3: Talk to Him
Step 1. Find out what you have in common with him
Ask questions about his family, hobbies, activities at school, his favorite movies, favorite books, or sports that interest him to find common ground with him. Once you've found them, use those similarities to initiate conversations with them, or even to invite them to do activities that you both share an interest in! For example, if you and your partner both like playing basketball, try saying, "There's a basketball hoop in my garage, you know. Let's play together sometime!"
Step 2. Show your intelligence
For example, you could try telling him new and interesting facts, helping him with assignments, or simply sharing what you know. Never downgrade your intelligence or play dumb just to get his attention!
Step 3. Be honest with him
Don't lie to him and answer all his questions honestly during the introduction process. Avoid the temptation to commit white lies, such as by claiming to like something just because he likes it. Remember, one day your lies will be exposed!
If he claims to like country music that you really don't like, there's no need to pretend that you do. However, try to keep the conversation going, such as by saying, “Cool! I prefer rock music, really, but I don't mind listening to other music, really. Which country musician do you like?”
Step 4. Listen to him
Watch him as he speaks and remember his words so you can bring them back to the next conversation. Listen carefully to his words and give your full attention to show that you really care about the things he has to say.
Step 5. Express your feelings clearly and clearly
If you're used to spending time with him, there's no need to procrastinate showing your feelings! For example, you could say, “You are a very interesting person, aren't you. Do you want to go alone sometime?" or "Actually all this time I didn't just think of you as a friend and wanted to ask you out, of course if you wanted to!"
Step 6. Don't be afraid to make fun of him or even make fun of him in the context of a joke
Tell a joke that doesn't run the risk of offending him, get him to joke around, or even get him to play arm wrestling! If you win, he will most likely be impressed by your strength. However, if you lose, there's no need to be sad because your defeat actually made him feel better!
Method 3 of 3: Spending Time With Him
Step 1. Invite him to do casual activities together
For example, tell him that you are going to do a certain activity with several other people, such as watching a movie at the cinema, partying, or attending a sporting event, then signal that he should join in too. If he accepts the invitation, surely you and him can interact more freely and without pressure.
Invite one or more of his friends to chat, then invite them to do an activity together. That way, you can more easily invite the man of your dreams to do the same activity, especially because his friends also participate in it
Step 2. Meet him after school
In particular, approach him just before leaving class, if you are classmates, or chat him up in the school hallways if you can only pass each other between class changes.
Step 3. Take him to lunch together
Sit next to him or at the same table with him during break time. Trust me, this is one of the easiest and most casual ways to spend time with the boy of your dreams during school hours.
Step 4. Participate in activities she enjoys
For example, attend a sports game that he watches or that involves him as a player, join his community, or go to places he and his friends frequent, such as arcades, bowling alleys, or malls. When you run into him, make eye contact and be brave enough to talk to him.
Step 5. Make friends with his friends
Get closer to his friends to show that you are a fun person to work with. On that occasion, surely you will have the opportunity to spend more time with him, as well as to get to know him more deeply than those closest to him.
Step 6. Ask her out on a date
Are you ready to change your love life? Try asking her out! In particular, invite him to do casual activities, such as cycling together after school, or more formal and traditional activities, such as watching a movie at the cinema and then having dinner together afterwards. Most importantly, choose activities that are comfortable for you, and allow you and the guy you like to get to know each other better.
If you want, you can even spontaneously ask her out on a date by saying, “I want some ice cream. Come on, buy ice cream together!”
Tips
- Every man has different interests or interests. So there's no need to try too hard to put on special makeup or outfits, especially since most teenage boys won't notice either. Instead, focus on showing your kindness and sincerity when talking to him, as well as listening to his story.
- Be patient. Boys who have just entered puberty often feel embarrassed to date or be close to girls for fear of being ridiculed by their friends. That's why, he may not fully show his feelings for you. However, who knows everything will change when he turns 13, right?
Warning
- Don't despair if your date doesn't get a good response from him. Chances are, he's just not ready to date or feels like he needs more time to get to know you. Believe me, you are a special person, with or without male assistance!
- Don't change your appearance or personality just to attract the attention of boys, whoever they are. Excessive effort can actually make the man of your dreams withdraw, or even like a fake version of yourself.
